Regardless of the benefits of breast milk, at a certain point, no matter how reluctant you are to part with it, you need to wean. In our previous generation, the most commonly used weaning method was direct weaning, which means weaning is done immediately, and the baby is separated from the mother until the baby no longer looks for milk.
Seriously, this method of weaning is cruel. For the baby, suddenly leaving the mother who can provide the most sense of security, and losing his favorite food, he fell into a state of anxiety and fear. For the mother, the baby's cry is like a sharp knife, stabbing into the heart again and again. In addition to the pain in the heart, the chest is also swollen and painful. It is a lose-lose method.
Dabao chose this method when he was weaned, and even now the lazy mother still regrets it. At that time, Dabao was just over eight months old, and the lazy mother had already gone back to work. She took the baby to bed at night and only had one milk meal at night.
When weaning, Dabao slept with his grandma, and the lazy mother could only hide in the room after get off work. Whenever she heard the baby crying heartbrokenly because she couldn't find her mother, the lazy mother would I felt particularly distressed because the baby kept crying until he was tired and fell asleep. Even when he fell asleep, there were still tears on his face.
Lazy mothers also have trouble sleeping all night. If they want to see the baby, they can only take a few secret glances after the baby falls asleep, and they are also afraid that the baby will wake up suddenly. At the same time, you have to bear the pain caused by weaning.
When Erbao was weaned, she resolutely stopped using this method. At that time, my mother-in-law came up with various ideas, such as applying some chili water, some carminative oil, and some Bitter melon and even tying a handful of hair were all rejected one by one. Which method of weaning is the most scientific?
It would be best if the baby can eat and be weaned naturally. However, not every baby has that condition. If the mother cannot wait until that time, the mother needs to wean the baby in advance. Weaning is not It's so scary, it just needs to be gentle so that both mother and baby can accept it.
To achieve gentle weaning, it is a step-by-step process. Naturally, it cannot be solved in five or seven days, but the good thing is that it will not cause any harm to the baby or the mother. What is the best way to wean?
1. Greet the baby in advance
If the mother plans to wean the baby, it is best to start greeting the baby 1-2 months in advance so that the baby can be mentally prepared. If your baby is over one year old, you can take some picture books about weaning off breast milk and read them together to let your baby know that such a thing exists.
2. Let the family start taking care of the baby more
The closer it is to the scheduled weaning time, the mother should try to let the baby play with other family members as much as possible. If the baby sleeps with the mother, wait until the baby falls asleep before letting the baby sleep with the father to reduce the baby's attachment to the mother.
3. Start to reduce the number of feedings
When it is scheduled to start weaning, the mother will slowly reduce the number of feedings. The original three meals a day will be changed to two meals a day. That time I used milk powder instead.
If the baby still has the habit of drinking night milk, the mother should try not to sleep with the baby. Especially during the period when the baby wants to drink night milk, the smell of the mother's milk will irritate the baby. of.
4. Accompany the baby to play outdoors more
During the period when weaning begins, family members can help take care of the baby. If the mother takes care of the baby herself, then try to take care of the baby as much as possible. Go to the place where the baby likes to play to distract the baby. If the baby is tired from playing, he will sleep better at night.
5. The mother returns the milk
Having said that it is the mother’s turn for the baby, if she has already started to wean the baby, then the mother should pay attention to her diet recently to prevent her milk supply from increasing. Too much, otherwise it will be very painful when breast milk is engorged.
When weaning, mothers should try not to drink soups and water and foods that can stimulate lactation. Instead, they can eat more foods that can restore lactation, such as hawthorn and malt.
If the engorgement is painful, you can express some of the milk. Don't express too much, as long as it doesn't feel so painful. Otherwise, the milk will continue to come.
This weaning method requires a process and may take some time, but it is more beneficial to the baby and the mother. If you don’t want the baby to cry heartbreakingly, it is recommended that the mother can use it.
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