If the way of providing for the aged is properly chosen and implemented, there is no need to make children suffer or trouble their own children.

First, realize home-based care for the aged in the place you are most familiar with.

If you have another wife in your old nest, it not only shows that it is the standard of your old age, but also shows that it is the perfect match for your old age. Of course, the premise is that you need to get along with your wife, and you can get along. Both sides are paying for each other and reaping each other's gains. Presumably, no one is more considerate, convenient and considerate than his wife, and even if he is sick, he will relieve the pain. Since you have a wife to escort you in your old age, you don't have to bother your children as always. Children should take care of their families and their jobs. Helping each other to spend their old age is the most ideal mode of providing for the aged.

Second, money is indispensable for providing for the aged. The more money you prepare, the better.

Don't wait for money to be used to hate it. If you have money, you can have the strength to carefully select high-end nursing homes, and you will never be selected by nursing homes. As a result, the old-age environment can be controlled. Specific to people of all ages, having money at different ages will make different living environments rise. Since money is the main material foundation, pension can also be regarded as a superstructure. Children are not the main force of providing for the aged, they just need to take care of them. You can visit nursing homes more when you have more time, and less when you have less time. Presumably, with children coming forward, high-end nursing homes will be afraid, which is even more powerful for the elderly. Children exist, and form is greater than meaning.

Third, to some extent, community pension can spend less money and achieve a higher level of pension.

Community pension is a disguised form of group pension, and all kinds of services needed by life can be purchased by groups. Whether it is a collective canteen run by the community or a nanny hired by the community, the community can check and supervise in the specific implementation process and realize the survival of the fittest according to the specific service level. In addition, the community can organize activities regularly and regularly, or visit the elderly who have been unwell or bedridden for many years recently. In this way, children are only a supplement to providing for the aged, and the community creates diversified ways of providing for the aged under various circumstances. On the basis of realizing providing for the aged at home, great things can be done through collective strength.

When the elderly are in urgent need of their children's contribution, children often reach middle age, and it is inevitable that their children will be overwhelmed. The more considerate they are to their parents, the more they will try to avoid bothering their children when they support the elderly.