Welcome to Teacher Zhu's class, the lecturer of Boxing Education 18. Here is Teacher Zhu's 1617th good morning greetings.

The best gift we can give a child is to slowly withdraw from his space and his life.

Before the child is 12 years old, there are five important moments, so parents should learn to quit in time.

Quitting the dining table at the age of p>1.3

When I was a child, we often complained that there was a kind of hunger, because your mother thought you were hungry.

Children who are often fed are not only difficult to eat independently, but also dependent on adults. Without feeding, they don't know whether to eat, what to eat and how much to eat.

There was a girl who was fed since she was a child, so she ate more and more, but it seemed that she was not satisfied. When she grows up, as long as there is food around her, she can't help stuffing it into her mouth.

this is a typical "slow internal perception".

If a child opens his mouth when eating, adults will shove food over him, and the child will lose the opportunity to judge. Over time, the ability to perceive hunger and fullness will become dull.

Eating is a child's own business. Please give him back this "right". Children can be guided to eat by hand from the age of 1, exercise and use simple tableware at the age of 2, and can eat independently at the age of 3. Please ask parents to quit slowly.

Quit the bedroom at the age of 2.5

There is a 29-year-old man in Guangzhou who has to sleep with his mother every night, otherwise he will go to trouble sleeping and take sleeping pills every time he goes on a business trip.

He knows this habit is bad, but he just can't get rid of it, which makes him feel very inferior and has been afraid to have a girlfriend.

It turns out that when he was a child, his family was in poor conditions, and he always shared a bed with his parents until he was in his teens.

But it's too late. He can't sleep alone from now on. He has to have his mother around to be practical.

If children sleep in separate rooms too late, they will have dependence on their parents, poor independence and emotional fragility, which will affect their mental health.

According to the statistics of psychologists, 5 years old is the most suitable age for children to sleep in separate rooms, because 5-year-old children have relatively mature minds and developed sexual psychology.

Of course, each child's situation is different, and the age of sleeping in separate rooms cannot be uniform. Generally speaking, parents can slowly try to sleep in separate rooms with their children after they are 3 years old, and completely quit their children's bedrooms when they are 5-6 years old.

Moreover, it is a process for children to sleep in separate rooms. If children feel insecure and resist the separation of rooms, they can separate beds first, then separate rooms, and then finish it step by step.

quit the bathroom at the age of p>3.6.

After the child is 6 years old, it is really no longer suitable for him to take a bath with the opposite sex, whether it is a bath or to help him.

-6 years old is the most critical time for children's sex education.

before the age of 3, the parent-child bath is very warm, and parents in Europe, America and Japan will choose this way for sex education. After the girl is 3 years old, her father is no longer suitable to help her bathe, and the boy can ask his mother to help him bathe until he is 5-6 years old.

However, no matter whether boys or girls take a bath together after the age of 6, some children will feel awkward, strange and embarrassed. At this time, parents should take the initiative to quit the bathroom, respect their children's privacy and sense of physical boundaries, and let them learn to take a bath independently on the premise of ensuring safety.

4.7 years old leaves the children's private space

Studies show that 7 years old is the age when children like to be alone.

from the age of 7, parents should leave their children's private rooms.

Parents don't break into their children's rooms without authorization, which will give them a sense of control over the physical space, which will extend to the psychological space and protect their self-awareness.

knocking at the door, a seemingly simple action, is actually a respect for children's privacy, and this sense of boundaries will make children feel at ease.

A respected child can learn to respect himself and others.

Quit the kitchen at the age of p>5.12

"It's hard to imagine that children who can only read, but can't even fry eggs and boil eggs, will know how to do experiments.

I can't believe this sentence was said by Steven Chu, winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics. A schoolmaster should have such a high opinion of his children's cooking.

Not only he, but also his two brothers, both of whom graduated from famous American universities with doctorates.

Many people are curious about how their children are educated in their families.

One of the secrets of Mother Zhu is:

Every child must learn to cook and do housework from an early age.

Chu Di-wen said: Doing experiments is just like cooking. Using the limited food in the refrigerator to make unlimited food can train a person's concentration and problem-solving ability.

children can do some housework within their power from the age of two or three.

At the age of p>12, the child's safety awareness, understanding ability and hands-on ability have all developed completely. At this time, the mother might as well quit the kitchen and have a rest, so that the child can learn to cook simple meals.

The child will grow up, and we have to let go and quit his life after all.

at the age of 3, children can learn to eat only when you quit the table;

at the age of 5, when you leave the bedroom, the child learns to embrace the night;

at the age of 6, you quit the bathroom, and the child knows the boundaries of the body;

at the age of 8, when you leave the room, your child knows how to respect privacy;

at the age of p>12, you quit the kitchen, and the children learn to live independently.

A child who can eat well, sleep well, and respect himself and others is optimistic, confident and full of energy. He will be popular wherever he goes and will survive any difficulties.