After reading this sentence, I couldn't help but burst into tears, feeling sad for Niu Niu's misfortune, and even more sad for Zhou, a father. Niu Niu-a girl with malignant fundus tumor, a little life that only lived 18 months.
But in this short 18 months, she has experienced the vicissitudes of the world and the warmth and coldness of human feelings. As a father, Zhou raised this little life with his unique fatherly love, recorded the details of his day and night with Niu Niu 18 months with his sensitive mind, and watered a tearful work-Niu Niu-A Father's Notes with sweat and painstaking efforts.
In the article, the author recorded Niu Niu's whole life course from delivery room to grave with meticulous brushwork. From every sentence in the article, we can clearly understand how meticulous the father loves his daughter. He can clearly remember that the first word Niu Niu said was "dad", the first non-overlapping disyllabic word Niu Niu said was music, and Niu Niu used the negative word "no" for the first time when she was just one year old. He remembered Niu Niu's words more carefully: "Niu Niu! Good dad, do something and think quickly; Go outside, don't go outside ... "A man is careless, but how careful he will become when he plays the role of father.
I always think that the family happiness between Zhou Guoping and Niu Niu can last forever, and I always hope that the father and daughter can be happy forever. However, the good times did not last long, and Niu Niu, who struggled for 18 months, finally passed away.
At this moment, Zhou Xiangtian, who can no longer bear the pain of losing her daughter, issued such a complaint and cry: "Who can tell me why the world is still there, and I am still there, but you are not ..." The greatest pain in life is that white-haired people send black-haired people. In addition, the author also sent his daughter Niu Niu, A Niu Niu Niu, who only lived for 18 months, and A Niu Niu Niu, who withered prematurely before flower of life bloomed! How can the author not feel sad when he watches his own flesh and blood leave him? It is not enough to mourn the death of the Sri Lankan, because grief can no longer call back the girl who was tortured to death by illness, because grief can no longer heal the author's tortured heart.
What does the author want to do most at this moment? He hopes that Niu Niu will live in his heart forever and in the memory of millions of readers in Qian Qian. He remembers that Niu Niu often picked up a book and shouted: This is Niu Niu's book. He wants Niu Niu to really have a book of her own, a book that she is proud of.
So more than a year after Niu Niu's death, he shut himself in his room, and with a deep heart and a father's infinite yearning for his daughter, he wrote this book, Niu Niu-A Father's Note, which touched hundreds of millions of readers. At the end of this work, Zhou wrote with deep affection: other people's children will become lovers, wives and mothers in the future ... and Niu Niu, she is just a daughter-a daughter forever.
When I read this, I could not help crying again. Yes, A Niu Cattle, who only lived for 18 months, and A Niu Cattle, who only played the role of a daughter, were so pitiful that she died quietly before she experienced this world.
But she lived in her father's heart forever, and also in the hearts of millions of readers in Qian Qian. She is the eternal Niu Niu in her parents' hearts and the spotless daughter in others' eyes.
2. Qiu Zhou is used urgently in Niu Niu's reading notes or reports 1. After reading Zhou's Niu Niu-A Father's Notes, I was deeply touched.
Niu Niu was terminally ill at birth and only lived to one and a half years old. The author recorded his feelings in those days very truly: the joy when Niu Niu was born, the despair when she grew up and knew that Niu Niu would die soon, and the sadness when Niu Niu died. In the book, the author also expresses his doubts about life and his thoughts on death.
Niu Niu doesn't have that kind of great sadness and pain. It tells the story in a simple way, without exaggeration or flattery. Its bitterness and laughter are direct, and its respect and love for life are awesome. This is not only a book in which an unfortunate father mourns the untimely death of his daughter, but also a book to celebrate, commemorate and reflect on life.
I was particularly moved by the details of Niu Niu's growth. From every pronunciation, every word, every word, every movement and other details I learned from Niu Niu, I seem to see my own growth process and the scene when I have children in the future. Another detail in the article also deeply touched me. I thought the author and his wife (Yu Er) would have a deeper relationship after going through hardships together, but I didn't expect them to divorce.
The author also said in the article, "According to some statistics, the divorce rate of childless couples is higher than 50%. Suffering is not necessarily a bond, but sometimes it is also a poison and an obstacle.
The so-called common pain is actually superficial, and everyone's inner pain is unique, which can not only be shared, but also difficult to convey. Expect the other party to share, and if it fails, the expectation will turn into resentment. "
This is the first time I have heard this conclusion. I have heard many people say that we can share joys and sorrows, but we can't share wealth together. I think we should know how to cherish after suffering. The author's questioning about the gains and losses of life is also worth thinking about.
A baby died at birth. What did he lose, or did he lose the longevity he deserved? An old man passed away. Did he lose the longevity he once enjoyed, or did he have nothing? Is death the end of life or the beginning of another life? 2. Compared with other books of Zhou, Niu Niu's father's reading notes are full of affection and warmth. In the book, a father recorded his daughter's life in this world for 18 months but suffering from cancer with love and affection, including her smile, her joy and anger, her extraordinary intelligence, her ignorance and fearlessness in the face of illness, her warm and plump little body that smells like milk, her little figure that was finally tortured by illness and dull, her joy of staying in the world and her pain of taking it to heaven.
As a philosopher, Zhou naturally joined his thoughts on life, life and death and human nature in that particular period. However, no philosophy, religion or belief can save suffering, and we can only live in the present.
At that time, Zhou could only be a mediocre father, not an outstanding philosopher. His reason is simple: "I love my daughter more than any philosophy."
No philosophy can make me love my heart so much as this exquisite little life. As long as my daughter can live, let any philosophy die. "
Finally, Niu Niu inevitably passed away. And her parents, after experiencing such a great pain of losing their daughter together, went their separate ways in the future.
In the new edition of this book, Zhou once again has a lovely, smart and healthy daughter like Niu Niu, which is not compensation for his loss of her daughter. He admitted: "Niu Niu is still irreplaceable. My daughter now can't, shouldn't and has no right to ask her to be a substitute." "The arrival of a new life is an independent event in my life and has nothing to do with my past experience."
When he once again enjoyed being a father, he still sighed for Niu Niu in the deepest part of his heart. Explore the significance of this book. In the United States, it is called an important work of China's medical humanities. If it can promote people to reflect on the inhuman situation of today's medicine, it is naturally a good thing, but this is by no means the author's intention.
It is just a father's promise and nostalgia for his dead daughter-writing a book about Niu Niu, using words to retain the happiness brought by Niu Niu before her death, and using words to soothe the grief of Niu Niu's departure, so as to get peace. In my imagination, Zhou is a lonely person.
He said, "If you long for love, you will be lonely." However, he still chose love, love this hot world, love the people and things in this world.
His wisdom is different from that of the Buddha. "The wisdom of the Buddha is to abandon love as the root of pain and stifle the will of life. His wisdom lies in accepting that pain is the inevitable result of love and turning it into the wealth of life. "
His love ignored the guidance of the Buddha. In the book Niu Niu, I further found that Zhou is a compassionate person.
There is such a detail in the article that his friend carefully avoided his misfortune. Zhou felt his friend's thoughtfulness and embarrassment.
One day, he invited them home. "Don't say anything, or just say something."
He said to his friend with a smile. They were silent for a while, and then gradually became active, talking about various topics that they usually care about.
After his friend left, Zhou felt relaxed. He finally silently took all the misfortunes shared by his friends for himself.
Being able to perceive and do this requires not only a cool head but also a gentle nature. Therefore, Zhou's philosophy has the temperature of humanity.
3. Reading Notes and Appreciation A father is guarding his doomed child. Although this scene is unusual, it is heartbreaking. Whether we like it or not, there is such a thing as despair in the world! Niu Niu was diagnosed with a terminal illness shortly after her birth, and spent a short period of one and a half years in this terminal illness. In Niu Niu: A Father's Notes, Zhou wrote down the loveliness and pity of his daughter Niu Niu. He and his wife raised their daughter in the shadow of death, and they thought in the cradle and beside the grave. For the author and his wife, Niu Niu's story is the most beautiful and tragic story in their lives. One-and-a-half-year-old Niu Niu shook her little hand, sighed lightly, stopped breathing and left this world. The most affectionate Zhou accompanied Niu Niu for 562 days and nights with his pen, leaving a piece of paper full of coldness and tenderness.
This is not a book, but a grave built by a father with emotional bricks! Zhou is a philosopher and a father who loves children more than any philosophy. Even as long as his children are still alive, any philosophy will die.
Someone once asked Zhou, since Niu Niu was doomed to die, why did you pour too much love into her, and why did you make yourself unable to leave home in the future? Mr. Zhou said, "Love is not afraid of futility." This sentence is deeply imprinted on my mind. Yes, the warmth in my heart and the fierce collision in my brain prove that this process of loving and being loved is really not in vain. If you have time, let's go to Niu Niu together and "it's like dying once, but we live the truest life"! As a father, Zhou taught us to cherish family and life; As a philosopher, Zhou inspired us to face up to the suffering of life and discover the value and significance of life.
The whole book hurts after reading it. This is a sad story. I seem to see that I wasted my life and neglected it. There are bitter and sweet things in life. As long as you are alive, it is a kind of happiness and a gift. Instead of complaining, feel its happiness. Cherish every day, cherish all affection, friendship and love, just love, don't care too much about return, just love. Here I sincerely wish those who love me, the people I love, the people I know and the people I don't know can be happy.
In this world, it is the instinct of parents to respect and cherish life. If you are not a parent, please don't desecrate this book and defile this pure family relationship. Now I also want to say that each of us is a girl, and nothing in this world can cut off parents' concern for their children, even death. We live healthily and happily, which gives our parents the greatest happiness and gift. We are all Niu Niu, so we must live well for our parents!
4. Zhou classic sentence 1. I don't expect any philosophy to save me from my pain. I only hope that there is a philosophy that can save me from being destroyed by pain.
2. The soul can only walk alone
It is a tragedy to be born in dust and return to dust!
However, if you really understand that life lies in the process of appreciating pain and happiness itself, it is not a tragedy, on the contrary, there is only happiness!
4. Happy years are lost years.
5, in a quiet position, go to see the lively world, go to see the infinitely vast world behind the excitement, which may be the most suitable way for my temperament.
6. Language is the safe of feelings. With the passage of time, when the aging of the mind prevents you from having fresh feelings from time to time, when the aging of the mind makes you forget the fresh feelings you once had, you don't have to be sad. Open your safe, and you will find that people who are diligent in writing for themselves will not be too sad in their later years, because your words-that is, you who will not age-are with you, and he is better than you.
7. All noble feelings are ashamed to express.
All profound experiences are inarticulate.
8. Anyone who really loves books must have experienced that clear mental state. In the dead of night, a person sits under the lamp, spreads out a favorite book, and gradually feels that the hubbub is far away, and all other thoughts have disappeared, forgetting himself and gaining himself.
9. "There are too many irreversible things in life. Now that I am alive, I must move on. People who have experienced great suffering have the right to prove that creating happiness and suffering belong to the same ability. " little girl
10, there are two kinds of self-confidence: one is independence in personality, contempt for secular public opinion and utility; One is the arrogance of intellectuals, who are always self-righteous and feel good about themselves. I admire the former's confidence, but I always treat the latter's confidence with some distrust.
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1 1, everything belongs to one, and where does one belong?
12, walk side by side in the dark!
The pursuit that can be stopped by failure is a weak pursuit, which exposes the limitation of strength. The pursuit that can be successfully stopped is a shallow pursuit, which proves the limitation of the goal.
Saints are radical idealists, while wise men are moderate idealists.
Incompleteness makes many things look great and perfect. Include not only literary works, but also marriage and love. If many things stop chasing, they lose their meaning and their charm disappears.
Don't try to get others' understanding, and don't try to fully understand others. This is impossible and disrespectful. In my opinion, the latter seems to regard each other as the research object. So it is better to give others trust while keeping a certain distance. Wouldn't it be easier for both sides?
Unfinished is the normal state of life and a positive attitude ... Of course, if a person faces death with an unfinished attitude, he will feel abrupt and wronged, and even die unsatisfied. However, as long as we realize that things in life will never be completed, and that life will never be completed no matter when death comes, then we will reach a settlement with death at any stage of life and keep a detached attitude while actively entering.
Silence is the last dignity of the desperate. Silence is the highest contempt for the Avengers.
We can call this dizziness a weak self-ecstasy. When a person feels weak, he decides that he would rather give in than be strong, that is, he is intoxicated by this weakness, and even hopes to become weaker, to fall in public, and to fall again after falling.
As Tolstoy said, in communication, people face some people, while in solitude, people face the whole and the source of everything.
I even believe that the moment when people are closest to God is not when God shows people miracles, but when people realize that there are no miracles in the world but are still surprised at the beauty of the world.
There are two kinds of inferiority complex. One is the inferiority complex when facing God. Such people have infinite awe and humility, know the limitations of all human achievements, and will not get carried away or be arrogant under any circumstances. The other is to face the inferiority of others. This kind of person cares about comparing with others in intelligence, ability, achievement or anything he values, worships the strong and despises the weak accordingly, so inferiority can easily turn into arrogance.
5. Philosophical sentences in Zhou's prose: 1. The greatness in the sense of human nature is worldwide and will surely win the respect of people of all countries.
2. Perhaps, it is difficult for people to really change. The kernel has already been formed, but it presents different forms in different scenarios. The change of scene proves the robustness of the kernel.
I heard a debate: which is more important, personality or intelligence? The two sides hold their own words and argue the same. On the one hand, personality is very important, because intelligence can be cultivated, but personality is difficult to change. On the other hand, intelligence is very important, because personality can be cultivated, but intelligence is difficult to change.
4. Under any autocratic system, the harsh moral court must prevail, and its duty is to judge human nature as evil in the name of morality. In fact, according to this standard, everyone is guilty, at least a potential sinner. However, perhaps because of this, moral judgment can arouse crazy enthusiasm more.
5. Pride and humility are not necessarily antonyms.
No matter how the computer is upgraded, I just use it to write, and many of its functions have not been developed. Isn't this our life?
7. If a person knows enough about human nature, he will become profound and tolerant when he looks at people, including his own eyes. Under this vision, all privacy can be reduced to a universal human phenomenon, and all personal experiences can be transformed into spiritual wealth.
8. Man is a perceptual animal and a rational animal, both of which are indispensable.
9. Everyone's strengths and weaknesses are two sides of a coin, depending on which side you turn. In other words, as far as everyone's potential is concerned, it doesn't matter whether it is short or long. Short or long is the result of application. Good use is a strength, but bad use becomes a weakness.
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6. "Niu Niu-A Father's Notes" After reading Zhou's "Niu Niu-A Father's Notes", I was filled with emotion.
Niu Niu was terminally ill at birth and only lived to one and a half years old. The author recorded his feelings in those days very truly: the joy when Niu Niu was born, the despair when she grew up and knew that Niu Niu would die soon, and the sadness when Niu Niu died. In the book, the author also expresses his doubts about life and his thoughts on death.
Niu Niu doesn't have that kind of great sadness and pain. It tells the story in a simple way, without exaggeration or flattery. Its bitterness and laughter are direct, and its respect and love for life are awesome. This is not only a book in which an unfortunate father mourns the untimely death of his daughter, but also a book to celebrate, commemorate and reflect on life.
I was particularly moved by the details of Niu Niu's growth. From every pronunciation, every word, every word, every movement and other details I learned from Niu Niu, I seem to see my own growth process and the scene when I have children in the future. Another detail in the article also deeply touched me. I thought the author and his wife (Yu Er) would have a deeper relationship after going through hardships together, but I didn't expect them to divorce.
The author also said in the article, "According to some statistics, the divorce rate of childless couples is higher than 50%. Suffering is not necessarily a bond, but sometimes it is also a poison and an obstacle.
The so-called common pain is actually superficial, and everyone's inner pain is unique, which can not only be shared, but also difficult to convey. Expect the other party to share, and if it fails, the expectation will turn into resentment. "
This is the first time I have heard this conclusion. I have heard many people say that we can share joys and sorrows, but we can't share wealth together. I think we should know how to cherish after suffering. The author's questioning about the gains and losses of life is also worth thinking about.
A baby died at birth. What did he lose, or did he lose the longevity he deserved? An old man passed away. Did he lose the longevity he once enjoyed, or did he have nothing? Is death the end of life or the beginning of another life? .
7. Bernard Shaw said, "There are two tragedies in life. One is not getting what you love, and the other is getting what you love." However, after careful consideration, it is found that the foothold of this statement is possession, so there will be two tragedies: the unsatisfied pain of possession and the boredom of satisfaction. If we shift our foothold to creation and look at life from an aesthetic point of view, can't we say that there are two great pleasures in life: one is that you don't get what you love, so you can seek and create; The other is to get what you like so that you can taste and experience it?
We are absent-minded and careless, and feel that nothing is interesting to do, not because we are tired, but because we have energy, but only because there is no way out. Not see through, but because we have desire, but nothing.
Don't try to get others' understanding, and don't try to fully understand others. This is impossible and disrespectful. In my opinion, the latter seems to regard each other as the research object. So it is better to give others trust while keeping a certain distance. Wouldn't it be easier for both sides?
Persistence, like pessimism, is far from wisdom. The danger of pessimism is an attitude of refusing to live, while the danger of persistence is an attitude of possession. But life cannot be possessed. . . We would rather ponder it with a leisurely temperament, rather than let the overly eager pursuit and gains and losses occupy us, so that we no longer have a thoughtful mood.
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In hot summer, I sit on the floor, let the cold ground stick to my thigh, relax, open my book and read quietly. When the pages turned, I finally couldn't help crying. Poor and lovely little life, tortured by illness, left the world she was attached to with a low sigh. After reading it, I deeply sympathize with this clever and ill-fated little life. I also have respect and curiosity for the author, that is, Niu Niu's father. What kind of spirit supported him, so that when he witnessed his daughter's pain and heartache, he truly described every detail of Niu Niu's illness, and why he and his lover were interdependent after Niu Niu left, but they were heartbroken. They lived in other places and eventually divorced. With such doubts, I reread Zhou's philosophical works. It is still a very thick book, full of philosophy of life and sharp words. Only then did I know that he was eating the bowl of philosophy and wrote a distinctive style with such a professional background. His article is short, concise and vaguely reasonable, which shocked or touched me and made me think about life. For example, he said: young people go to live together, and at most they are like-minded. When old people die together, they really depend on each other. Yes, the elderly give each other gentle but necessary help, and walk through the storm together, heading for busy streets and quiet fields. Until one person leaves first, the other person will never be sad and try to die, just pack his luggage calmly and be ready to die at any time, because he (she) is already waiting. He also told us that people are what they eat. At least as far as spiritual food is concerned, this sentence is correct. A person's spiritual taste can be roughly judged from his reading materials. A person who has a heart-to-heart dialogue with ancient and modern philosophers and writers in reading and meditation is of course completely different from a person who only reads anecdotes about stars and murder stories. Even they live in a completely different external environment. So, on the road, on the train and on the plane, I saw people holding all kinds of tabloids and colorful publications, and I felt sorry for them. He also said: in this world, if a person values feelings, he will inevitably be weak, and if he pursues perfection, he will inevitably have regrets. Perhaps, if we tolerate our weakness, we can stick to it; Only by accepting this regret in life can we be calm. It was because of his words that I forgave my weakness. It's not wrong to like crying, but reasonable. I accepted my regret. There is no shame in not being able to work and live like a normal person, so I don't have to hide it. There is something like "many books just look like books." However, you don't have to be angry if you think about it: many people are just appearances. "In this case, I can't help applauding and laughing at many people and things that I can't let go. It is precisely because of Zhou's eloquent words that I have been freed, and I have been enlightened, accepted, tolerated, calmed down and regained my happiness. I understood him, and all my previous curiosity and doubts about him disappeared. He said: My daughter is going to die soon. Then, before long, her parents will also die. With the passage of time and the replacement of generations, one day, my small family and I who are suffering from disasters will disappear into the world without leaving any trace. It's that simple. I was shocked by its simplicity. When I was shocked, I pulled myself out and became a bystander. For the suffering of life, but also on the sidelines. As long as there is a gap in pain and the final outcome is not imminent, it is impossible for the victim to grieve blindly. However, in the eyes of onlookers, suffering is always directly presented, and it is the first sight. In May, I learned from the news that he participated in a TV humanistic action, which was to take the road of Xuanzang again. I can't help being proud of him, and I expect him to understand more people with words infected with Buddhism. Zhou, have a good trip!
8. Niu Niu's feelings after reading 35 articles with 400 words.
When my friend lent me this book, he said, "This is a book that will make you cry." I read this book with curiosity. Reading this book makes me very sad and sad. Zhou, a philosophical essayist, is a great father. He can give up everything for the sake of his children.
In this book, Zhou wrote about Niu Niu's loveliness and pity. When I read Niu Niu's Dictionary, I really think how smart Niu Niu is. She knew many words and listened to music when she was very young. God, why is it so unfair! It is a great blow to parents that young children have fundus tumors or malignant tumors. The most sacred thing in the world is parents, but if you finish reading this book, I believe you will make great changes, even for me. I am a girl who chats more with her mother than with her father. Yes, "Father loves mountains and mother love the water."
After reading this book, in retrospect, I really think my father is very kind to me. Students should remember that all parents in the world are the same, and children are the most important thing in their lives.