1. From the perspective of traditional cognition ① Men have the responsibility to carry on the family line. Although the concept of carrying on the family line should be abandoned by modern society, we have to admit that most people still retain this traditional concept, and the pressure brought by this cognition

It always comes down to men.

Regardless of their education since childhood or their consciousness after growing up, many men still fundamentally believe that they need to continue their family lineage.

Xiaosheng: ② Men have poor living abilities. This is also a problem faced by men who grow up in traditional concepts.

Men are always taught to support their families, but few are taught to learn to live.

Why?

Because in the past, men never had to worry about housework. They didn't even have to take care of themselves. It was their wives who took care of them.

Therefore, many men do not have strong ability to take care of themselves. In their concepts and lives, they need the care of another person to live a better life.

2. From the perspective of the current social situation ① Too much pressure in life In this era of rapid development, the pressure in life is getting bigger and bigger.

As the saying goes, men and women work together without getting tired, and this is even more true in today's era.

Men, who have been indoctrinated by external perceptions and are expected to shoulder the pressure, are under greater pressure than women.

At this time, men may need another person's company more.

②The feeling of loneliness is too strong. This is a problem that exists for both men and women.

The more we live in a city with a fast pace of life, rapid development, and high work pressure, the stronger the feeling of loneliness becomes.

Especially at night when none of the lights belong to you, this feeling of loneliness cannot be filled by games, variety shows and delicious food.

Rather than wanting to get married, it’s more about wanting someone to warm each other.

Xiaosheng ③ Want a stable relationship In fact, from a certain perspective, men are more socially responsible and have family needs.

Judging from the life concepts created by the education they have received and their own thinking patterns, men may need a stable relationship, a stable partner and a family to fill the holes in their lives after they reach a certain age.

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Therefore they will have higher family needs.

Can you accept a second-married man? 2 When choosing a second-married man, you must first accept these three things about the other person, otherwise it will be difficult to be happy. 01. A man’s past. Accepting a second-married man is not just about accepting the fact that he has been married and divorced.

Instead, he must accept that he will be in contact with his ex-wife and children at any time. These contacts are not just as simple as chatting on the phone, but when his ex-wife and children are in need, the man will help him as a father and friend of his ex-wife.

This is very difficult for any woman to accept.

Why it is difficult to be sincere in second marriages is because everyone only considers problems from their own perspective, but never thinks that when accepting the other party, there are already these problems behind the other party.

I knew it at first, but why couldn't I accept it after getting married?

Everyone has different responsibilities. In addition to being responsible for his new wife, a second-married man also has other responsibilities to bear, such as the children of his previous marriage.

His income and property are not all enjoyed by his newly married wife alone. His children from his previous marriage also enjoy it. Even if they do not live together, the money expenditure will definitely not be less, including alimony.

In addition, there are some additional emotional investments, which are family ties that cannot be severed even by remarriage.

When a man chooses a second marriage, he must accept his past, the existence of his children from his previous marriage, and he will allocate time, energy and money to maintain this relationship. This is what people who choose a second marriage must face and accept.

And accept it unconditionally. Don't overestimate yourself and think that you can make a man give up this relationship. This is impossible. Besides, if a man really doesn't care about his children, do you think he is still worthy of trust?

02. A man’s present is a divorced man. He has children behind his back and an ex-wife. Many women are unwilling to see men again after becoming ex-wives, but there are also a very small number of ex-wives who will still do so after divorce.

As before, they ask men for help no matter what, and some ex-wives will even become the third party behind the man's current marriage.

Men have a special feeling for their ex-wives. As long as their ex-wives need his help, most men will do their best to help. Some men will compare their ex-wives with their current wives.

A divorced man will let his current wife understand how much he cared about his previous marriage. A man thinks that just because he is divorced, he is not an enemy, so there is no need to stay away from each other forever. Therefore, when his ex-wife needs help, regardless of whether the ex-wife has

If you ask, men will take the initiative to help.

When choosing a man for second marriage, you must first find out whether he and his ex-wife have become strangers, whether they have no contact with each other, and whether the contact is only because of their children. This is very important.

If a man has frequent contact and interaction with his ex-wife, he should be very cautious.

To accept a second-married man, you must accept his current situation, understand his responsibilities, and accept the fact that he may compare you with your ex-wife. You must be good enough and have corresponding means to truly win his heart.

, drive away the vague image of your ex-wife in his heart, and then you can be truly happy.

03. In the future, most men who remarry will be much older than their remarried wives. Judging from most examples around us, as long as the two parties are not married for the second time, the man is usually more than ten years older than the woman. This may be at least

age difference.