When pressure comes
This is a noisy world, an era of anxiety, a society where everyone is tired and tired of everything. Whether you admit it or not, everyone needs to see a psychologist to help reduce stress, although not necessarily. In fact, psychologists are not less stressed than we are, it’s just that they are good at reducing stress, resolving worries, and getting relief.
The ancients said that if a person has no long-term worries, he must have immediate worries. As long as everyone lives, they have to face life, survival, life, opportunities, temptations, choices, and of course pressure. Even if one eats to survive, what will happen to eat? How to eat? It’s about the content and quality of what you eat.
I am reminded of Hai Ping in "Snail House", a young woman with quite a petty bourgeois sentiment. She and Su Chun, who were not originally a poor couple, became miserable because of the high housing prices and mortgage loans in first-tier cities: they would never buy vegetables or eat meat before the weekend, and would only eat noodles with pickles every day. Occasionally, a meal of instant noodles would be an improvement. , this kind of pressure to save money and buy a house has accumulated to a certain extent. In addition to the trivial quarrels with her husband and the forced separation with her daughter, there is also an incident in Pepsi when Haizao bought the money Song gave her into clothes for her sister. , Haiping, who was eager to praise the beautiful clothes, blurted out: I like this pickle color! Rather than Qiu Xianglu as a literary youth. The stressful results directly affected Haiping's mental condition.
As a proverb goes: Some trivial matters disturb us and send us to the torture stand. You can sit on the top of a mountain, but you cannot sit on the tip of a needle. Therefore, modern people have to learn to face a new problem: how to reduce stress for themselves. When pressure becomes a part of life and you feel its existence all the time but cannot ignore it, the best way is to let pressure coexist with faith, pursue it persistently for faith, and let pressure become the driving force for progress. Instead of resistance, allow yourself to dominate and resolve stress rather than becoming a slave to it.
Crying aloud may not be suitable for everyone, and being calm and open-minded is not necessarily something everyone can achieve. Food is good, but you also have to have a good appetite. . So, some people choose to travel and enjoy the scenery, some choose yoga to relax, some like to listen to music, some like to do exercises, some are willing to talk, some are willing to reflect...
So, instead of reducing stress, , I admire people more who face difficulties and turn pressure into motivation! That kind of strong heart, strong thoughts, especially strong power of action and willpower are things that most people are unwilling and unable to achieve.
When Haiping realized that she could not get rich overnight, Su Chun would not be reincarnated, and Mark urgently needed to find a Chinese teacher, she resolutely chose to face the difficulties. One word I do! It’s both pressure and motivation! I picked up the long-dusted English book and started a three-point, one-line life of working at full speed, going to class, and sleeping. Walking on the road, sitting on the bus, washing your feet, brushing your teeth, memorizing words, translating words, taking classes, making money, as long as you can catch the last bus home, all the hardships and tiredness are nothing.
Looking back after passing by, the wind is gentle and the clouds are calm! It turns out that I am so capable, potential and charming! Happiness that overcomes stress is the real lasting aftertaste!
However, once this positive attitude appears in the form of thinking hard and blindly following the trend of "I want it better when it is good, I want it again when I have it, and I want to bear it again when I can't afford it" Sometimes, it will be replaced by another word, called "the desire is hard to fill." Therefore, Haiping's pressure is largely self-inflicted.
Psychology tells us: You can have pressure, but you can’t have depression! Pressure is blocking you. As long as you think about it, there must be a way to overcome it. Depression is like a whirlpool, it will wrap you up, unable to control yourself, and keep sinking. Therefore, Superman only exists in imaginary novels and fictional movies.
Everyone has their own limitations, recognize and admit their own limitations, and stop before reaching your own limits, look more broadly, be more open-minded, change your perspective, find another way, or simply unload the burden you cannot bear and look up. The sun is shining brightly and the white clouds are long, and the sky is deep and the stars are twinkling at night. You will be grateful to be able to exist in this vast land and infinite universe, even if it is just a particle of dust, what a happy existence it is!