1, try to choose a big time for the first formal date.
For the first formal date, the time should be between 3 and 7 hours. I suggest meeting in the afternoon and seeing my sister home at night. This time period is good and the time is long enough. More room for operation, or have a meeting at night, eat first and then play together. Compared with simply drinking coffee and watching movies, long-term dating leaves a deeper impression on girls.
If a girl stands up temporarily or has something to do with dating, you can subtract 20 points from her mind. This usually means that you are not interested in you or there are too many markets. Of course, there is a special situation here, that is, you find that the girl's reaction to you is very poor or the state is very poor, so you should make a decisive decision and find an excuse to leave.
2. Process flow design
Remember: Make at least three transitions! In formal dating, we should always remember that people's freshness is limited. If you stay in a scene for too long, the heat will gradually drop. If you simply meet, have a cup of coffee or watch a movie, and then leave separately, then this date will not leave a particularly deep impression on girls.
This kind of small date is actually dispensable. If you really want to get a good start through the first date, multiple transitions are essential. The safest and simplest way is to choose three places with completely different styles for three routine projects, such as watching movies in ordinary shopping malls.
But don't choose Starbucks in the shopping center as a place to drink coffee. You can search the local online celebrity store in Xiaohongshu, then go to another place to eat, and finally choose a special pub for a drink. Every new place is a new experience, so the next date will give the girl a good feeling.
3. Diversified activities
It is similar to escaping from the secret room, making pottery, climbing mountains, even climbing indoors, going karting, and going to the next city to eat a local specialty. The advantage of this kind of project is that it is more interactive with girls, and the participation of both parties is more, and the dating experience is definitely better.
However, because unconventional projects are smaller, girls are unlikely to accept them, because the investment requirements for both parties are higher, so girls will only accept them if you are already familiar with them.
4. Focus on chatting during the date.
Dating is different from WeChat chat. Generally speaking, there are three modes: boys dominate the topic, talk big, and girls agree; Girls dominate the topic, brag, and boys agree; Both sides have come and gone, and they are happy. Some people talk a lot, others talk a little, so all three modes can be used. There is no distinction between good and bad. What kind of chat mode is not allowed?
One side talks big, while the other side is silent or absent-minded, playing mobile phones; Or both sides are silent and don't know what to say; Both sides are talking to themselves, and the chat is completely out of tune; If these things happen in your first chat, you need to be vigilant. A bad interaction mode means a bad date.
5. Physical contact
When the atmosphere is harmonious and the two sides are familiar with each other, it is time for physical contact. Why do we have to touch each other? Because physical intimacy will also bring psychological intimacy, physical contact is similar to the role of confession to some extent. When a girl acquiesces in physical contact, she acquiesces in your promotion in her heart, and you become ambiguous friends from ordinary friends.
Simply put, it is to hold the girl's hand when the atmosphere is right; Hold her hand, and when the atmosphere is more ambiguous, you can kiss her. How to judge whether a girl will accept your hand is also very simple: the girl's mood is high+the physical distance between the two sides is very close. You can bend over before holding hands, and girls can hold hands without dodging ~