I thought of this theme because I recently read the news that The Lonely Gourmet will be released for the seventh season. I am a crazy audience of this mockumentary-seeking food!

but first of all, I'm not a fan of eating and broadcasting, and I'm not suffering from the agony of losing weight. I just feel the happiness conveyed by this uncle named Goro. Not only in the process of enjoying delicious food, but also when a person is walking on the main road and hungry for hidden delicious food, he is happy at that time.

in 217, the word "loneliness" appeared very frequently on the internet, in newspapers and around me. Autism is not a new term. Although it is a developmental disorder, it is used by urbanites to refer to emotional symptoms.

The definition of loneliness, which I searched on the Internet specially, is a feeling and experience of being isolated and alienated from others or society subjectively and consciously, rather than an objective state; It is the self-sealing of a person's living space and living state, divorced from social groups and living in a negative state.

But I don't feel the loneliness described above in Goro at all, but I feel a little lonely at most, such as when I bought takeout and ate alone in a room for office and living, and when I drove a rented car in an empty country, so it's not more appropriate to call it Lonely Gourmet or Single Gourmet?

Just kidding ~ But this leads to a question: Can people really enjoy loneliness?

occasional loneliness may be a psychological protection mechanism, but what about long-term loneliness?

Many people may have this understanding of loneliness. Just as Asan sang before he died, loneliness is a carnival of one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people.

Someone explained to me that this lyric actually wants to express that loneliness is a true self. Thinking what you think and doing what you do may be melancholy but not empty, but it is a carnival of self and id. And the empty people, afraid of loneliness, can't calm down for a moment, so they have to forget and paralyze themselves in the interaction with others, and have no time and opportunity to feel and appreciate the inner emptiness, but once they are quiet, they suddenly feel extremely empty.

All in all, in a word, loneliness is to enjoy personal time, which is good, and carnival is to be afraid of loneliness, which will only be empty, lonely and cold, which is very bad.

It is philosophical at first glance, and he uses several concepts of psychology, which makes him look professional. But this friend probably didn't understand the meaning of "ID", "ego" and "loneliness" and "emptiness", or he had been confused by a long paragraph of his own words.

let me make a correction.

First of all, two of the three concepts of Freud's power theory, "ID" and "ego", the former is actually the primitive unconscious instinct of human beings, including various physiological needs of human beings, following the principle of happiness; The latter is the conscious part of personality, which follows the principle of fact to adjust the relationship between instinct and morality.

Generally speaking, "ID" is desire, and "ego" is responsible for contact with reality.

Looking back at the definition of loneliness above, we can extract several key word groups: subjective consciousness, isolation from society, self-isolation, and negative state. What he said is that loneliness is a true self, thinking what you think and doing what you do …… "That is to say, alienation from society will bring quite positive effects.

"It's a carnival of id and ego". The logic here is beginning to fail. His statement just conflicts with the concept of ego. Ego can only play its role if it is in contact with reality, while lonely people try to avoid contact with reality. How can we achieve the carnival of ego? (Later, I will explain whether the "ID" can revel as this one said.)

Emptiness, as can be seen from the literal meaning, is also a negative mentality, which is almost related to loneliness.

then, isn't it empty to be separated from social groups? On the contrary, contact with people must be more empty?

I don't go to so much trouble to criticize other people's remarks, nor do I just want to wake up people who have misunderstandings about loneliness.

When loneliness becomes a habit, you can't enjoy it, you can only endure it, and the longer you endure it, the more harmful it will be.

Take an event that had a great influence in Korean entertainment circle at the end of last year. Anyone who pays attention to Han Yu circle should know that Kim Jonghyun, a member of SHINEE, a popular idol group affiliated to SM Company, committed suicide in his rented apartment because of depression.

Kim Jonghyun is a creative singer who has suffered from depression for a long time and has written a book about depression. He described depression as a black dog and tattooed it on his body to express his determination to live with depression.

There are many reasons why a person suffers from depression, including personality, growth experience and interpersonal relationship. Through his personal words, videos, especially some early materials, we can know that one of his most heartfelt feelings to the public is loneliness.

why are successful artists lonely? In fact, it is not difficult to understand that in a highly competitive environment, they should not only manage their bodies to maintain their appearance, but also improve their abilities in all aspects.

Before Kim Jonghyun made her debut as a singer, her life as a trainee was almost isolated from the outside world, and she was always confined to her room to practice dancing. After she became famous, she was often confined to the studio to create.

At first, I joked that I was lonely, but I didn't try to solve it. Gradually, loneliness turned into depression until depression.

People with depression are uninterested in everything, unable to eat or sleep, depressed and pessimistic, and their "id" happiness instinct is completely lost, so there is no need to talk about carnival. (This part explains the ID of the lonely person mentioned above)

Despite receiving treatment, Kim Jonghyun finally chose to end his life because of unbearable pain.

Loneliness is negative. Once negative emotions accumulate over time, the process of dispelling the negative effects will be extremely long and painful, and even turn into a deadlock.

It coincides with the Qingming Festival. I would like to give this document to the people I know and don't know who died of loneliness, and advise those who are silently enduring loneliness not to try to enjoy it and get out of loneliness as soon as possible.