When I was young, my husband bought her a scarf on a business trip, made of silk! Her husband praised her for her youth and taste. She was very happy, but blurted out, "You mean I'm old and tasteless?"
My husband is very sad, and the joy and happiness of expecting her to receive the gift are gone! I secretly vowed not to buy her a gift in the future. Such a woman probably deserves an apron as a gift!
Husband's dinner party is very late, and she is very worried at home. She is worried that his drinking will hurt her health and that he will drive after drinking! Prepare foot bath water, hangover medicine and milk in advance, but when her husband comes back smelling alcohol in the middle of the night, she swears: "You come back so late every day. You have to drink so much wine with your drinking buddies, and I have to wait on you when I feel uncomfortable. " The apology for coming back late and the gratitude for taking care of my wife disappeared! Just reply, "Who wants your service?" Another inevitable quarrel. 、
Besides, two people go out to travel. In a strange place, you will always encounter all kinds of unfamiliar emergencies! Once there is a small situation, this "poisonous tongue" friend will scold her husband. "Look at you, if you don't check it in advance, you will hate the poor plan."
My husband is also very anxious, and the good mood of traveling is gone. "Next time you want to go with the group, I have never been here. If anything happens, blame me. Why did you go early? " Every word you say to me, both sides feel wronged and no one is soft. Have a nice double trip and go home with a full stomach.
Later, I had a daughter, so did my daughter. The son-in-law and daughter went home for the Spring Festival. They brought many gifts. What matters is filial piety. If it is someone else's parents, they will accept it happily, but they will say that children should not spend money indiscriminately and there is nothing missing at home. She is also distressed by money, but she will say, don't buy it next time. We can buy anything here. You bought it badly. You won't buy anything! Obviously, I am very distressed that my daughter and son-in-law spend money indiscriminately, and when I say it, I am full of disgust. My daughter is super depressed every time she spends money.
My daughter went back to the Spring Festival the first year and bought her a pair of gold earrings. For this reason, she scolded for a long time and said, "I obviously didn't get my ears pierced, but I gave a pair of earrings." "In fact, she has had her ears pierced, but she hasn't worn it for a long time. Moreover, even if it is not, getting a pair of ear holes is not a big deal, but it has been scolded for many years. Even if she buys a gift again, she doesn't want to spend money, because she will suffer indignities after spending it!
I once went to their house for dinner. After dinner, her daughter and I forgot to collect the bowl because we talked about something. She came out of the bathroom and saw it. In fact, she just said, XX, wash the dishes and you'll be fine. She just wanted to say, "I went to the bathroom and thought you could wash the dishes, but I didn't even clean the dishes." It's embarrassing to say this We know we are wrong, but we are not comfortable at all. Although we cleaned it later, no one was happy.
Her daughter told me that once she washed the dishes, her mother would say, stop washing, I'll do it. The first half of the sentence is obviously distressed. Finally, she insisted on adding: "It can't be washed clean."
When I was a child, their kitchen was very small. If my daughter goes to the kitchen while cooking, she will kick her daughter out. "Get out, you're in the way here." Her daughter told me that I heard that other people's children often watch while their parents are cooking. Even if they are spoiled and are not allowed to touch them, they must not have been treated like her. Until the age of 30, when she became a wife and mother, her daughter had no interest in cooking.
At present, I met a very talkative person, and that is my husband Ge Xuan.
When we rented a house, the kitchen was also small. Brother Xuan likes cooking, so I just stand by and do nothing but chat! He would say, peel a garlic for my brother and pass me an onion. Please pour me a glass. I always do it happily. I think if he talks like my relatives, "You don't know how to hang a glass of water for me" and "You don't know how to get an onion for me without any vision", I don't think I want to watch it by the kitchen, so his busy mood in the kitchen is no better!
I am not very good at cleaning my house. Brother Xuan usually cleans. He is a soldier. He does housework quickly and well! Once, I mopped the floor, cleaned the room and praised him. He said, "If you look carefully, the house is really clean." You see, he obviously thinks I cleaned it as if I didn't, but he embarrassed me in this way, but he wanted to do better in his heart.
When I first came into contact with baking, the things I made were terrible and ugly. Although he often encourages me, there are times when it is hard to swallow. In order not to dampen my confidence, he said, "Please leave me here." . A word made me laugh. Although I was rejected, I was not sad at all.
Often I forget what he asks me to do, and he won't scold me. He will just say, "You hit me with a slingshot again." When I feel ashamed, I will do it at once.
When going out to eat, if there is hair in the dish, Brother Xuan won't yell at the waiter. He would whisper to the waiter, "Look, didn't you notice? Here is a hair. If you meet other customers, it will not be as easy as me. " At this time, the waiter will be sorry, change the dish or return it. Brother Xuan will also say, "Nothing, it's ok to cook at home. Just pay attention next time." His respect and unreasonable attitude make the boss feel more guilty!
It's all trivial things. We often quarrel before marriage because of a bad word. Although what he said is reasonable, I feel uncomfortable. I know my mistake in my heart and I am not convinced. Can't you just say it?
After marriage, there is also a tacit understanding and maturity. Obviously, some words are nice, they benefit from each other, reduce a lot of quarrels, and they are very happy. Isn't it better than any tonic I have seen many people angry and sick, but I have never seen anyone happy and out of control!
I also learned from him, don't talk too fast, say something that makes the other person sad. The more useful it is, the more it can highlight a person's cultivation and wisdom. People who can talk will be better at dealing with people. Of course, this is not flattering you, flattering you, but picking up good words. Good medicine tastes bitter, but sugar-coated tablets can still cure diseases and are more acceptable!
People who don't want to talk well are usually mean and demanding of others, but not of themselves. It is normal to blame others, so they have developed the habit of not choking people to death. Whenever anything happens, I always say it in a reproachful tone, regardless of the other person's feelings. I feel comfortable in my heart, but I don't care if others are hurt. Even if others are angry and sad, they will only think that the other party is blx, and there is nothing to be sad about when the other party is wrong.
People who can talk are often self-disciplined. When encountering problems, they should first consider themselves, take into account the feelings of others, and be good at solving problems in the best way! EQ IQ is very high! Such people usually have principles and bottom lines, are popular, and are rarely hindered in doing things! Because you care about other people's feelings, others will naturally treat you with courtesy!
When we meet people who don't want to talk well, we don't necessarily return good for evil. We always retaliate with more hurtful words. You come and go, quarrels are inevitable, and heartbreak is inevitable. If it is for family members, it may disappear soon. If it is for colleagues and friends, it may bury bad feelings.
When you meet a good talker, you also know how to be modest and polite. You will consider the problem from the other person's point of view, make the other person feel comfortable, and things will often be solved well, which will make others sit up and take notice!
No matter to family, colleagues, strangers, customers and friends, they speak language, but they reflect education. A cultured person is a character engraved in his bones, which can't be faked! People who are not good at talking are often not cultivated enough. So, from now on, be a cultured person and start by talking well!
About the author: a second-born grassroots mother, living in a small city, loves baking, DIY and code words. Record your mood with food and keep your life with words. Live an ordinary life, but don't want to be the same.