As Chinese New Year approaches, dinner parties are inevitable. In an important dinner with many strangers, what three topics can help us quickly get to know you and establish a good relationship? Chinese characters are interesting. Looking at the meal plan, the rice is definitely for eating, but it is not the focus. The point is this game. There are many allusions to the famous game in ancient times, such as the Hongmen Banquet when Chu and Han competed for hegemony, and Zhao Kuangyin in the Song Dynasty, who made good use of the banquet.

Even in modern times, we don’t have a meal for no reason. We only participate in order to establish some interpersonal relationships with the people at the dinner party and to have some opportunities to cooperate and win in the future. Some people would say that if there are a lot of strangers, I don’t know what to say to them. Today I will introduce to you three topics that will help you build very good trust and relationships with them.

First, your self-introduction should be novel.

Since we are all strangers, we must introduce ourselves, but usually when you look at the introduction at an ordinary dinner, you will tell me who I am and what I do, and then there is nothing to say. This kind of words is relatively bland and not easy to impress people. Secondly, if people can’t pick you up, the topic won’t be discussed.

So when introducing yourself, you can highlight two points. First, you can talk about a very popular topic that everyone is interested in, such as your hobby. The self-introduction that left a deep impression on me is that when I was studying, I listened to the class of Wei Jie, a famous professor at Tsinghua University. At that time, he was talking about strategic development, but he said that he had a deep hobby of watching Korean dramas. We were all surprised at the time because we thought such a highly respected professor could spend his spare time watching Korean dramas. But he said that he really likes watching Korean dramas and finds them relaxing. So he said, no matter who I chat with, even very young girls and assistants can chat specially because they also like to watch Korean dramas. This sentence immediately narrowed the distance between us, and we all had something to talk about.

The second topic, when introducing yourself, you must highlight the value you can bring to the other party.

For example, when I introduce to others, I will make different introductions according to different situations. For example, now that the Chinese New Year is coming, I would say that I usually go to Sanya during the Chinese New Year. If you want to go to Sanya, you can call me. This is a value point provided by travel vacations. When it comes to work, I would say I work for the media. We have a company that specializes in receiving media advertising. If you need publicity, you can come to me. And I was in the emotional direction and did a lot of emotional counseling. If you encounter any emotional difficulties, you can talk to me. These few sentences clarify the value you can bring to everyone. If everyone knows it, they will know what they have in common with you. This is the first point.

Second, we can talk about the current situation of some friends you know.

Although it is a dinner party with strangers, of course it does not mean that everyone does not know each other, but there must be an organizer or someone you know together, so it is a very important thing to talk about the current situation of this *** with friends. Good starting point. At this time, you must be careful not to talk about other people's privacy and gossip, and praise and recognize this person in a very sincere manner.

What are the benefits of this? It's a quick way to build connection and trust with strangers. You are a very good friend, a very trustworthy person, and he happens to be a person who is very trusted by his very good friends, so there is naturally more trust between the two of you than others. The third topic can be talked about some recent social hot spots and social news events.

As long as it is not a particularly sensitive matter, everyone can talk openly and honestly. First of all, everyone knows about this topic and has something to say. Everyone will have their own different perspectives, different attitudes, and different perspectives. During this communication process, they can get to know each other better. Sometimes you really meet people with similar interests, and it’s too late to meet them. After communicating on these three topics, one is that you have demonstrated your value, the other is that you have established contact and trust, and the third is that you have found like-minded people and it is so late to meet them.

Is this dinner worth it?