4. How to treat Xiong Haizi who doesn't eat well?

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When children don't eat properly, parents are very anxious, worrying that their children's nutritional intake is insufficient, which will affect their health. At this time, the mother is chasing after the child's ass to feed the child, and the elderly at home can't hold back their anxiety. They must feed them bit by bit in person, so that they will feel at ease and feel at ease, and they will think that they are loving the child and doing good for the child.

However, the more times we feed our children, the less they want to eat. This is because in the process of passively accepting food again and again, it destroys the appetite of children to take food actively, and children can't experience the joy of eating. Imagine that if we adults are always taken care of by others and forced to eat large pieces of meat and fish at the dinner table, we will be in a state of passive eating. This forced state will make us not want to eat, or even refuse to eat, and love will become harm. In fact, love is true love only if it makes the other person feel comfortable.

For each of us, eating is originally a process of enjoying delicious food, which is pleasant and happy. When people are forced to eat, food will become a burden, which will cause great pressure and unhappiness in our hearts. If we are so "cared for" by others every day, will we slowly lose interest in food? Therefore, we should learn to replace our feelings and experiences in the role of children, so as to understand and understand why children don't like eating.

"Eating" is human instinct. If you feel hungry, you will feel comfortable after eating food. If children's interest in eating is not destroyed, they naturally have the will to eat. As a parent, if you want to solve this problem, you must first analyze the reasons why children don't like to eat, so as to solve the problem of children's eating.

(1) The food doesn't agree with my appetite

There is a joke saying, "Why aren't Mom and Dad picky about food? That's because they buy all the food they like. " In life, we really pay little attention to children's preferences, and often buy some ingredients we like, mistakenly thinking that children will like them, or think that these dishes are necessary from the perspective of nutrition, and completely ignore children's preferences.

(2) Resist strange food

Some children will have an inexplicable resistance to the vegetables and food they try for the first time, and it takes a relative adaptation period to accept them. For example, the first time they eat a certain food, they feel strange, they feel bad or they don't want to eat it. They may refuse it without even trying. If you let your child eat it for the second time, it may feel better than the first time, especially those children with rich experience will feel deeper. We should give children a process of trying and adapting. After a long time, they will naturally accept the taste of new food and like it. Parents need to prevent their children from not eating once or twice, and then stop giving them some food.

(3) Physical discomfort (illness)

After the child is sick, he has a poor appetite, plus less activity and slow gastrointestinal peristalsis, so he will not want to eat. At this time, you can prepare some light food for your child. How much the child is willing to eat is up to him. Don't force the child to eat. After the physical fitness is fully recovered, parents will adjust their diet appropriately to arouse their children's desire to eat.

(4) Bad mood

If children's mood is affected, they will lose their attention and interest in food when they are very unhappy, and adults will often feel this way. At this time, parents need to help their children adjust their emotions. Only when the children are in a happy state will they be deeply attracted by the delicious food. Therefore, it is very important to inspire and listen to children's expressions, and their emotions need to be understood and released.

In addition, there are some tricks to solve the problem of children's eating:

(1) Proper exercise

Children need to have a fixed time to run and play outside every day to promote gastrointestinal peristalsis and help digestion during activities. In the process of playing, children can not only absorb fresh air, but also make friends, and the quality of sleep at night will naturally be improved. As the saying goes, if you play well during the day, you will naturally eat well for three meals and sleep soundly at night.

(2) Let the children participate in the whole process of food preparation

Parents need to know what their children like to eat, and then take their children with them to buy ingredients. While satisfying their curiosity, they can also teach their children to know all kinds of foods and let them participate in choosing their favorite foods themselves. Reasonable collocation and selective purchase on the basis of balanced nutrition. When the ingredients are bought back, you can ask the children to help you come to the kitchen to make them. For example, children will also find it very fun, thus stimulating their interest in eating. Once children have autonomy, they will have more interest and appetite to eat.

(3) Play fixed music

Before the children eat, we can play fixed light music and provide the children with exquisite tableware that they like, so that they can eat in a pleasant atmosphere. When children have good feelings and experiences, they usually have a good appetite.

(4) Reduce the pressure of eating

It's best to let the children fill their own meals every time, and eat too much without too much praise and attention, so as to reduce the pressure of children during eating and give them a good atmosphere of free eating. Usually, after children relax mentally and physically, they will eat more fragrant.

(5) Make rules for children

Make an agreement with children not to play with toys or watch TV every time they eat, and limit the specific time and requirements for eating. For example, the dinner time is about 4 minutes. When the end time is approaching, parents should remind them 1 minutes in advance and tell their children that they can't eat any more if they don't finish eating. But this may lead to hunger, and you can't eat any food except water before the next meal, so you should inform your child of the consequences in advance. If children continue to dawdle slowly after being reminded by their parents, they should do what they say at that time, clean up the dishes without hesitation, and strictly abide by the previous agreement-no other food to eat. The purpose of this is to attract children's attention and let them know that parents keep their word. Maybe children will cry hungry before going to bed at night, then avoid laughing and satirizing children; "You didn't taste good when it was time to eat. Now you are hungry!" If we say this, children will be very angry and disgusted, which will not promote them to learn lessons and cherish the opportunity to eat next time. We can say, "I know you are hungry now, and you feel bad. You can eat more tomorrow morning, and now you can go to bed early, and maybe you will feel better." This kind of language will make the child feel the understanding and understanding of his parents. He will cherish the opportunity at the next meal, take the initiative to control the time, eat as much as possible, and avoid being hungry again. Therefore, if you love children rationally, love will not become harmful to others and yourself. Knowing how to love children is a lesson that parents need to learn and need to improve.

The most important point is that parents should be able to "hard" their children to experience the consequences of their choices. Children know that after their parents keep their promises, they will have the ability to abandon themselves in the future. Parents should trust their children to have this transformation process and have enough patience to wait for their children to change.