Let me share a story first.

When Ruyu was in college, there was a male classmate in the class. Everyone affectionately called him Mr. Tang. He is also considered a well-known rich second generation in our class. In fact, he usually does not show off his wealth and is low-key. However, in a class majoring in liberal arts, girls always have a keen sense of smell and love to gossip.

The first time I speculated that Mr. Tang was a rich second generation was not long after the start of his freshman year, during the Qingming Festival. At that time, only students from the province usually took leave to go home, and some people were still too far away. , I didn’t want to go home, so I just stayed at school, but Mr. Tang was different. His home was in Hainan, so he bought a plane ticket and went back without saying a word. At that time, there were many classes in freshman year, and he didn’t dare to skip classes at will, so he really only had During the three-day holiday, Mr. Tang went back on the first day, and took a flight to come to school again on the third day.

We thought he came home because he had something to do, but it turned out that was not the case. He just wanted to go home and play. From then on, whenever Mr. Tang had no classes and was on vacation for more than three days, he would always fly When we go out to play, we all say enviously: "Mr. Tang has a private jet."

In addition to airplanes, the speed of updating clothing, grooming, and electronic equipment is also very admirable.

But he just doesn’t show off and never talks about how much money his family has.

It’s also my fault that in our small place, some of my classmates have never seen the world, hahahahaha, so every time I joke with Mr. Tang about whether he will inherit the family property after graduation, Mr. Tang just smiles.

Sure enough, after graduation, Mr. Tang immediately flew back to Hainan to inherit the family business. It's good to have a reliable family, and you won't have to struggle for many years. This kind of thing is something you can't envy.

According to those who are close to him, Mr. Tang’s family business is quite large. He is now starting from the grassroots level of the company. His parents have provided some help. More importantly, it depends on his personal development.

As for ordinary students like us, we have no connections at home and no company. We can only interview for jobs and look for job opportunities by ourselves, and we will encounter obstacles everywhere. Through this case, I want to tell the questioner that if the family is not very advantageous, and if you are really confused at this stage, and your parents have given you some help, you can actually choose to listen to your parents and do the five insurances, one gold, and two days off. 5000 job.

This kind of job is actually not bad for a fresh graduate. Besides, as your abilities improve, your salary will definitely increase in the future.

Because it is really hard to find a satisfactory job nowadays. Your parents have been through this before. They just hope that you will take less detours and live a peaceful and stable life.

Ruyu believes that you can try this job for a while first, and then you can plan your future development path without letting down your father's wishes. If you feel that this job is indeed not going well, then you You can also discuss with your father and communicate with him that this job may not be suitable for you. I think as a father, he should also understand that everything is for the children. Of course, if it develops well, everyone will be happy. The above is Ruyu’s answer, I hope it will be helpful to you!

If nothing unexpected happens, the job your dad found for you is a job in a state-owned enterprise, with weekend holidays, five insurances and one fund, and a salary of 5,000 yuan, which is considered a good level for ordinary working people.

However, whether to go or not depends on your true intention and your professional ability.

If you have never liked the working atmosphere of this kind of state-owned enterprise in terms of career choice, and prefer to pursue a career that is personalized and in line with your own interests and hobbies, then you don’t have to go.

However, this choice must have a prerequisite. You must be responsible for your own choice. If you come to this village, there will be no such store. Pursuing personalized work and career is of course more in line with your own preferences. But whether you can support yourself and take on the important task of maintaining your livelihood must be decided by you.

If you have strong professional ability, strong professional and technical skills, and good communication and coordination skills, you can choose the unit you like and choose by yourself, regardless of your father’s advice. A career that you like, so that you can live your life and live a wonderful life.

However, as before, your ability must be proven. If your so-called ability is only strong in your own evaluation, and others think you are weak, then you are actually yourself. Deceiving yourself, it is a pity that you cannot deviate from life itself. The cruelty of life will teach you everything. As an outsider, Lei Ge recommends that you go to this unit for the following reasons:

Ordinary working people must have their own awareness. Not everyone can become an entrepreneurial boss, and not everyone has the ability. , are determined to make efforts that are beyond the reach of ordinary people for their own careers.

Most people want to be relaxed and at the same time have a high salary. There is no such easy thing in the world. Therefore, for ordinary working people, having a job with moderate salary and low work pressure is already very good.

It is unrealistic to make a fortune from this ordinary job, but there are many working people who only dream about getting rich all day long, but do not even have a job to support their families.

The reason why your father asked someone to help you find such a job is probably not by chance, but because he saw that you were very unsatisfactory in the workplace, so he had to help you. After all, you are his son, you are his relative, he can't see you messing around like this all day long anymore.

A father knows more about a son than a father. The father may know better how much you weigh, so he will help you, hoping that through their intervention, you can find a better job.

I believe that no father would want to persuade his son to give up such a good career and find a job with a mediocre salary when he sees his son or daughter doing excellent work and being well-paid. Perhaps it was precisely because your previous workplace experiences were so unreliable, difficult, and unsatisfactory that your father was so anxious that he found such a more stable job for you.

As mentioned earlier, if you want to achieve better career development, you must have corresponding professional abilities. If you don’t have such abilities but want to pursue such results, you will only fall behind. In the midst of conflicts and contradictions, the best time is wasted.

To sum up, when faced with a stable but somewhat ordinary job, how we choose depends on your own wishes and conditions. If you have the willpower, of course you can pursue the career you want without having to work in such an ordinary unit; but if you have the willpower, then you have to adapt to reality and compromise. After all, this is still a relatively good unit.

For most people in the workplace, in fact, who does not have lofty dreams and who does not envision a better future, but the reality is so cruel , in one sentence: surviving is the most important thing!

If your efforts have not given you hope of success, I suggest you follow your family’s wishes and find a job first. It should be possible to work and live in a smaller city for a job that earns RMB 5,000 per month with two holidays, five insurances and one fund.

A person with ideals must also be down-to-earth and realistic, and accumulate wealth, enrich experience, and accumulate connections through work to lay the foundation for future hardships. Learn to do things before struggling.

When you work in a unit, you can first learn to do things with the help and cooperation of your colleagues in the unit. No matter what you choose to do in the future, you must start with some small things, become familiar with the process of doing things, and master the methods of doing things. Be sure to test the depth of the water before swimming so as not to choke.

I remember a friend who opened a small restaurant soon after learning to be a chef. He ran it with great fanfare for half a year and then lost everything. He really couldn’t continue working. I had no choice but to give the small shop to someone else. Then he found a job for others and worked for another three years. He secretly learned how to operate a restaurant and opened a new restaurant. Only then did the business gradually improve. Accumulate connections before taking the plunge.

When you work in a company, you will have many colleagues in the company, and you will also come into contact with many work partners from external units and society. If you have contacts at work, relationships will gradually develop, and you can accumulate more and more connections. Maybe these people may not be able to use it for the time being, but they may be able to use it when they are struggling and starting a business. When they need help from others, they can help them solve their own difficulties and problems. Gain experience before struggling.

No matter what happens, there are certain rules to follow. These experiences are not innate, but can also be learned slowly in work and life, or are obtained at a certain price. If you don’t learn it before struggling and starting a business, you may have to pay a certain price in the process of struggling and starting a business. Instead of experiencing the pain of setbacks, it is better to learn under the management of others. At the same time, I also exercise myself through hard work at work and improve my abilities over time.

Five insurances and one housing fund are complete, and you get a salary of 5,000 yuan. It is easy to have weekends off. The benefits of this kind of job are better than those of civil servants. Why not go?

Xiao Li is a township civil servant. After graduating from university in 2010, he went through various examinations and selections and finally became a civil servant as he wished. So far, I have been working for exactly 10 years. Although he has worked for 10 years, Xiao Li's salary has not increased much with the increase of working years. At present, his salary after deducting five insurances and one fund is 4,200 yuan.

Although civil servants also have weekends off, township civil servants basically do not have weekends off and often work on weekends. Going from village to house, uploading and distributing information, I was very busy. Xiao Li has worked for so many years and has very little real time for rest. Most of his time is spent working in the village.

Compared with Xiao Li, you can easily get a job with a monthly salary of 5,000, five insurances, one fund, and two days off, so you should cherish it.

1. There are really not many jobs like this with a monthly salary of 5,000, five insurances and one housing fund, and two weekends off!

For most people, a monthly salary of 5,000 is an enviable salary. Especially for the working class, the salary of many people is around 4,000 yuan. 5,000 yuan has always been a small goal.

Many companies, in order to reduce their human resource costs, choose to avoid the five social insurances and one fund, do not pay the five insurances and one fund, or pay less, make flexible payments, etc. There are really very few conscientious companies that can pay all five insurances and one housing fund.

In terms of remuneration, you can have two weekends off, presumably an 8-hour work system, and have normal rest on statutory holidays. You usually have a lot of free time, and you have a lot of time that you can control and utilize yourself. This is also a valuable asset, being able to do the things you like and spending time with your family.

Overall, the salary and benefits in all aspects of this job are relatively good. I believe that if this job is put on the recruitment website, there will be many people competing for it.

2. This company is a relatively formal company with good future prospects.

Through the salary package the company gives you, we can judge that this company is a very formal company. Being able to pay five social insurances and one housing fund for employees and ensuring their normal rest periods are all in compliance with labor laws. Unlike some other companies, which always like to argue with their employees and try every means to reduce their welfare benefits.

We can also judge that the prospects of this company are relatively good. We can give a new employee an initial salary of 5,000 yuan, which is equivalent to the salary during the probation period, which is relatively high. I believe that after a while, after the probation period, your salary will continue to increase.

When you encounter such a formal company with development prospects, what are you still hesitating about?

3. Work is hard-won and should be cherished.

Your father got this job for you through looking for connections, and it took a lot of effort and cost. You should seriously consider it. In the current severe employment situation, it is not easy to get a good job, so you should cherish it.

Of course, you may not like this kind of unearned work. I don’t like to rely on my family to find a job. This is an enterprise, not an administrative institution. As long as the enterprise is willing to use you, go ahead boldly. If you have real ability, then work hard, do your job well, do it differently, and do it brilliantly.

In summary, you should seriously consider this job, it is not easy to come by.

I have a deep understanding of this, because this is how I came here when I first graduated.

I think the person asking the question can give it a try, but if it is really not suitable, then make another plan.

When I graduated in 2014, my dad always wanted me to go back to my hometown to develop my career, so he asked my cousin-in-law to help me look for good companies, because my cousin-in-law is from the county labor bureau. As for good companies, he Know it well.

As expected, within half a month, my cousin-in-law helped me find a pretty good job, with weekends off, five insurances and one fund, and I received 4,500 per month. At that time, I also went for an interview. , the boss was very satisfied with my academic qualifications and major, and agreed to let me go to work.

During that time, my dad was very happy, because it was his greatest expectation that I could develop in my hometown. However, after I went to work in that company for a month, I had the urge to resign. Why?

Because my position is a front-line operator, which is a bit like working in an oil company, and I need to work shifts. What I do every day is repetitive work, and there is no creativity at all. In addition to recording data, I also observe equipment. Is it abnormal?

During this month, I felt that it was the most confused and anxious time in my life. I felt that my future was bleak. I was in a dilemma between mechanical work on one side and my parents’ expectations on the other.

A month later, I figured it out and decided to resign. I spent half a month working as a parent and half a month submitting my resume.

In the end, I chose the job I like—formulation engineer. I have been working there for 5 years and am very happy. I feel that this is the job I want.

So, back to the main question, when encountering this situation, I suggest you do this:

1. Since work is arranged by parents, don’t let them down. You have good intentions. After all, the salary is not low. You can try it first. Maybe you like it?

2. If you have tried it and don’t like it, then I still recommend following your inner thoughts. However, you have to do your parents’ work first and then make arrangements. After all, you can’t hurt your parents’ hearts, but , you should also speak out your inner thoughts, otherwise, if you are not happy with what you do and live very depressed every day, how can you feel happy at all, don’t you think?

Congratulations on having a good father who helped you find a good job. You can really stop worrying about it.

The main reasons why this job is good are as follows. First, the job is relatively stable.

Generally speaking, if your father personally helps you find a job outside, he will definitely go to a relatively stable unit or company, so your job is generally relatively stable. And judging by your treatment, you have the weekends that others dream of, and you have a full set of five insurances and one housing fund. Everything is provided for you, so the benefits of this company must be good, and your job is relatively stable. Second, the treatment is relatively good.

Even though you only get 5,000 yuan, you can get weekend breaks, and at the same time, the five insurances and one housing fund will also give you full protection. Calculated according to the relevant proportions, if you pay in full, The five social insurances and one housing fund should be about 30% to 40% of the total salary. After this calculation, your salary may actually have reached around 7,000 to 8,000 yuan. This level has exceeded the national average salary. Third, have enough time to study.

According to the job your father is looking for, except for the normal working hours when you need to be at the unit, you can spend the rest of your time freely. If you have lofty ideals and ambitions, you can also use During this period of time, you can study, take postgraduate entrance examinations, and Ph.D. examinations. If you want to develop professionally in a certain area, you can also learn relevant professional and technical knowledge. Once you have a skill, it is not too late to try again.

I hope it will be helpful to you, welcome to communicate and discuss!

Mr. Lu believes that the most important criterion is the city where you are;

If you, like Mr. Lu, are in a small county or town on the 18th line;

So what are you waiting for? It’s a dream come true. Go quickly.

But everyone has their own plans and ideas. If you are a young person who has just graduated;

You might as well try to work for a few years first, it will be a kind of experience for you. While gaining experience, I also lived up to the kindness of my parents.

If you have bigger goals and ambitions, you don’t have to respect your father’s wishes. Young people need to struggle, struggle, make unremitting efforts, and stick to their own path. If there is no result from the tossing, it is better to work in a more stable job. This is the cruel side of society.

Let me first share an example from my family. My cousin was sent to the UK by his parents 3 years ago to study for a master's degree in finance. The purpose was to return to China and join one of the four major banks, where he would be stable and decent. Although he is a returnee with a master's degree, the campus recruitment is highly competitive and it is quite thrilling for his cousin to get in. In addition to passing the written examination, there are also rounds of interviews.

To be on the safe side, I found some connections with my family during the interview and successfully entered China Construction Bank. The family was overjoyed to have finally entered a bright and good workplace, an iron rice bowl. My cousin was also very happy. The classmates who came back together were not so lucky to enter the bank. He was as happy as the rest of the family.

After working for less than a year, due to his incompatibility with the banking system and the fact that the industry itself placed great emphasis on resources rather than abilities, he decisively resigned behind the back of his family. He knew that taking this step was very risky. On the one hand, he couldn't let his family know. After all, he had used his connections to get in. If his relatives knew about it, he would be let down. At the same time, I haven't thought clearly about what to do next, and my heart is full of uneasiness and worry.

After taking a risky move, my cousin spent three months thinking carefully and successfully joined a multinational English training institution and a listed company based on his interests and expertise. He didn't dare to tell his family that he had changed jobs until he became a full-time employee three months after joining the company. Although his family still didn't understand why he gave up such a "good" job in a bank, he just laughed it off and couldn't explain it.

1. Should you obey the work arrangements assigned by your parents?

If you happen to like the job, then take it. What if you don't like it? This question is not so much about acceptance, but how to persuade your parents to agree to do the job you want to do. For example:

1. Have a good talk with your parents calmly.

You need to come up with the reasons why you want to go to a big city or engage in a certain job, carefully explain to your parents what your plans are, and what you will become in the future, so that your parents know that you have made your decision after careful consideration. Make your own decisions, rather than following the crowd or acting on impulse.

2. Listen to your parents’ reasons, because your parents still want you to live well.

Our parents have worked hard for half their lives and have certain connections and social resources compared to us who have not graduated yet, so it is understandable that they want to directly arrange jobs for us.

Many times our parents choose to make arrangements directly for us because they don’t want us to be too far away from home and want us to go home and work. But many people don't think so. They hope to be as far away from their parents as possible, out of sight and out of control. For those with good financial conditions, your parents may respect your choice and let you do whatever you want for two or three years to see if you can make a career outside. Once there is no possibility of progress, you will be advised to come back and accept their arrangements. At this time, after hitting a wall outside, my mentality when I choose to come back is also different.

3. How to choose between a big city and your hometown?

Does it mainly depend on what kind of job you want? For example, if you want to join an Internet company, big cities such as Beijing, Shenzhen, and Hangzhou will be your first choice. Basically, big companies such as BAT have branches or divisions in these places.

For students who want to enter financial companies and work in high-end financial institutions such as securities and investment banks, it is better to go to first-tier cities. If you want to enter financial institutions such as banks and insurance, you can go back to your hometown.

2. What work does it take to turn your interest into a career?

After graduation, many college students will be particularly envious of their classmates. They can support themselves through photography before graduation, and they don’t have to worry about finding a job. They can do the job they like as soon as they graduate! Perfect!

That’s right, the most perfect job in the world is to work hard in a field you love and still make money. But while you envy others' perfect careers, have you ever thought about why other people's interests can always become side jobs, careers or even lifelong careers? But in the end, my own interest can only become empty talk, not even a decent interest.

In fact, interests, like all living things, need to be nurtured. Different interests have different ways of raising them, and different ways of raising them also determine how high your interests can grow.

1. What kind of interests can be developed into a career?

This issue can be judged from two angles.

But hobbies like sleeping, loving to eat, and loving to play games cannot become a career if they only satisfy themselves and do not meet the needs of others. Unless other knowledge can be attached to these hobbies to make them valuable. For example, if you love food, study how to cook it and become a master of cooking. Only in this way can you turn these hobbies into something of value to others.

Some hobbies may decline with the development of the times, such as unpopular and sunset careers. They will not disappear immediately, but there will not be much room for future development, so it is not a good one. choose.

Megatrends are crucial in an individual's career, and most of the time their role even exceeds individual efforts. As the saying goes, "Efforts in the wrong direction are in vain." It is difficult for ordinary people to buck the trend. You must believe this. It is inevitable to be rebellious when you are young, wanting to prove that you are different and capable. But time cost is the biggest cost. If you make the wrong choice, you will often have to pay for many years, and you will lose your own interests.

2. What is the process from interest to career?

If you can quickly find a way to make money and form a good mechanism, you may be able to quickly develop your interest into a career. If it develops slowly, it may take several years. But it is also possible that mistakes may occur in the middle and then be corrected, which may take more than ten years. The time is not necessarily certain, but the process is pretty much what I said.

3. Should you pursue a stable base salary, or challenge the high salary in front of you?

If you are a girl in a second- or third-tier city and like a family life with a husband and children, stability is the best choice. If you are someone who likes novelty and adventure, and focuses on self-realization, a high salary is definitely a good choice. If you are a boy and don’t have that much ambition, and your family has already prepared all the preparations for living in the local area and getting married, then choose a stable life and live a simple life without going through too many storms.

The fact is that many people who went to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou eventually returned to their hometown. In addition to having a more bumpy work experience than you, it seems that these hardships did not allow them to reap material and value rewards. In the end, you may still be envious that you have entered a stable marriage without any trouble, while they have to start over again. That’s not to say that we don’t encourage people to venture out. In Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, where there are a lot of talents, if you just rely on your own passion and bare hands to work hard, you will end up being cannon fodder. Before you decide to go out, you must evaluate yourself, apart from your enthusiasm, what are your strengths and strengths? People compete. Let’s think about the choice between high salary and stability!

In fact, it is impossible to answer this question clearly because it lacks prerequisites. For example:

1. Is the high salary you are referring to really a high salary, and under what conditions?

2. It does not mean that only private companies and small companies have high salaries, nor does it mean that state-owned enterprises must be stable.

In fact, except for jobs within the system, there is no absolute stability in society, and there are no absolute good jobs and bad jobs. When it comes to salary, companies such as Internet companies such as BAT, Huawei, Google, and Facebook also have very high salaries. Reaching the director level is worth one million base + stocks and the annual salary is much higher. High salary does not mean instability. As long as you are capable, you will naturally be stable. Because you can do it and have fun doing it.

Most small companies say that high salaries are in the range of 20-30k monthly salary. They can poach some people with a monthly salary of 10-20k in some large companies. The monthly salary can be higher, but there are opportunities and space. There are many, but the stability is relatively poor. If the company does not develop well, you will need to change jobs.

From this point of view, as an office holder, you need to think clearly about what you want more. If you want opportunities and space, follow your heart instead of seeking opinions from others. Only you know what you want best. need.

Whether you are working in a private enterprise or a state-owned enterprise BAT, your interpersonal relationships are not good, you do not get along well with your boss, your technical skills cannot adapt to the development of the new enterprise, or you are old and lack the ability to rush in , or national policy changes, large-scale layoffs, etc., you may also be one of the unemployed. It doesn't mean that the bigger the company and the bigger the platform, the better. In the final analysis, it still depends on your ability not to degrade or even to continue to improve.

Professional answers from the Wealth Learning Committee for reference

People of the older generation like to pursue stability. When I just graduated, my parents tried to persuade me not to go to other places all day long. To work, I found a local public institution that had weekend weekends and provided five insurances and one fund. At that time, I was frustrated in everything in other places, so I returned to my hometown and worked as a temporary worker. It was indeed very stable, and I never worked overtime. I commute to get off work on time, but as I get older, I become more and more panicked and regret my original decision more and more. Why panic?

Why should I panic? Because as I get older, I find that so-called stability is not really stable. After some units are restructured, temporary workers will also face being fired. And I find that after the age of 30, You can't find a job without any skills.

What you call stability is just an overdraft in advance for your future difficulties. Stability does not exist. I watched my college classmates hang out outside for several years. Although it was very difficult at the beginning, they are now a certain general manager or a certain manager. When I get together with them, they can’t even get a word into the topic they are talking about. I feel really uncomfortable. .

Maybe one day their company will go bankrupt, but with their ability, it is not difficult to make a comeback. But maybe one day I will lose my job, and my only choice will be to be a security guard. This is my best choice. Where I was panicking, I could only get worse and worse. Why do you regret it?

When I was 27 or 8 years old, I also started to fall in love. When I thought about going out to eat with the girl I loved, I could only eat at a roadside stall. I wanted to take her to a concert. , I can only buy the furthest ticket, and I feel a little lower than others.

Maybe you will say that materialistic girls are undesirable, but have you ever thought about your future? When you get married and have a child, others use the best diapers, the best milk powder, and go to the best kindergarten, but you can only buy discounted things for your child on group buying websites. In order to make your child eat better, you Not willing to spend money, not even willing to order a cup of milk tea for myself.

If I had gritted my teeth and persisted, my life might have been different. Of course you can say that you may be even poorer than you are now, but at least you won't regret your original decision. A few final words

Without a stable job, only when you are strong can you give yourself a stable life. The two holidays, five insurances and one fund will indeed make you very stable, but you will also be very poor and stable.

If you don’t work hard when you are young, you will naturally regret your original choice when you get older.

There is nothing wrong with listening to your parents, but as an adult you should have your own ideas and a plan for your future. If the job your parents introduce to you can improve your ability, there is nothing wrong with doing it first. But if it is the kind of job that is so stable that you will be bored every day, as a young person, I suggest you go out more. Breaking out is better for your future.