Fruits are rich in various vitamins needed by the human body. When children are still growing, eating fruits every day is a must. But Jiajia's mother is really worried about her child eating fruit. It turns out that Jiajia has liked to eat some "noble fruits" since she was a child: cherries, strawberries, durians, blueberries, jackfruit, etc. When these fruits first came on the market, Jiajia was clamoring to eat them every day. Every time I go to the supermarket and grab a few pieces of fruit, which cost hundreds of dollars, Jiajia’s mother feels really painful.

No, now is the time when strawberries and cherries are on the market, and the prices are really "painful". A pound can cost forty or fifty. And Jiajia can eat dozens of them every day. If this continues, the family's income will really be unbearable. On this day, Jiajia was clamoring to buy strawberries again. Her mother looked at the label, which was 45 per pound, and said, "Jiajia, strawberries are too expensive. Mom can't afford them. Why don't we eat some other fruits, bananas?" , apples are my mother’s favorite food.” Jiajia refused to listen and cried, "I just like eating strawberries, why doesn't my mother buy them for me? Other children in our kindergarten eat strawberries and cherries every day." Looking at the other people watching, the mother felt very embarrassed. If she didn't buy it, it might really hurt her child's self-esteem, so she had to bite the bullet and buy it. But on the way back, I felt something was wrong. After thinking about it, I didn’t know what I should do if something like this happened again.

Not only fruits, but also toys or other gifts. I believe parents have all encountered situations where their children insist on buying something. If the price of this thing is beyond the family's financial affordability, how should parents respond to their children? If you refuse directly, you will inevitably cry and cry, and you are afraid of hurting the child; if you buy directly, you feel it is unnecessary, and you are afraid that the child will develop the bad habit of being addicted to things and loving comparison.

I believe many parents will also fall into the predicament of Jia Jia’s mother. In fact, I think this is a particularly good educational opportunity, just in time to give children a good class and take this opportunity to do some educational work.

1. Divert his attention and cultivate the habit of controlling him

When a child cries and wants something, his brain will be affected by his own emotions. There is no way to think rationally about problems if you are firmly in control. At this time, if parents directly say that they don’t want to buy, have no money, can’t afford it, etc., their children will not be able to understand. The only way is to divert his attention first, let him calm down, and then try to reason with him.

My Dabao used to insist on buying this and that when he went to the supermarket. When I refused, he cried and made a fuss. I tried the transfer method and it really worked. When he was squatting next to the supermarket shelf crying and fussing, I squatted down and hugged him and said, "You really want to drink this drink, don't you? You were very angry when your mother said not to buy it, right?", Dabao I nodded immediately and continued: "We have just arrived. If you buy this drink, you have to check out. There are many fun and delicious things in this supermarket. Let's go shopping again, okay? Maybe you can see I have other delicious food, but I don’t want this drink anymore.”

Dabao thought for a while, stopped crying and told me okay. Then he followed me away obediently. When he calmed down, I started to make conditions. I told him that in the supermarket today, he could only choose one of his favorite things to eat, and other mothers would not pay for it. Dabao also happily agreed, and in the end he happily bought only one snack. You see, children are not that difficult to coax, right?

Second, let him participate in saving and trading, and cultivate his financial management concepts

This education must be done in daily life, like the one in the picture book "The Story of Bread Bear" Bread Bear, when he saw someone else's new toy car, he insisted on making trouble for his mother to buy it. His mother gave him a piggy bank and gave him pocket money to save money to buy. In the end, Bread Bear finally saved enough money to buy a car, but finally chose to buy his mother a bouquet of flowers on Mother's Day.

If you just tell your children whether you have money or not, they will have no idea. Only by letting him participate in real financial management and transactions will he understand the meaning of money and cherish every penny.

Pillow parenting message:

Now we don’t rarely buy toys for our children at home. We all go to nature to have fun by ourselves. We may still remember the strong desire for toys when we were young, so when faced with the needs of our children, we will try to satisfy them as much as possible. But there are too many things that people like in this world, and children's desires are endless. If they are just satisfied without restraint, it may lead to them developing some bad habits. As parents, we might as well think rationally, is this thing really needed by our children? Is this something our financial capacity can afford? Thinking clearly before making a choice will also establish correct values ??for your children.