My friend recommended this drama "Tokyo Girls' Illustrated Book" and I watched it in one sitting, 11 episodes, each episode is 20 minutes. More than 3 hours tells the story of a girl named Aya's life journey from 20 to 40 years old, as she explores Tokyo alone. True, cruel, sharp, yet thought-provoking.

Whether it is Japan or China, you can feel the real life of marriage and love, and you can also see the powerlessness of young girls like Aya in facing the cruel truth of society.

Aya was born in Akita, a county in the interior of Japan. She did not want to stay in Akita, a material and interpersonal space with a living radius of only 5 meters, for the rest of her life, and live with "only 5 meters of knowledge and vision." There was an ambush at the beginning of the play. Aya longed for the bright lights of big cities. She thought more than once that it would be nice if she was born in a big city like Paris or New York.

She wants to go to Tokyo. The initial reason was girly: she thought she was cute. She believes that cuteness is justice, and her understanding of Tokyo is very simple. She believes that being in Tokyo means opportunities. Opportunities there are like pebbles on the road, so many that you can pick them up at will. In Tokyo, she can realize her life ideal: "Become an envied person."

When Ling graduated, her teacher asked her what her wish was. She said she wanted to be an enviable person. When she said this, Ling was 17 years old and didn't really understand whether a life of being envied by others equals happiness or happiness.

After graduating from the local Akita University, Aya went to Tokyo, which she had longed for. In "Tokyo Girls' Illustrated Book", Aya is a new-age woman who wants both "job and marriage", which is destined to make the life she wants more difficult to obtain than others.

When Aya had no clear imagination about urban life in Tokyo, she slowly confirmed a standard life template of "a happy life for Tokyo women" from other people's mouths and fashion and lifestyle magazines:

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“A restaurant you can’t make a reservation for, a boyfriend who works at an agency, a meaningful job, Roppongi Hills, an evening movie, a two-day and one-night trip to Hakone, Harry Winston’s wedding ring, a happy marriage, gathering All the elements that make life perfect.

When she first arrived in Tokyo and saw this couple, she felt that all these things were within her reach and her future was bright. Bright.

Like other girls from various cities and Tokyo, she began to struggle for an ideal living state, trying to fill in the elements of happiness one by one and become a "faithful person" in the eyes of others. A woman who is envied by everyone."

Ling is undoubtedly a woman full of desire and ambition, but also has fighting spirit. In this confrontation with material, desire, and ambition, she compares the "universal standard answer" , ticking the boxes one by one, but in the end they did not bring her the feeling of inner peace and happiness in life. At best, her struggle was based on the so-called definition of successful women imposed by society.

Is there a formula that defines a successful woman's life?

Aya moved from Akita Prefecture to Tokyo, and her residence changed from "Sancha" to "Ebisu" to "Ginza", Toyosu, Yoyogi Uehara, and finally She returned to Sancha and bought a house, and experienced several completely different lifestyles. From the age of 20 to 40, she worked with an annual salary of 2 million to 8 million, and became the PR manager of GUCCI. She also experienced 7 men each time. When changing jobs, I just keep moving and changing boyfriends... I have experienced falling in love, getting married, and getting divorced, and I have experienced the tortuous emotional journey of being a lover for a rich and distinguished uncle to being supported by a young and handsome man.

From the happy little days when she and Naoki bought groceries and cooked together in the rental house, until one morning, she looked at the balled underwear in her hand and reminded herself that such happiness is everywhere in Akita. Yes, I have worked hard to come to Tokyo and work in a fashionable company. Is this happiness enough? Because I felt that such happiness was too small and felt sad, I let it go and left my boyfriend.

Saying goodbye to her first love, Aya began to date her boyfriend, a business elite from "Ebisu". However, the business elite told Aya that she was a "reader model girl" who was celibate and eventually got married. If women choose rich men, what kind of women will men choose? The answer in the play is: a woman with nothing, no dreams of her own, no ideals, just a woman who innocently supports his dreams.

Later, I met a married man who owned a kimono shop who was sensible, calm and wealthy. At the beginning of their relationship, the relationship was clearly marked with a price. "Marriage alone cannot be given to you, but in exchange, I will teach you how to enjoy the most luxurious things." He led her to enjoy the luxurious and classy life, but refused to give her marriage. This relationship lasted until 33-year-old Ling wanted to get married. She had a showdown with the kimono shop owner, and the other party said: I know, Aya has grown up. He turned around and went out, leaving Ling with a chic back.

Aya, who is determined to get married, wants to find a marriage partner with "satisfactory conditions" through a dating agency: an annual salary of 10 million yen, over 30 years old, and a height of over 1.75 meters. But the 33-year-old was told that men who met these three conditions at the same time only wanted girls who had just graduated.

In the minds of these people, fertility is ranked first, before beauty and social ability. Faced with the cruel reality, Ling had no choice but to lower her bottom line. In the end, she found a man to marry who was "39 ??years old, with an annual salary of 9 million yuan, a high-end apartment in a middle-class community, and no pension burden."

However, this marriage with similar conditions failed to survive in the end. The two people lacked emotional nourishment and did not have the same values ????and language. When they separated, the other party had a one-night stand with a 27-year-old former female colleague and had a child. A man marries another son.

Ling, who earns an annual salary of 8 million yuan, bought an old apartment after her divorce and completely renovated it. She was pursued by a young boy who worked in a coffee shop and did not refuse. And the charming young boy turned to one of Ling's wealthy girlfriends for an expensive watch.

After being introduced by a friend, Aya dated a lawyer who was armed with famous brands; but the lawyer directly told her that his marriage partner could only be a woman from the same social circle in Minato City.

Ling finally understood that big cities not only have more possibilities, but also have ceilings. The most indispensable thing in Sex and the City is excellent women. Your end is the starting point for others. Ordinary women have walls they can't overcome no matter how hard they try. The play says something very cruel: a frog cannot become a princess. Frogs can't go to the dance. Frogs just croak together in the fields...

In Tokyo, some people work hard. Everything depends on oneself; some people are born with everything; some people are willing to have a second child; some people leave marriage to pursue their dreams; some people leave the city and come to a small place and can manage their lives well; some people They just want to return to their families; some people are always looking for a better life and a better man.

In Tokyo, no matter what kind of life you choose, you need to let go of something in order to gain something. Every life has a price. At first I thought that opportunities in Tokyo were everywhere like pebbles, but later I realized more and more that Tokyo is an invisible bottomless pit.

Finally, she returned to Sancha, and met her old love Naoki on the street. Just as the warm pictures from the past came to mind one after another, a jumping child rushed over and said, "Dad, this is really... "It's delicious." What was left to her was the picture of a family of three leaving happily.

Adults are always responsible for their own choices. Since they gave up at the beginning, they cannot expect the other party to stand still and wait.

|There are not that many things that are really needed

Aya has gradually transformed from a local girl in Tokyo to an urban fashionable woman. Over the past 20 years, she has been constantly trying The weirdness of emotions and the practice of your own life expectations. Compared with her struggling in love, the female boss who supports her has a husband and children, but she takes these very lightly and is content. The original words are: Because I already have the awareness to live alone. So these are like giveaways. Ling struggled and made breakthroughs in life. Finally, as she approached her forties, she couldn't help but start asking the most fundamental question:

Why did I come to Tokyo? What exactly am I looking for in Tokyo?

The moment she returned to Akita and was ready to give up, she finally understood that her longing for Tokyo many years ago was an inexplicable sense of vanity. When she returned to her hometown, she planned to spend her whole life like this. On the road, she met her former high school teacher, who told her excitedly: "Now I use you as an example when I guide students to fill in their applications!" She took out a magazine about interviewing Aya. Aya couldn't stop crying. She originally thought that she had failed in life. Later, others reminded her that she had actually fulfilled her wish when she was in school.

At this point, Ling is finally willing to make peace with her desires. The same is true for people. They pursue and discard along the way. It is difficult to say whether you picked up sesame seeds and lost the watermelon, or picked up the watermelon and lost the sesame seeds. But what is certain is that cities and people are actually in an interactive relationship, constantly purifying each other and getting rid of useless things. Let you gradually grasp what you want most.

The heroine transformed from a local girl in Akita to a fashionable woman in Tokyo, climbing step by step to achieve her life goals, and finally chose a man with similar qualifications but an unattractive appearance to get married, and she continued to brainwash herself: I am very happy.

When the camera turned, the mother, who was about to collapse with her crying child, also said: I am very happy.

Before coming to Tokyo, I thought that as long as I met the standard life template of "Tokyo Women's Happy Life", I would have happiness, but after I actually had it, I felt that it was nothing but emptiness.

Most of the people living in Yoyogi Uehara are single women with successful careers. There is no parenting atmosphere that forces you to get married and have children. You can enjoy the atmosphere of brunch, flower arrangements, and afternoon tea with girlfriends, a kind of free-style happiness. ...

Most of the people living in high-rise apartments in Fengzhou are middle-class families. On weekends, everyone finds a place to have BBQ and have fun. "I am very happy" is written on everyone's face, a kind of template happiness.

Singles look forward to getting married. After marriage, they look forward to having their own children and having their own space. After finally getting divorced, I found that I still couldn't avoid the secular pressure and wanted to remarry. Living in universal values ??has always led to endless persecution.

Among women, various complicated outlooks on life are always in conflict with each other, and they envy and laugh at each other. What exactly is the happiness that women should pursue?

Ling, coerced by life, seems to never know what she wants, so she wants everything. And when she left Tokyo, she found that there was nothing in this city that she wanted but couldn't get. And gradually I began to realize that the happiness I had been pursuing was to have a lover by my side, and not to die alone.

After experiencing everything, the heroine can finally face her desires calmly and understands how helpless and unbearable reality is. However, when Ling discovered that the man who was approaching the woman was better than her, envy and jealousy arose spontaneously. In the blink of an eye, she felt as if she had been beaten to death.

“Let’s work hard together, step by step, because there are still many things we want to achieve.

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However, she will never blindly follow what she really wants. Although she defines herself as a "greedy and insatiable woman", she decides to "use jealousy as the spice of life" from now on. , because "this is a real urban woman" but her expression has told us that she lives for herself, not for other people's opinions and evaluations.