On the one hand, in order to pursue a better life, the efficiency, system, wealth and status of modern civilization have turned people into machines. On the other hand, when we return to our daily life, most of us always have to face trivial daily necessities, which are dull.
Over time, people will soon forget their original intention of struggling to survive, working hard, discussing order and stressing rules, that is, living happily and freely.
But there are always people who can find a balance, have a little appearance of their own, don't care about wealth or indulge in worldly triviality.
In my bones, I attach importance to it, live an interesting life in a plain life, and have a proper seriousness about life.
This is the life principle that Cai Lan practiced all his life. He once said, "A stable life must be boring. I can't stand being bored, so I decided to live an interesting life. " ?
Mr. Cai Lan, Jin Yong, Huang Jingsheng and Ni Kuang are also called "the four great talents in Hong Kong". He likes eating and drinking, so he organized a team to travel around, tasted the treasures in the world, and liked movies. So he worked as a producer in Shaw Film Company for 40 years, addicted to words, writing columns and books …
You can eat, play and enjoy life. Cai Lan lives a chic life, which is why Jin Yong said: Cai Lan is a truly chic person and a first-class romantic figure in the world.
However, the original purpose of life is to have fun. Always be curious about life and always be willful, and life will be interesting.
This living method seems spontaneous and natural, but it is full of life wisdom. Therefore, Cai Lan, an interesting life scientist, decided to write down the experience of more than 70 years and compile it into "I decided to live an interesting life", telling us how a person can live an interesting and transparent life when he came into this world.
Next, let's follow Cai Lan and see how to live an interesting life. ?
Cai Lan seems to live a beautiful life that ordinary people can only live for a few lifetimes. Not only delicious food, but also emotional aspects. He advocates happiness and freedom, and his views on marriage have always been sharp.
Therefore, there are always many young people who like to find him on Weibo to answer questions when they encounter emotional problems. And his answers are often sharp, and hit the nail on the head, so Cai Lan was crowned as an "emotional expert".
He agreed with Wilde: "Men get married because they are tired; Women get married out of curiosity. Both of them are very disappointed. "
His attitude towards marriage can sometimes be said to be shocking. In his book, he described it like this:
If every relationship is aimed at getting married and having children, it is a very annoying entanglement.
Some people are born with genes, and their sperm is excellent, so a woman can't satisfy such people. It is barbaric to restrict them with the marriage system.
Monogamy was conceived by a group of guardians with weak sexual ability. They can't even handle one person, so they created this system to protect themselves.
However, he is not a "straight male cancer" who ignores the value of women. On the issue of extramarital affairs, he also demanded that "wives enjoy equal rights."
For those so-called "leftover women", Cai Lan even waved the flag and shouted: not getting married means not getting married, and getting married does not mean perfection.
He thinks there is no such thing as leftover women. He respects their attitude of not getting married and appreciates their courage not to be bound by the secular world and not to bow to the system. For the barbaric attitude of marriage, women don't have to worry about not getting married and having children.
However, Cai Lan also mentioned in his book that at present, we can't expect society to change women's marriage problems soon. The biggest problem is to ask those girls to overcome their demons, resist the discussion around them and not belittle themselves, so as to become truly free people and a good woman.
Cai Lan said that there are many such good women around him. When they are free, they will travel, visit old friends far away, and like reading and watching movies. These soul mates are much better than a bad husband.
Cai Lan undoubtedly witnessed the perfect marriage. In his book, he said that his parents are, and they will really grow old together, just like those old couples who walk hand in hand. You can see that they may have many helpless differences of opinion as partners, but they can accept each other's shortcomings and give them love and care from beginning to end.
It seems that those seemingly cynical feelings are actually just Cai Lan's "jokes" about marriage. What he opposes is not a marriage that can really work together for a lifetime, but a marriage that is maintained by certificates and systems.
Perhaps this is a projection of Cai Lan's attitude towards married life. He knows that there are too many uncertainties in life and should be a free and happy person.
Cai Lan believes that true love means being single-minded and serious, but not so serious. If you love someone, you will be bound by your hands and feet all your life. It is most important to enjoy this moment.
Just like when he was young, celebrities are romantic, never hide his love for beautiful women, and often lament that emotional things are the easiest to change with time, but he is very devoted to his beloved wife.
In an interview in Lu Yu, he talked about his wife. He didn't say much, just bowed his head slightly and repeated "deeply in love" several times.
Everything Cai Lan likes is "evil": food, wine, playing cards, smoking …
Whenever we are faced with delicious food, we often have such confusion: eating more will support us, eating less will give up, and it is always difficult to choose between indulgence and enjoyment.
But for Cai Lan, if you have to satisfy your appetite, try to eat until you throw up.
Indulge once, and you will know where your limits are, and the result you get is often not to make the same mistake again. So, eat everything and eat with your heart! Is the best way to experience life.
So do cigarettes. Cai Lan shows himself in the book. Since he met Yan at the back of the school at the age of 13, he has never left his hand for decades. When you go to the toilet, you should smoke it as an air freshener. You should smoke when you are reading a book. The more you look at it, the more delicious it is.
Smoking can cause cancer. Of course, Cai Lan knows that he doesn't encourage young people to smoke. But for lonely old people, people who work hard in cities and rural people who have worked hard all day, nothing can replace the tranquility brought by smoking, so smoking is just as well. Who has the heart to force them to take away their last pastime?
Cai Lan loved wine all his life, and he had his own unique views on wine. He thinks there are two kinds of people who drink: one is a drinker, and the other is a drunk. If you drink any alcohol, you will get drunk every time. That's because the wine is for you, not you.
He agreed with Li Yu's "five expensive" about drinking freely, and also made a detailed explanation in the book:
First of all, it's important to be excellent, and it doesn't matter how much wine you drink.
Second, you like to talk, and the number of drinking partners is unlimited.
Third, sustainability is very important. Good wine and bad wine are not a problem.
Fourth, it is feasible to do what you promised after drinking.
5. You can stop, drink long and short, drink more and drink less. Once you stop, you can stop drinking a drop.
Smoking, drinking and not exercising are not comfortable. Eating, drinking and drinking can also be a respect for life.
Cai Lan always persuades others not to stretch all the time and enjoy life. Life is beautiful. What's the point of living long if you are unhappy?
This hedonistic attitude is suitable for any time. This also makes Cai Lan the only one among the four gifted scholars who is still active in the public eye. His performances, books, eating, drinking and being merry are all forgiven.
We always say that we should be self-disciplined, eat healthily, go to bed early and get up early, and discipline ourselves with various rules and regulations. This idea is undoubtedly very healthy.
On the other hand, our life is obviously very tired. If we keep putting pressure on ourselves, will life get better?
Sometimes if you are too restrained, you will lose a lot of fun in life.
Cai Lan's most famous identity is a gourmet, which is simply a living encyclopedia. However, he prefers to be called "foodie". He likes eating and trying new things. After eating for decades, he has a little research on eating.
Regarding food, Cai Lan explained in his book that he felt that what we ate was not simple food, but a habit and a kind of homesickness.
If you don't believe me, when an oriental travels abroad and eats western food for a week, he can't help but want to eat a bowl of white rice in China restaurant. When a foreigner comes to China, he will find opportunities to eat bread in a fast food restaurant every day.
The taste buds' preferences must imprint everyone's nostalgia for their hometown and childhood. So not everyone can eat all over the world casually, which is the limitation of the tongue.
Those lucky enough to wander around young people can accept more things, just like Cai Lan himself. He was born in Singapore, studied in Japan, and then returned to work in Hong Kong. Too much travel affected his understanding of food.
He is often asked how to become a gourmet.
The book mentioned: "To be a delicious person, you must first be curious. Try everything, because you are qualified to judge after trying, and your tongue needs exercise. In the long run, you will gradually become a person who knows how to appreciate food. "
Isn't life the same? Maybe we are only a curious distance from the interesting life.
In Cai Lan's view, eating is not only a gift, but also a curiosity and a learning. When you learn the knowledge of eating, you will find it is the best weapon to make friends.
The book says that people in Ningbo get excited when they talk about crab paste, yellow snails and smelly winter melon. When talking about wonton noodles with overseas Hong Kong people, they must know which one is the best.
I have tasted everything in the world. Which one does Cai Lan think is the best? For this kind of question, he mostly replied: "What you eat with your girlfriend is the best."
Because your partner will affect your mood, and your mood will affect everything. If you are in a good mood, the food in front of you will naturally be good. It is because of this mental state that Cai Lan can be called a glutton.
Eating and drinking has always been a great event and a pleasure in life. You look for it and find the most unique bite. It's interesting, but the ultimate happiness is not to find many delicious dishes, but to be with your favorite people, even simple rice. Even if it is wasted by a cup of tea and a meal, it is happiness on earth.
People who care about food must also study other aspects of life. This is the case with Cai Lan, who not only has a soft spot for food, but also has his own opinions on clothes.
He is familiar with the production places of big brands, how to use materials, and which products of which design line are the best, but this does not prevent him from being indifferent to luxury goods.
In his book, Cai Lan emphasized that it is not important whether clothes are famous brands, but it is important to wash them cleanly, iron them evenly, and wear corresponding clothes according to the occasion, so as to look decent and comfortable. Because dressing is a kind of respect for others, but also for yourself.
An acquaintance often sees Cai Lan running around the market in Mong Kok in slippers and shorts. Cai Lan doesn't care. A public figure doesn't need to wear a suit to the market, which is inappropriate and uncomfortable.
He doesn't chase famous brands, and he doesn't pay attention to ostentation and extravagance, but he is strict with fabrics.
Cai Lan tells his own story in the book: One summer, he occasionally got an Indian silk and linen shirt, which was thin and cold to wear, and was indescribably comfortable to rub on his skin.
After putting it on for the first time, he swore to himself that he could not wear more than two clothes in hot weather in a free environment.
He doesn't have many suits, and the styles are not fashionable, but the material will definitely be chosen, otherwise the clothes will wrinkle badly after being worn several times.
However, in order to give people a fresh feeling, the colors of his shirt and tie often change.
It is said that clothes are the embodiment of a person's value preferences and personality cultivation, and the appearance is not easy to change. For everyone, the space for their own operation is relatively broad. If you don't talk, the appearance of clothes is your language, which silently expresses your truest attitude towards life. Dressing well makes life a lot easier.
Cai Lan believes that whether you wear a suit or jeans, you should wear what you want, want and like. Instead of wearing clothes that others want you to wear, this is the minimum freedom requirement in life.
In fact, to tell the truth, it is not good for a man like Cai Lan to be a husband, and a free man is more likely to be philandering, so it is best to be friends.
Because he is an interesting person, loves to visit the vegetable market, can talk about the past and discuss the present, and has a sexy mind and sharp words, which are rare in the world.
Cai Lan's friends are not inferior. He is one of the four great talents in Hong Kong. Aside from his fame and glitz, so are his lifelong friends. He spent a lot of time introducing it in the book.
First of all, Jin Yong, he is a stranger. He and Cai Lan have completely different tastes in food. "Cai Lan and I have the same view on some things, but I can't get used to his order." Once Mr. Jin Yong and I went to eat Cantonese porridge noodles, and he said the same thing.
Speaking of drinking, it is said that Mr. Jin Yong was a good drinker when he was young, but he seldom drank too much. Cai Lan said in his book that when he was drinking with him, watching him drink whisky without ice proved his capacity for drinking.
There is also an interesting story in the book: many years ago, after Mr. Jin Yong was seriously ill, the doctor forbade him to eat sweets.
But the more old urchins are forbidden to eat, the more they want to eat. He would hide a long piece of chocolate in a nurse's apron bag and put another piece of chocolate in his pajamas to reveal one piece.
When Mrs. Cha found out, she naturally confiscated his chocolate. He didn't take it out of the nurse's pocket until his wife left.
Maybe only strange people write strange things in those novels.
The other Ni Kuang, he can fight. Ni Kuang divided his decades into several eras. In each era, he played wholeheartedly and became an expert, which made Cai Lan appreciate it very much.
Cai Lan said that Ni Kuang was not very particular about playing. He lived through the carpenter's era, goldfish era, shell era, immigration era and so on. Enjoy every era, but at the end of each era, he will not miss it, nor will he leave anything collected.
This is his personality. During the shell age, he wrote many papers and was praised by experts of the International Shell Society. If he leaves one or two rare shells, they are still of great value, but it is not a pity that he gave them up with a smile.
The book also talks about Ni Kuang's "film age" initiated by Cai Lan. A few years ago, Cai Lan produced The Legend of Wesley, with a luxurious cast, Chow Yun Fat, Maggie Cheung, Siu-ho Chin …
Before Ni Kuang was allowed to play, Cai Lan had to say good or bad. At first, Ni Kuang refused, but the acting was accompanied by good wine and beautiful women. Ni Kuang thought it was a good job, so it got out of hand.
On the set, the two friends also made fun of each other, but Cai Lan still felt from the bottom of his heart that this old friend who can enjoy everything has a wider world than the average person.
Speaking of James J.S.Wong, it is said that he is brilliant. More than 2,000 songs written by him run through the golden age of popular culture in Hong Kong since the late 1970s.
James J.S.Wong once commented that he was "lewd, good wine and good money." However, in Cai Lan's eyes, this friend is very affectionate, especially his love past.
In his book, Cai Lan talks about what James J.S. Wang told his friends about his beloved wife Wai-Man Chan when he recorded the program "No Defense Tonight".
Wai-Man Chan is 20 years younger than Uncle Zhan. He loves James Wang Jiesheng wholeheartedly. They got married in Las Vegas, USA on 1995.
Everyone knows that Las Vegas is the most convenient and fastest place to get married in the world. Lm ho was in no hurry. He took the beautiful woman to the casino and had lunch, then he slowly thought about the marriage registration.
The wedding is simple. There are substitutes in the circular church. Without the preparation of the parties, they got married in less than an afternoon.
Cai Lan envied this love in his heart, because Wai-Man Chan's love for Wang Jiesheng seems to have only appeared in novels, and it is very affectionate. You can really love each other without paying back, or you can care about each other unconditionally. This is Cai Lan's most respected love.
If you have such a friend in your life, it is really a blessing in life. Their legend, talent and free and easy can save a lot of time and make you feel more interesting.
I heard a short story about Cai Lan. Once he was on a night flight plane, he was caught in the airflow and bumped. An Australian beside him clung to the armrest of his seat, but Cai Lan had been drinking.
After the plane stabilized, the man was puzzled: "Dude, have you ever died?" Cai Lan slowly put down his glass and said, "I'm alive."
This is probably the most authentic Cai Lan. If he is alive, he is not afraid of anything.
When he was young, Cai Lan knew: "Compared with the whole universe, we are only a matter of decades, and we hope to be happier." Therefore, he has been pursuing happiness in his own way all his life.
In his early years, he made movies popular, and later he became a host, writer, traveler, gourmet, calligrapher, painter and seal engraver ... He played various roles and was the best practitioner of experiential life.
Because of this experience, he warned young people:
Life is like a dream, rich as smoke. After seeing the vicissitudes of the world, it is also a noble way of life to be not tired of life and full of enthusiasm. ?
Have a playful attitude towards life. There are no small things in life. Eating and drinking and simple and pure appetite are the most difficult to satisfy. Studying hard can also be fun, whether you fail or succeed, it's fun.
Responsible for every love. When you are together, tell each other that you love him, let them know their own value, feel the beauty of love, stop loving, and don't blame yourself or others. Is the greatest respect for love.
Respect your friends and treat others sincerely. Cai Lan's friends are strange and eccentric, promiscuous, drunk and cunning, but everyone can live in peace and talk about everything. This is true friendship. Because we have the same hobbies, we cherish each other's contributions. I don't interfere with your other side. Everyone has his own hobbies, as long as you are a good person and don't harm the world.
The existence of such an old man also makes us reflect.
When we look around, we see that everyone is busy, tired, greedy or helpless. When we take it for granted that fun runs counter to progress, struggle and seizing the day, there are a group of people who, after being confused and struggling, jump out of the shackles of boredom and the limitations of the times and live a different world for themselves.
This may require full courage and extraordinary ability, but try to start with eating, drinking and having fun around you, despise utilitarianism, find your real hobbies and do some interesting hobbies, and gradually your life will be different.