I have asked many girls why they work so hard, and there are many answers.

Some people say that it is to improve themselves and spell out a better life;

Some people say that it is to be more independent and stand in this cruel world;

But more girls say that it is to be a better self and meet better people.

So, did these hard-working girls meet that better person? The reality is a bit hard-core. Most hard-working girls and the men they finally meet are a little lazy.

I wonder if there is any deviation in the definition of responsibility and responsibility by men nowadays. I have heard many men say, "You are so independent, what else do you want me to do?" "You have worked so hard, what else do you want me to work hard for?"

I don't know if the man who said this has ever thought that girls work hard to turn themselves into men, in order to work together with you and move forward hand in hand, in order to relieve your pressure, instead of pampering you like girls.

— 02 —

Before getting married, Cece was a charming young lady who didn't touch the sun, and her husband was an only child. They fell in love sweetly and got married happily.

The first day of marriage was not bad. Although my husband is a little old, he can still cook and clean the house with Cece. This little life is also full of fun.

However, life is not a house, and temporary interests will always disappear. Slowly, both of them no longer think that daily necessities are romantic, and both of them have their own ideas.

Cece thinks she may have a baby in a year or two. She didn't save enough money and her life was not good enough, so she changed her laziness and began to work hard.

So,

The first thing she does when she comes home from work is not to lie on the sofa and rest, but to cook and clean the room quickly, because there are still many things to do after dinner.

After dinner, I stopped sitting in front of the computer reading romance novels, but began to review my professional titles, hoping to raise my salary to a higher level.

On weekends, I no longer think about how to invite friends to eat, drink and have fun. On the contrary, I want to do some small business, plan to save money, learn to manage money, and make my life develop in a more promising direction.

She thinks that as long as she does this, she can work with her husband to make this small family prosperous.

Ironically, instead of being a catalyst for a better life, Cece's efforts have become a hotbed for her husband to fall. He used to be just a big boy, but now he has completely turned into a giant baby.

He no longer cooks, washes dishes and plays games with Cece, because he is afraid of Cece's anger and doesn't try to save money for Cece.

When it comes to big and small issues, he only has one sentence: "Do it at your discretion!" Even brazenly said to Cece: "You have to work hard, I can rely on you."

Cece wanted to cry and began to wonder if she should not work so hard.

Think about women. It's really pathetic. I used to be a little princess loved by my parents. I don't need to think about the future or worry about my life. I just need to dress myself up every day.

But after falling in love with a man and starting a family with him, what I think about is no longer the face of the girl with an S-shaped figure, but how to pay for this family.

Finally, one day, because of the hard life, I became the most despised figure, but suddenly I found that my teammates were so incompetent.

What can I do at this time? Divorce? Certainly not! You can only bear it silently and blame yourself for feeding the dog with true feelings!

— 03 —

Many men like to tell the story of Ang Lee, saying that when he was down and out, his wife made money to support him, without giving him pressure to support him to realize his dream, which led to the later Ang Lee.

But I also want to tell all the women who listen to this story that you can pay, work hard and accept a man's temporary depression, but you really need to keep your eyes open to see if this man really has the potential to succeed and the perseverance to work hard.

I don't know if you still remember Ma Dongmei's crying in Goodbye, Mr. Loser: "Charlotte, are you embarrassed?" Did you make money after graduation? Lying at home all day, limbs degenerate. I am a woman, cupping people at night and riding three rounds during the day, so I think I can save some money to buy a motorcycle, so I can save effort. You can be good, you can go out with me with my engine! "

In a few words, I vividly told a woman's sadness over the years. Because of love, I support you to pursue your dreams. Because of love, I am not afraid of suffering.

I thought that as long as I did this, you would work harder and our life would develop in the direction I wanted.

But I didn't expect my efforts to be an excuse for your slackness, and I didn't expect my devotion to you and my regret for you to be your attentions to other women.

Only by paying can we meet the right person. We don't want a man, but we don't allow him to step on our efforts to enjoy it. We won't be parasites of men, but we don't want to be the mother of men and continue to pay for him without regrets.

— 04 —

Qilu once said: "When a woman becomes more and more independent, the men around her tend to become more and more useless. Because each pair is complementary, some people are strong, while others will be weak. When you are proud of being independent and independent, you often lose support. Therefore, men need training, that is, let him help again and again. Men get things done. When they are husbands, they rely on prison. "

Actually, it's a fact. Every man has a heroic plot in his heart. They like the feeling of being dependent and protecting the weak partner. Therefore, when you are weak, he will naturally be strong, but when you are too strong, he will unconsciously retreat.

I have a friend who started from scratch with her husband and worked hard for her career. When she first started to open a restaurant, she was in charge of everything, and her husband helped in the kitchen and settled her accounts.

She is tired to death every day, and she is not angry when she sees her husband always shrinking behind her. She is always wondering why other people's husbands can rely on their wives, but they must take the lead. Why other people's wives can watch movies and play mahjong at home, but they must be busy from dawn to dark.

In this way, after two years, she suddenly became pregnant. Because of her great reaction, she can't be busy in the shop any more. When resting at home, she was worried about what to do in the store, thinking that as long as it didn't close down.

In this way, a few months later, she found that not only everything in the store was in good order, but the turnover increased instead of falling, and her husband also changed a lot, talking loudly, laughing and doing everything.

She began to have a baby at home with peace of mind, only to find that all the pain before was caused by herself. It's not that this man can't do it, but that he is too strong to cover his light and give him a chance to show, and he immediately makes himself sit up and take notice.

In fact, most men in this world still have a sense of responsibility. Even if he is like a child at ordinary times, you should give him room to grow up, and don't always think that he can't.

You always say he can't, then he can only really can't. If this situation continues for a long time, you will be the only one who feels tired.

Girl, you must remember that you are becoming more and more like a man because you want a better life, not making that man more and more like a woman.

Don't let your own efforts become an excuse for others not to make progress, and don't put on armor to condone his weakness.

A good life should be created together, not unilaterally pulled out by one person. No matter how hard one person tries, he can't compare with two people's Qi Xin.

For those men who give up their efforts because of women's efforts, I want to say that if you really decide to be a bitch, you might as well have children together. If you can do it, then I will support you with confidence and promise that you will never give up and stay together forever.

If not, please work with me. After all, I work so hard because I love you.