I don't know when it started, but I found that being virtuous became synonymous with cooking. If someone cooks in a circle of friends, whether it's Chinese food or western food, whether it's fried eggs or cooked noodles. In the comments below, there will definitely be a sentence: Wow, so virtuous. And there will be comments that whoever marries you will be happy in the future.
I cook for myself, not to lay the foundation for future marriage, not because I am worried that I will not be able to marry someone else's house in the future. I make desserts, Chinese food and western food, all for my own service. I can master a survival skill box for myself. I can love myself when nobody cares about me. When you get home after working overtime at night, you can turn on the induction cooker and cook yourself a bowl of hot soup noodles instead of instant noodles and snacks.
Chatting with my best friend, she told me that as long as I learn something, people around me will say: learn more and prepare for the future, so as not to be rejected by my mother-in-law when I go to other people's homes in the future. We learn things in order to help ourselves with one more skill and settle ourselves with this skill. Not everyone, the fundamental purpose of learning a skill is to attract men with more money in exchange for the rest of their lives.
There are many family members. Daughters encounter problems, not to be their strong backing, but to consider their reputation more. If you know that your son-in-law is cheating, the first thing you should do is not care about your daughter's heart. It is better to care about her intimately, but just tell her to put up with it. No man will cheat and turn a blind eye. You are divorced, who dares to do anything with you! You are not ashamed. We are still embarrassed. So the daughter listened to her parents' advice and closed her eyes for the rest of her life. On the surface, there is a complete family. In fact, she looks sad every day and cries every night, complaining why she can't catch her husband's heart.
When he found out that the other half was cheating or even domestic violence, he still pretended not to know and continued to live a blind life. Besides her parents, I think she has her own reasons. I am not advocating divorce. I think women should be themselves. Don't want to divorce, nothing more than these points:
A woman must live for herself first. Please love yourself before you love others. How can you love others if you don't even love yourself? You said you love your child, and you should give him a complete home.
Completeness is not equal to perfection. You don't have a good relationship with his father. You didn't feel it when the child was young. If the father hits the mother, will the child not be afraid and will there be a shadow in his heart?
In addition, if you have the financial ability, are you afraid that you can't afford to raise children? Even if you divorce, you will always be the child's biological parents, which cannot be changed. If we love children, it will not affect their father's love for mother's love, instead of tying them together with a wedding paper.
Liu Xiaoqing has been in prison and divorced, but it doesn't affect that she always has a girl's heart. After several divorces, some people are still willing to marry her.
You said I was different from her. She is a star and he is rich. But she is a woman who has suffered from marital misfortune like you. She has been in prison. What is the difference? The difference is mentality, and the difference is self-shaping. She went to prison for economic crimes, and she didn't waste time in her cell. Even in the cell, she didn't forget to study. It is precisely because of the belief that there is no shortage of charging and that she is not afraid of hardship and fatigue that she has the capital to be a girl all the time.
I think what is terrible is not what others think of you, but that you are looking at yourself with the ancient thought of three obedience and four virtues.
I mentioned earlier why I don't like people praising my virtue, because I always feel that all the information now seems to explain such a point. A virtuous woman educates her husband and children every day, works hard and gives everything for her family, and all she gets is the conclusion that "you are a yellow-faced woman, so I cheated", which is why I especially resist this word.
You ask me, what should I do if I really want to praise me? You can praise me: "people are kind and have good skills." Wow, hahaha. "
Before having sex with others, everyone is an independent individual. Learn to love yourself first, and then love others. After all, only you can help yourself, expand your territory and lead your kingdom.
Also, please don't use the word virtuous to praise a girl who can cook.