Once an army came to my house as a guest, I smiled and said, "Your boy is really popular! So many friends are really enviable. "
The army didn't pick me up, just sighed and said, "Alas, there are many friends, but how many people can really talk to each other?" On the surface, they are all very happy. Who is sincere and who is hypocritical? It's really not easy to distinguish clearly. "
When the army said this, I probably guessed something. The father of Dajun is a famous local entrepreneur with assets of hundreds of millions. When the army was very young, there was already a BMW car to take him to and from school. When he came of age, his father gave him a Porsche as an adult gift. When he was a child, his father gave him thousands of dollars as pocket money every month. Now, his monthly pocket money is more than100000 yuan.
The army has always been generous. Every time he goes out with friends, whether he eats kebabs in the street or goes to a star-rated hotel for dinner, whether he goes to the movies or sings in KTV, he pays the bill. The generous style of the army brought him many friends.
However, it is not clear whether these friends come for these external material conditions or really for him.
I can't help but get lost in thought-how to judge whether a friend really treats you? How to judge what kind of friends are worth making for a lifetime?
I thought about it for a long time and probably got some answers. A friend worthy of deep friendship usually has the following qualities:
I remember last year, we went to my classmate Yang Yang's wedding, and everyone agreed to wrap a red envelope from 400 yuan. A fan is out of town, so please ask his friend Hao Hao to bring him a red envelope.
A fan said to Hao Hao: "My mother was ill in the past two years. She had several major operations and spent more than 300,000 yuan. Now she still owes a lot of money. I really don't have enough money, so I have to pack 200. " A fan said helplessly that something was revealed in her words.
On the wedding day, Haohao took out 200 yuan money and stuffed it into a red envelope with the name of a fan written on it. I asked Hao Hao, "Why did you do this?" A fan said, "Everyone went out of 400 yuan, only Haohao went out of 200 yuan, for fear that he would be embarrassed. Put 200 yuan in, so we packed as much as we did. "
Haohao didn't take credit for a fan. On the contrary, in order not to hurt a fan's self-esteem, Haohao didn't tell a fan about it.
Thought of here, my heart was touched. I didn't expect Hao Hao, who has always been careless, to be so careful.
I think the person who can take the initiative to think of you must be the one who is really good to you.
A few days ago, I participated in an appraisal activity, and the appraisal result is directly related to the number of votes in my circle of friends. I forwarded the link to my friend Mu Mu and asked Mu Mu to vote for me.
Mu Mu didn't say anything, just click into the voting interface to help me vote. But also actively forwarded it to the circle of friends, with the article: "Please vote for my good friend, 23rd, 23rd, 23rd, and say the important things three times! Thank you, hehe. " Not only that, she also forwarded the links to various family groups, fellow villagers and classmates to help me canvass.
A warm current is surging in my heart. I didn't ask Mu Mu to help me forward it, but she thought that forwarding it would make more people see it and help me get more tickets, so she took the initiative to help me forward it.
A true good friend is something like this. Even if you don't ask for something, they will take the initiative to do it as long as they think it will help you.
They will always pay more money for you than you expected.
Once, friends talked about local food and spicy griddle chicken. I casually said, "I dare not eat spicy food."
Later, everyone went out to eat, and several of my friends liked spicy food very much. When we were discussing what hot pot bottom material to order, our friend Tong Tong said, "Order a mandarin duck pot, you dare not eat spicy food at night."
"How do you know that I dare not eat spicy food?" I was a little surprised to ask Tong Tong.
"When chatting before, you said it." Tong Tong said with a smile.
Unexpectedly, Tong Tong remembered what I had said by accident.
The unimportant things are forgotten in the blink of an eye, and the important things will be remembered in my heart. Because I keep you in my heart, I will also keep small things about you in my heart.
In the latest issue of Very quiet distance, two sisters in the entertainment circle, Na Ying and Jiang Liwen, also appeared as special guests.
During the chat, when talking about Na Yingfa's statement facing false rumors, Jiang hit the nail on the head and pointed out that Na Ying's personality is too straightforward and outspoken, and she often doesn't use her head, which is also easy to offend people. I hope she will pay more attention in the future.
Jiang also gave an example to show that Na Ying's words were not touching, and she had reached the point where she could not take medicine.
Jiang said, "I specially prepared red dates and bacon for her during the Spring Festival. As a result, Na Ying asked me if you were not in Beijing during the Spring Festival. These things cannot be disposed of. "
Jiang went on to say, "I was furious. I kindly gave her something, but she thought I was dealing with garbage. Fortunately, I know who she is. If I were someone else, I would definitely say that she is not. "
Jiang is really quick-witted He bluntly said to Na Ying: "You are outspoken, and people who like you will think you are very straightforward and have a lot of temperament. But as your good sister, I still hope you can pay more attention, talk more and don't use your head. "
If you are not a good sister, how can you say these offensive words?
There are many flatterers, but few people are outspoken.
Most people prefer to listen to praise rather than criticism. If the other person is a narrow-minded person, his own kind suggestions will not work, but will arouse the other person's disgust, but he will be self-defeating. So most people don't want to make trouble for themselves, even if they find any shortcomings in each other, they don't want to point them out to their faces.
Those who are willing to point out your shortcomings to your face must be those who really treat you. Pointing out your shortcomings is not good for him, but it can help you become a better yourself.
A person who would rather risk offending you and try to convince you is definitely worthy of your deep friendship.
When a person is on the rise, you can't judge whether others really treat him, because those who really treat you will take good care of you at any time, and those in have it both ways will add icing on the cake when you are satisfied.
Adversity is the best time to see if a person really treats you.
I have seen couples who ask for divorce because one party owes a huge debt; I have also seen cases where parents were unfortunately seriously ill and their children ignored them; I even met two close friends who are like sisters. One side is in economic crisis, while the other side is closed to the outside world.
Too many people want to share the benefits, but too few people are willing to share the risks.
Whether a person really treats you or not can best be seen when you are in adversity.
Those versatile people will avoid you when you are in trouble and draw a clear line with you so as not to hurt the fish in the pool. And those who really treat you will take the initiative to stand up and lend you a hand.
If you lose, he will accompany you to make a comeback.
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There are very few friends worthy of deep friendship. When we meet such friends, we must cherish them and never take each other's efforts for granted. Those friends who treat us sincerely deserve our sincere treatment.
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