Wen | Wen Er

When I was about to go to bed at night, Xinxin, the mother of a second child with both children, called me and cried. She said that she now regrets giving birth to a second child and feels ashamed of her son. I feel that what I said to my son when I was planning to have a second child, even if you have a younger sister (brother) in the future, my mother's love for you two will be the same, which is a big deception.

Since my daughter was born, I have devoted most of my time and thoughts to her. Even my son, who is less than 4 years old, is required to let his sister play first when playing with toys. After dinner tonight, I was holding my daughter to make her happy, and my son came to let me hold her. I said angrily, you still need a hug from your mother at this age, can't you see that your mother is holding your sister? My son went back to the house with his head down, and he didn't let me tell stories when he went to bed, so he went to sleep quietly. Seeing my son like this, my guilt and self-blame are growing like vines. He is only a child under 4 years old. How much harm my eccentricity has done to him.

after listening to Yan Yan's words, I thought of myself. The reason why I don't have a second child is that I really can't make a bowl of water even. In fact, I'm sure it's hard for most mothers to do it, because people are always "eccentric".

1. Pay attention to the weak

People will naturally pay more attention to the weak groups, which is human instinct. Just like at home, with Erbao, because Erbao is weak, her mother will pay more attention and care to Erbao, and naturally Erbao will be favored and cared for more. Similarly, if any child in the family is sickly, it is naturally the focus of the family. Many people take this for granted.