1. Don't hide the truth from the person you love. Explain the situation to them appropriately. You need to talk about your troubles. They will become your spiritual and even practical supporters.

Try not to hide the truth from the unit leaders and colleagues who care about you. I believe they will give you understanding and help.

3. Give a moderate and sincere answer to the neighbors' inquiries and concerns, so as to eliminate speculation and curiosity, and you can avoid the embarrassing situation of being afraid of being known by others because of hiding.

Let the children integrate into the normal society and get out of their closed world, so we should pay attention to making necessary preparations. In public, we should calmly face children's misconduct and deal with it calmly. At the same time, we should briefly explain the child's condition and apologize to the relevant personnel and people around us. This is much better than getting angry and losing your mind because of face.

5. Find an indomitable education and training institution for children, so that children can receive education and skills that the family can't give.

Second, learn to be a teacher and teach children to learn skills.

In the process of development, autistic children have fallen far behind normal children because of diseases. If parents overprotect and replace their children out of guilt and psychological compensation, then everything you do will only increase the difficulties for autistic children in self-care and language communication, because they will give them something as soon as they lose their temper. Therefore, children will only become more clumsy, willful and difficult to manage. So what is the correct way?

1, learn to be a teacher and teach children skills. Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Especially in a family with disabled children, parents' duty is not only to take care of his life, but also to teach children all kinds of skills that they should master but have not yet learned. Even if there are educational institutions willing to accept your children, family education and training are always indispensable.

2. Say "no" to your child. When children have very wrong behaviors or behaviors we don't want, such as taking things casually in the store, taking off pants in public, and rolling on the ground if they don't meet the requirements, parents should help solve the problem decisively and quickly on the one hand, and say something that shows your attitude firmly and briefly on the other hand, such as "no", "no" and "bad". It is a natural thing for autistic children to gradually establish the concept of what they can't do.

3. Train children to follow instructions. If parents want to succeed in education, they should first train your autistic children to listen to instructions, so that they can complete the education and training plan step by step. Children must be asked to do things by themselves, such as dressing, eating and going to the toilet. Ask him to do what he can't do step by step. In most cases, the first autistic child will strongly refuse orders, such as putting him on the balance table, and he will say nothing. At this time, you should persist and don't give in. No matter how he cries, as long as he can set foot on it, it is the victory of education. At this time, he will be rewarded and consolidated several times, and things will be smooth in the future. Sometimes, because children don't understand the meaning of instructions, they won't carry them out. For example, squat down and pick up the building blocks on the ground. Maybe he doesn't understand the meaning of the verbs "squat" and "pick". At this time, parents should pay attention to give their children a demonstration, let him understand and then practice.

The third is to prepare for long-term education.

It would be great if professionals can help you make education and training plans. In addition, parents can learn to make their own plans by reading relevant materials. The following questions should be considered when making a plan:

1, the present situation of children's skills: can they eat by themselves? Can you handle defecation? Is walking and running coordinated? Can you jump? Can you imitate sounds and distinguish colors? Whether attention is easily distracted, etc. The plan begins with the movements that the child has not yet mastered but is about to develop. For example, if a child can already take a spoon, the next step is to train him to master the skills of taking food from a bowl with a spoon in a certain period of time.

2, the plan should consider the possibility of success, that is, in a short time. At least three behaviors should be learned every week, and the selected behaviors and goals to be achieved must be gradually realized by children through hard work in a week or two. And keep practicing every day to ensure the time and frequency of practice.

When making a plan, we should also consider the importance of skills. In other words, whether training skills are the most important at present. For example, children are uncomfortable in eating independently and handling defecation, so it is more important to train the latter than the former, which involves social behavior problems. Therefore, when making a plan, you should put it in the front and gradually learn your eating skills. Training must not be fully rolled out.

In addition, parents should be prepared for their children's long-term education and training. The difficulties of autistic children are obvious. And almost for life. Even some autistic children with high IQ, although they can go to school and even have special talents in music, mathematics or other aspects, will still have inappropriate behaviors due to their ignorance of the world, especially in understanding profound language and social skills, and need lifelong help from their parents. Not to mention those severely disabled children, parents should persevere and make long-term efforts to improve their situation.

Fourth, look at children's progress objectively.

Autistic children vary greatly among individuals, and you can't find two autistic children at all. Therefore, in education and training, we put special emphasis on personal education and training. When evaluating children's progress, first of all, you should not simply compare normal children. Generally, the overall development of autistic children is 3-5 years slower than that of normal children.

Secondly, you should not compare another autistic child as a simple object, because each autistic child has different factors, such as the cause of the disease, the degree of disability and the time of education and training, and its development has its own characteristics. Third, you should compare your child's today with the past. The best way is to take notes. You can also use words to describe or use charts to record, so that parents can easily see every progress of their children.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) Family members unite as one.

The unity of the whole family, at least the unity of parents, is an important factor in successfully raising autistic children.

In a United, intimate, harmonious, comfortable and safe family, children can easily enjoy happiness and receive education. Therefore, parents are advised to do the following:

1. Both sides should try their best to control their emotions and not lose their temper, nag or get angry. Even if they can't sleep at night and are restless during the day, it won't help. The only way is to face up to reality and insist on education.

2, don't blame each other because of the child's disability, and don't look for some hypothetical evidence to infer that the child's cause is inherited by one side of the family. How can you draw a conclusion on a problem that even modern medicine can't explain?

We should support each other's decision, put the problem behind us when there are differences, and reach an agreement through discussion, instead of quarreling, we should "cooperate". It is unfortunate enough to have a disabled child, and this family can't bear any more trauma.

4. Encourage each other. A family with disabled children is often easily troubled by trouble, frustration, disappointment and helplessness. If both parents give their children love, don't forget to give each other love and comfort, which is undoubtedly a great spiritual strength.

If you try your best to create a small world of activities for children, you should arrange time for parents and children to play activities and games together every day, establish parent-child feelings with children and integrate them into their world. You must not make education and training an inhuman mechanical operation.

In addition, it is also very important to help children integrate into the surrounding environment.

The quality of neighbors and social members of autistic children has a direct impact on helping families bear the pressure, including positive or negative pressure. Neighbors' attitudes and behaviors can not only add courage and confidence to the families of autistic children, but also make the families of autistic children worse, and collapse because they are overwhelmed. Careful and kind neighbors may discover the "autism" (abnormal) behavior characteristics of children earlier than parents, and remind their parents to pay attention to them, so that children can be diagnosed and trained as soon as possible. At the same time, neighbors can also create a "protective" environment for children, so that they can get the experience of interacting with social members outside their families and reduce their frustration in social interaction.

Therefore, as parents of autistic children, we should first overcome our inferiority complex and not swallow our troubles in our hearts. Opening your heart to your neighbors and colleagues is the first step to accept the challenges of life, because it is not enough to face your children at home alone. Today, when the whole society is not aware of autism, parents should not only learn how to face their children, but also learn how to take their children to face this society that is not tolerant of disabled groups.