Why are some people successful in official career and others down and out?
In this world, talented "poor people" abound. They have received a good education in terms of talents, and even have the ability to be down-to-earth, but why did they end up poor and accomplish nothing? And many people without any talent can succeed and be proud of the spring breeze? We all shoulder heavy responsibilities. Why are our lives so different?
The reason is the world! To some extent, whether you know the way of the world determines whether a person's life is rich or poor!
All successful people know this without exception. They know the essence of society and the hidden rules of interpersonal communication, what the other person needs and what the other person is thinking-if you want to catch a fish, you must think like a fish! You can hardly see him running around, but he has quietly achieved his goal in life. What is their password for success? In fact, it is very simple, just a word of the world!
People who come out to mix must understand the world! This is a basic requirement. If you don't understand the world, why come out alone? Because it is doomed from the beginning that there is no possibility of success, it is only a waste of energy to go on like this. And a person who is proficient in the use of the way of the world, even if his ability is poor at first, is promising to come out and mix, because as long as he masters this unique skill, he will be able to usher in a turning point in his destiny sooner or later. Even if you are a martial arts expert and don't understand the world, you won't be around for long, and you will definitely be cornered. This is a fact. As long as you think a little, you can come up with many facts around you. You will find that really smart people do things just right, not only get real benefits, but also lose their reputation; Some people are mean, many people help others, but no one says he is good and has cultivated many enemies around him. This is mostly due to ignorance of the world.
Life is easy, life is easy, and life is not easy. Everyone must face fierce competition! Because they didn't understand the world, many famous heroes in history were finally punished-they didn't fall by the enemy's sword, but died by their own hands. There is no place to sell regret medicine in the world, where blood splashes all over the floor and brains are smeared all over the floor. Even if there is, it's too late to regret it. Their glorious life ended in such a hurry. How can we not understand such painful advice written in blood and brain?
It's even harder to get out and get along. If you are not careful, you will be poor and accomplish nothing. If you don't succeed in your career, even if you have a good education in a talented person and a beautiful woman, you will become shit! If you have a successful career, even gluttony will be touted as a genius! Human feelings are cold and warm, and the world is cold. This is the cruelty of reality. China has too many people and too much pressure to survive. If you want to mix well outside and get ahead, you must know a little about the rules of the game. Indeed, life is like a game. People who don't know the rules of the game will eventually die ugly, but those who skillfully use the rules of the game can have fun in the game, have fun and have fun!
There are no eternal friends and enemies in the world, only eternal interests. The essence of interpersonal communication is actually the exchange of interests. If you don't understand the principle of interest exchange and take all the benefits for yourself, then no matter how powerful the talents are, they can only become useless blank paper!
Never look down on people who look vulgar now. In a few years, they may be the most decent people.
You can't eat if your edge is too exposed-anyone who makes a great career should cultivate the ability of "hiding dew" When you are smart, you are smart, and when you are stupid, you are stupid. If necessary, even pretend to be a "moron" and be a "fool" is also wise.
The old man who set up a stall on the flyover to calculate divination can pretend to be a master and fool those who look smart as long as he gets a beard. Why can it succeed? It is human nature to seek good fortune and avoid evil. This innate nature cannot be completely obliterated and eliminated after reading The Amethyst for a few days. If you can find a normal person in this world who doesn't know how to seek good fortune and avoid evil, I can give you one million without hesitation!
From another perspective, the human nature of being too poor and loving the rich has promoted social development. If everyone likes being poor and backward, who wants to do manual labor? Who wants to engage in creative thinking? Where do you get food, clothing, use and shelter? In this way, society will stagnate or even go backwards! Therefore, we should regard being too poor and loving being rich as a normal social phenomenon.
Why should others give you their hard-earned lunch? In other words, will you give your hard-earned lunch to others? If you don't think you can do it, why do you believe others can? Therefore, instead of pinning unfounded hopes on others, it is better to work hard and earn your own lunch!
In the face of those who are silent and expressionless, we need to be very careful in everything we say and do, and we can't rush to show our cards to him. These people are often very shrewd and scheming. If you say or do things thoughtlessly, it's easy for them to take advantage of you!
Most relatives and friends can only share joys and sorrows, but they can't share happiness. Between the boss and the employees, most of them can only share happiness, not share weal and woe.
People are not afraid of not being smart, but they are afraid of being too smart. If you are too smart, you will be blind, arrogant, ignorant and get carried away. At this time, people who seem smart are actually half fools!
The vast majority of people who have suffered disasters in ancient and modern times are smart people. People nowadays are afraid that they are not smart enough. This is stupid.
A beautiful woman begins to become ugly when she shows off her beauty. When a wise man shows off his cleverness, he begins to become stupid! A talented person, when showing off his talents, begins to become worthless!
If the profit of 10% was reasonable, you could have got 1 1%, but 9% is still the best policy, because only in this way will the subsequent business continue.
People who mix in officialdom must be careful everywhere and always pay attention. Even if you have been honored for most of your life, if you finally make a big mistake, your life may be ruined. Life is so wonderful. Being a man is like farming, and the final harvest is the standard of evaluation.
"Take, take; Take it, take it; If you take it, you will get nothing. " In other words, if the initial expectation is first-class, the final effect may be only the middle; If the initial expectation is only the middle stream, the final effect can only be the last stream; If expectation is only the last stream, you may get nothing in the end.
On some special occasions, some smart people will take the initiative to give the leading role to others, and they are willing to be supporting roles. This is not a failure, even a strategic victory. He gave up only the name of a protagonist, but he won tangible benefits.
There is a saying like this: "The requested thing is gone." Although China people advocate the golden mean, they go to extremes everywhere in real life. For this reason, now the country advocates a harmonious society, the core meaning of which is the golden mean, so that the world should not be extreme and extreme.
For a China person, how precious life is and how precious face is. If you give him enough face, he will give you everything! But if you hurt his face and self-esteem, he will hate your guts and push you to him completely!
Don't criticize others emotionally, pay special attention to the facts and avoid evaluating others' personalities, interests and family upbringing. If you can put forward solutions when criticizing, you will be more constructive and you will not forget to affirm the advantages of others. In addition, if humorous language can be used in criticism, the effect will often be better.
Sweet talk is everyone's weakness, and no matter who it is, it is easy to be fooled. Almost all women in the world like to listen to sweet words, and many women marry the wrong person because of men's sweet words.
The cleverest emotional investment skill is to give timely help, not icing on the cake.
Show your subordinates how powerful you are at first, then slowly relax your standards and let them appreciate your concession and easygoing. This is the management wisdom of CEO.
No matter how unpleasant the other person's words are, let him finish and listen to what he really wants to express.
God always loves those who silently forbear when we see other people's scenery when we are young, so we don't have to be jealous. As long as you persist in doing things, be positive and serious, everyone will usher in their own success!
If you want to catch a fish, you must think like a fish. If you like strawberries again, the fish will not pay attention; The fish won't take the bait until it eats its favorite earthworm.
A person who does a good deed for others, don't care about it, and don't make it public for others to praise, so even a bucket of millet can be rewarded. A person who helps others with property and always asks others to return, then even if he pays two thousand gold, it is difficult to have a penny of merit.
There is a classic formula: desire-intensity = degree of pain. When desire far exceeds strength and cannot be realized in any case, it is the most painful time for a person, and it is also easy to be possessed.
A person is often the most dangerous in the spring breeze.
Don't keep good things for yourself, but give some to everyone.
Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; When the taste is strong, subtract three points for people to taste. This is a method of bliss.
When the road is narrow, leave a step for others to walk; Share some with others while enjoying delicious food. This is the best way to succeed in the world.
When I was a child, my father often warned me: "Don't eat delicious food alone, but give it to everyone appropriately, otherwise friends will not play with you, others will hate you, and you will be excluded if you are good." At that time, I was puzzled by these words with a grain of salt, so I always fought with others for some trivial things.
When I grew up and stepped into the society, the tempering of reality and complicated interpersonal relationships made me fully understand the profound meaning of this sentence.
Only by understanding this truth can we suddenly understand the reasons why successful people succeed. For example, children get together to play games, and one of them is hungry, so he takes out a delicious cake from his bag and happens to be seen by everyone. At this time, he has two choices: give some to everyone or keep it for himself. The choice is made in an instant, but it can lead to completely different results in a lifetime.
1. For everyone. Little friends like him and support him because they get delicious food. From this moment on, he stood out from this group of peers and became a well-deserved leader of this small group, and he will become a person with strong appeal in the future.
2. All by yourself. Nobody's watching. Put it all in your mouth. The cake is his, which is no problem. But everyone regarded him as a cheapskate, and no one played with him in the future. He lost a chance to be a wolf in the team and lost the trust of the team, and turned into another narrow lane. Growing up along this trajectory, he is likely to be an ordinary person in the future.
A casual choice determines a person's life. Understand this truth, will you still despise the necessary sharing? You know, not everything is a narrow road, and the brave win. Knowing how to share with others at the right time can benefit everyone, and finally you will be crowned the winner!
Getting along with people is often not a single choice-with or without him, but a variety of choices, which can win-win. Some people don't understand, they only know that the larger foe, either you die or I live. Examples of fame and fortune and mutual destruction are often staged around us. Such people never realize that taking a step when necessary can bring greater benefits to themselves.
There was a young civil servant who graduated from a prestigious school and was brilliant. Wherever he went, he went to the mountains and rivers with the momentum of a stock index. He thinks that others are useless ants and are not worthy to compare with himself. "I have the strongest ability, so it is most worthwhile." He always thinks so. He doesn't share benefits with his colleagues, but takes the lead in everything.
What was the result? Colleagues in the department joined hands to form an alliance, compete with this "excellent talent", drag him down, hold him back, and make trouble for him everywhere. No matter how selfless and conscientious you are, we just don't cooperate. It is really more difficult for a person to make a difference in this environment than to ascend to heaven!
In the end, of course, it is the young man who can't do his work well and runs into a wall wherever he goes. His talent is trapped in his stomach, and he can't even complain! As a result, the leader complained bitterly and his colleagues were not pitiful. He didn't make a good impression in front of everyone. At this point, the chair assigned to him by the unit should be taken back.
Do you think it's sad to just want to monopolize the interests and lose everything? There is a saying: "There are no eternal friends and enemies in the world, only eternal interests." This sentence shows that the fundamental problem of communication between countries and people is actually the distribution of interests. Knowing the distribution of benefits actually reveals the essence of human nature and the truth of society.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Human feelings are repeated, and the world is rugged. If you can't go anywhere, take a step back; If you can go where you want to go, you must give up one-third of your job. " It means that the world is changeable and the road of life is bumpy. Where the road to life is impassable, we should know the truth of paying in one step; Where you can go, you must also give people three points of convenience in order to turn your luck into success and be smooth sailing.
It is not only a way to be human, but also a wonderful strategy to broaden interpersonal resources. You give him a step today, and he will give you two steps back tomorrow, which is equivalent to making a good friend and opening a convenient door to social success. If you don't understand the principle that all benefits are shared and all benefits are absorbed by yourself, then no matter how powerful the talent is, it can only be useless white paper! If you learn shareism, the benefits will be distributed to everyone, and everyone's psychology will be balanced, so that everyone will definitely join hands with Qi Xin to help you succeed.
All successful "cattle people" know this without exception. Most of them spend a lot of money to benefit their followers, so they are dead set and go through fire and water. Even the smartest big businessmen follow this idea. For example, if you have the ability to undertake a big project, you should also pull your partners to develop it together, so as to show your tolerance of "staying one step on the road and letting three points go" and declare that you are not the kind of person who breaks people's financial resources and monopolizes the source of happiness.
That's the truth. Being alone is the most dangerous. Everyone has soup to drink, this is king! This way of life is a "hidden rule" that China has been pursuing for thousands of years. Do you know that this way of life determines whether a person's life is bumpy or smooth!
It's easy to go without food if you are too exposed.
The eagle stands like a sleep, and the tiger walks like a disease, which means catching people and biting people. Therefore, a gentleman should be smart and not show off his talents, so that he can have the strength to shoulder his responsibilities.
The eagle seems to be asleep when standing, and the tiger seems to be seriously ill when walking. In fact, this is a clever way for them to feed people and eat people. Therefore, a really smart person should not show off or show off his talents, so that he can do great things.
Too sharp-edged is easy to have no food-this is the advice written by the ancestors who poured blood and brains! Unfortunately, many people just don't understand this truth. They think they are smart and capable, and everyone is tofu, but in fact they are a flower and care nothing. This kind of person is most likely to have no food, and even lost his life for it.
Everyone has heard the saying that "smart people keep their mouths shut, smart people keep their mouths shut", which means that really smart people are all stunted and never show off everywhere, but wait for an opportunity to make a splash. It is good to have talent, but no matter how strong your ability is, you can't show it off all day. Just like wealth, having money is of course a good thing, but will you show off in the street wearing gold and silver and carrying a cash box every day?
Talent is the foundation of a person's success. A talented person can get many opportunities to perform. An incompetent person can't succeed even if he shows himself again. However, a talented person shows off himself too much, suppresses the performance space of others, harms the interests of others, and will inevitably arouse the unanimous envy of all. If it develops to this point, his future and career will be very dangerous and may be dragged down at any time!
Zhuge Ke in the late Three Kingdoms was the son of Zhuge Liang's brother Zhu Gejin. Born into a noble family, the family education is strict. At an early age, he showed the characteristics of quick thinking and extraordinary talent. Everyone thinks that his talent surpasses that of his father, Zhu Gejin. However, Zhu Gejin was not happy to have such a good son, but felt that Zhuge Ke would bring misfortune to his family. Why? Zhu Gejin said, "However, he is impatient and willful. He likes to express himself too much. His sharp edge is too exposed, which will eventually lead to great disaster. " Sure enough, as my father expected, when Zhuge Ke grew up in power, he acted arbitrarily, overreached himself, thought he was superior, and became arrogant, which eventually caused public anger, was designed and killed by his ministers, and the family involved was also eliminated.
In this world, talented but excluded people can be seen everywhere. The talent in their hands is like having a sword handed down from ancient times. Everyone will brag about it and hold it in his hand, for fear that others will not know that he has amazing talent and foolishly make himself a living target that adults want to fight. They couldn't see the fire pit under their feet, so they fell into it unconsciously.
Talent is like a double-edged sword, which can stab others as well as yourself, so you should use it carefully and put it in the scabbard. Many times, being too sharp will lead to the jealousy and frame-up of villains. Anyone who does great things should cultivate the power of "hiding the dew". Hong Yingming said in "Caigen Tan": "The article is good, and it is just right." The use of intelligence should be the same, which is beneficial, but just right. When you are smart, you are smart, when you are stupid, you are stupid, and stupidity is also a kind of wisdom. When necessary, it is wise to pretend to be an imbecile and be a fool.
When a person encounters setbacks, he may complain and shout-I am so talented, why did I end up poor and accomplish nothing? Innocent injustice in the world! Is it naive and unfair in the world? No, because he doesn't understand the basic world. He brought all this on himself. In the face of failure in life, should he reflect on himself? Have you gone too far? Is it arrogant, too prominent, ignoring everyone's feelings? Do you think you are so smart that everyone else is stupid? If a person reflects in this way, he can find the crux of the problem and then treat the symptoms. After Ming Che's epiphany, he will really mature!
Turning over the twenty-four histories, we can easily find that there are countless loyal ministers and good generals who were killed by villains through conspiracy. On the one hand, because the villain is too treacherous and cruel, on the other hand, isn't it because the victim doesn't understand the wisdom hidden by Yingzhu? They are too ostentatious and talented, at the same time, they are supercilious and don't pay attention to their colleagues around them. It's strange that such people don't lose their heads.
There is a saying in the western world: "The cleverness of the French is hidden inside, and the cleverness of the Spanish is exposed outside." The former is really clever, while the latter is false clever. In interpersonal communication, you must not be smart, but learn to be really smart-don't just stretch; Only know how to move forward and never retreat; I only know how to express myself, but I don't know how to hide my strength. In this case, even if we are full of talents, we will still be empty-handed!
Walking in the society, each of us should master this kind of low-key and forbearing Juexue. Pay more attention and less attention, and don't take out all the "treasures" in your stomach like bamboo sticks and beans. If you don't understand this truth, no matter how much treasure you have in your stomach, it will eventually become someone else's bag!
Rabbits bite when they are in a hurry. Don't push your opponent to the wall.
Kill Du Xing and let him go. If there is no room for one of them, such as those who plug mouse holes, all roads will be blocked and all good things will be bitten.
Eliminate evil, put an end to villains, and sometimes give them a chance to turn over a new leaf. If you force the other person to have no place to stand, it's like blocking all the exits where rats can escape, and when there is no way out, you will bite all the good things that are given to you.
Why do rabbits bite when they are in a hurry? You know, rabbits are very docile animals and won't fight back unless they have to. But if you are cornered, you will definitely put all your eggs in one basket!
It is for this reason that Reservoir Dogs can't fight. If he is in a hurry, he will come up and fight hard with you. Don't run after the enemy, because the trapped beast is still fighting and dying, which will cause unnecessary harm to you. People should understand this basic common sense when doing things. You will benefit a lot from keeping each other alive. Some people like to hit people when they are down, but the result is that their opponents will never die, and their foothold is getting narrower and narrower.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, General Dou Gu led an army to attack the Huns. Tarquin, with only 500 people, flew in from the depths of the desert in order to rob the people of food during the autumn harvest. But soon after they entered the customs, they were surrounded by Dou Gu's military forces in a valley. The Han army blocked the exits on both sides of the valley, but it failed to annihilate this small area of 500 people by attacking inward for more than a dozen times. Huns formed a circle, hid behind stones and kept shooting arrows. Taniguchi is full of bodies of Han soldiers.
Dou Gu saw this situation and ordered his men to withdraw the soldiers at the exit side and leave the exit on the other side. The soldiers were puzzled: "General, the enemy is trapped in a tight encirclement, even if it is inserted, it can't fly out!" " Besides, there are only a few hundred people! As long as we attack for a few more days, we can destroy them! I wonder why you let them escape. ""Of course they won't escape. " Dou Gu said, "Now they have no way out. They must all move forward and fight to the death. Besides, the valley is rich in vegetation and abundant in water, so they can't die. In the long run, even if our army finally wins a great victory, it has already suffered heavy casualties, so we have to let them out and kill them in the pursuit. "
Sure enough, as Dou Gu expected, when the Xiongnu army escaped from the valley, they saw a chance to live, just like frightened birds, and fled desperately to the north. The formation was scattered and people were in chaos. No one thought about desperately returning to the Han army. Han cavalry led by Dou Gu kept a certain distance behind, constantly shooting with bows and arrows, and wiped out the invading enemy in less than a day.
Soldiers were born after being executed. This truth is easy to understand. If we push the enemy to the wall and see no hope, they will burn their bridges and come with us for a larger foe. At this time, the enemies are all tigers, and they are the last stop. It won't be that easy for us to win this battle! Even if you win in the end, you will pay a huge price and get no benefits.
In history, examples like this are common. During the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan sent troops to Le Yi to attack Qi, but only Jimo City did not attack. They are surrounded. They are attacking and fighting. At this time, the Qi army was on the verge of extinction. All of a sudden, Tian Dan, a famous official of the State of Qi, shouted, "How can we have a home when the country is dying?" Therefore, every soldier has the determination to serve the country to the death, and even recovered all the lost ground in World War I. We assume that if Yan Jun can let the other side live when attacking Jimo City, they will run for their lives. How can there be morale? Even if we fight in another place, the other side will be frightened by the experience of failure, and it is also the easiest opponent to deal with and the weakest link. Aiming at this link, how can we be invincible?
The same is true of business. Niu Gensheng, president of Mengniu, said: "Don't push your competitor to the wall, don't provoke him easily ... Don't do stupid things that hurt 1000 people and cost 800 people!" This is a daily - happened thing. When we are aggressive and push our opponents to the corner, we often fail to make a fortune or even lose all our money. Because when the other side has no way to go, it will definitely give us a fatal blow with crazy strategies like rabbits riding eagles! In this way, even if we beat our opponent, we will be hit hard. In this case, it is not a victory, but an invincible failure.
The boss of a trading company in Shanghai is good at doing business. He used the annexation strategy of "Big Fish eat small fish" to eat all the local enterprises, large and small, and formed a large group with local monopoly. One of his favorite poems is Mao Zedong's poem, "It's better to chase the poor and bandits than to chase the fame and learn the overlord". It is vicious and leaves no room, so it expands rapidly.
But this has offended many people, especially those who have lost their current financial resources and have no chance to find another way to live. Just as the company's business was booming and its reputation reached its peak, some opponents he defeated collected evidence of collusion and black-box operation in an investment and reported it to the economic investigation department. This overbearing business empire collapsed in an instant.
The same is true of being a man. We will always meet all kinds of people, and many people may expose their weaknesses and mistakes. At this time, if you press hard, you will catch others' mistakes and hit them to the end, without giving them any face or a step down. In this way, the other party will be tit for tat with you and fight to the end, either he dies or you die! Not only can you not be normal friends, but you may also become enemies for generations. This is very bad for your network expansion and will definitely seriously affect your future career development.
We must understand the rule "Never push your opponent to the wall". For those harmless little mistakes, we should generously give each other room to adjust and correct, and even help each other cover up if necessary. In this way, you will not only get heartfelt thanks, but also get the unwavering support of everyone!