The ultimate goal of chatting or dating is to upgrade your relationship, not to make friends. You should be more concerned about the direction of your chat topic than what you say.
The topic direction of chat is divided into three stages:
First, open topics: third-party topics, hobbies.
Second, related topics: experiencing life, attitude and emotion
Third, intimate topics: feelings and ambiguous topics.
First, open the topic.
Maybe most chats are like the following.
Man: Where are you from?
Female: Handan
Man: Oh, how old are you?
Female: 22 years old
M: What do you do?
Woman: Selling clothes.
......
You can see that the girl is bored to tears, because this man just keeps asking questions, just like checking accounts.
When chatting with girls, many brothers are often in an awkward state and lack humor. How can a girl want to talk to you all the time? Bian Xiao used to be like this, chatting with her sister disappeared. Later, I read the secret book "Soaking the Holy Old Fish" and learned a lot of practical dry goods in picking up girls. Now, although I have taken off the bill, there are still so many girls chasing me. In fact, I used his chat scheme, which easily made them fall in love with me. Now I occasionally go out with other girls. In fact, it is good to master proper limit. For the single brother, I suggest you also look at the Secret Book of Soaking Saint and Old Fish, and look for it online. It is easier to win the goddess in your heart by improving yourself.
A good chat should create a good chat atmosphere, which is based on a common topic first. The best way for two men and women who have just met each other is to talk about the third party. These third-party topics refer to the scenes between you, the people, things and things around you, the first step to break the deadlock, and use the scenes and things at that time to start a dialogue. For example:
You are dating a girl in a coffee shop. You can talk about the environment of the coffee shop, the types of coffee and the interesting things that happened in the coffee shop. These are all related third-party topics.
You can talk about topics that women are interested in and do what they like. Think about what women care about most. Gossip about sexual feelings, horoscopes, psychological tests, palm reading and magic are women's favorite topics.
What constellation are you? (Constellation is a great topic)
What sports/music do you like? Tell me about your hobbies, books, music, movies, etc.
Have you ever kept small animals? Tell an interesting story about your cat and dog. Girls usually like small animals very much.
How do you spend your free time on weekends? It's convenient to arrange the next appointment and talk about your life.
Second, contact topics
1, experiencing resonance and causing resonance.
We all miss childhood and college life, and we all long for dreams. You can talk about some interesting things as a child and your future dream plans. Too many people live a real life, but they are not happy. When we talk about childhood and college, we always miss it. When we talk about our dreams, we will be very enthusiastic.
Share your previous stories and future plans more. Because of the illusion of time, this will make the other person feel that you have known each other for a long time and can quickly promote the relationship between two people.
Guiding theme:
"How was your childhood and college life?"
"What do you want to do in the future? What's your wish? "
"If you had a choice, which city would you like to live in?"
"If you had a month's time and money, where would you choose to travel and why?"
"What was your most romantic experience and what moved you the most?"
2, her situation, praise.
Women need compliments to rationalize why you like her, but the mistake men are used to making is to give women a lot of compliments at the beginning, which will make girls feel that you are insincere. Here are some words you can learn.
I didn't know you could work besides being beautiful.
I find you are an interesting and thoughtful girl, different from others.
I spent a long time with you and found that you and I have a lot in common.
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Third, the depth of the topic
Deep topics generally refer to topics involving feelings and ambiguous nature, which is also the premise for you to further break through the relationship with girls.
When talking about these topics, we must follow the principle of going from the shallow to the deep and from the outside to the inside. For example:
You can talk about your first love first, then your first kiss, not the other way around.
Talking about this is mainly to let girls know what kind of person you love. For example: serious, responsible, dedicated and other excellent qualities. At the same time, understand the emotional demands of girls.
These are the three stages of chatting, and that's all for today.