Many women feel that after marriage, they are guests in their parents' home, strangers in their in-laws' home, and incompatible with their in-laws' home.
Why is it so difficult to be a woman? This is a question that many women can't help sighing.
Chen Ling gave birth to a child soon after she got married. Seeing that maternity leave is over and no one is taking care of the children, she is very worried.
Chen Ling doesn't want to quit her job and stay at home as a full-time housewife. She can only turn around the children's pots and pans every day, and she can only be the party leader and ask men for money. That kind of life is not her pursuit.
So, she thought of her mother in her hometown and hoped that her mother would help her with her children. "If my mother wants to work hard, I am willing to pay. Instead of giving it to the nanny, let the mother take it. " Chen Ling thought like this.
Chen Ling called his mother. "Mom, can you help with the grandchildren?"
Unexpectedly, my mother said, "No, I have to take care of my grandson. Your sister-in-law is about to give birth. I have to prepare something for confinement. Please let your mother-in-law take care of her grandson. "
To Chen Ling's surprise, the mother who was most worried about her daughter before marriage was unwilling to help with her grandchildren. In the final analysis, the sister-in-law is more important than the daughter, and the grandson is closer than the grandson.
Thought of here, Chen Ling felt very sad. "Mom also asked me to find my mother-in-law. It's not that I don't know that my relationship with my mother-in-law is not good. Let me ask her. Isn't this difficult for me? " Chen Ling almost cried at the thought.
Really a married daughter. What a splash.
Chen Ling said, "Mom, it's not that you don't know that my mother-in-law and I have a bad relationship. How can you make me beg her? I will never ask her. "
"Don't kiss grandchildren? You didn't speak, how do you know that your mother-in-law doesn't want to bring grandchildren? " Mother beat Chen Ling again.
Chen Ling didn't know what he should do and was very anxious. My sister-in-law will be born in a few months. Actually, mom can help take care of her for a few months, and then Chen Ling will find a way. But I didn't expect my mother to refuse at once, which really made Chen Ling very sad.
Mom also said that if there is really no one to bring it, you should resign and bring it yourself. Mom can't understand Chen Ling's suffering as a working woman at all. If she really resigns, the financial pressure of the whole family will pile on her husband alone, and she will have to become a party hand in hand to see the life of men. This is not the life Chen Ling wants.
After the mother-in-law came, new problems appeared again.
Chen Ling really has no choice. Seeing that maternity leave is about to expire, if she doesn't find someone to take care of the children, I'm afraid she will really resign.
After consulting with her husband, Chen Ling decided to invite her mother-in-law to take care of her. Anyway, this is my grandson after all. Will it be difficult for her own grandson?
After the mother-in-law came, although the problem of taking care of the baby was solved, new problems appeared again.
My mother-in-law is very traditional and stubborn. She won't listen to any advice. Chen Ling told her mother-in-law many times that children should not eat salt until they are one year old. The mother-in-law not only refused to listen, but also said that the child had no strength to eat salt and would not grow up. The more Chen Ling objected, the more her mother-in-law let go.
Before the child was one year old, her mother-in-law was in a hurry to give him a dish and put soy sauce in it.
I said don't pee in shit and don't wear open-backed pants. My mother-in-law insisted on doing so. She also said that she has been doing it for decades. If there is any problem, you young people should pay attention.
Chen Ling felt very headache. Although she works in the company during the day, her heart is on the children. She can't let go or get rid of it. She is afraid that her mother-in-law will give her children something bad all day.
The troublesome contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the different parenting concepts of two generations, the mother-in-law's partiality to her son and so on. Chen Ling was at a loss.
It's not that Chen Ling didn't communicate with her mother-in-law or ask her husband for help, but that her mother-in-law was very strong and always thought she was right.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can never communicate well, just like a deep gap, separated by thousands of miles.
She often wondered why it was so difficult to be a woman and why she met such a mother-in-law. Actually, it's not that Chen Ling doesn't listen to her mother, so she can be more considerate of her mother-in-law. After all, raising children is difficult.
Chen Ling will also be grateful to her mother-in-law for taking care of her children. However, Chen Ling really can't agree with her. If this goes on for a long time, who can stand it? How can she not quarrel with her mother-in-law?
Tired! Annoyed!
Is Chen Ling's usual mental state, her pressure is no less than work.
Before marriage, we should not only look at the man's character, but also look at the mother-in-law's character, whether she is easy to get along with, whether she is good at communication, and whether she is overbearing and does not listen to suggestions.
The first three years after giving birth to a baby are the most bitter and tiring years for women. When she met a difficult mother-in-law, but her own mother didn't help, it was simply torturing her.
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