The mother of the "leader" accidentally fell down, resulting in a fracture of the right femur. After hospitalization and some emergency treatment, other problems were basically solved, and the rest was the healing of femur. The old man is 88 years old, and the doctor says he is not suitable for surgery. He suggested conservative treatment, leaving the hospital and going home to recuperate slowly. As the old man can't move in bed, we decided to hire a nanny to take care of his mother at home.

In the afternoon, the "leader" called from the housekeeping company and said that he had hired a nanny. He is a rural man from Zhijiang next door, in his fifties. He used to be a nanny and worked in a restaurant in Shenzhen. More than an hour later, the "leader" and his wife came back with the nanny. The "leader" pointed to the middle-aged woman who followed and said, "She's Aunt Tang, and she came to our house to nurse her mother."

People greeted us with smiles.

With a straight face and a dark face, she stuck in her long hair with no luster at the back of her head and squeezed out a little silver thread. Years have carved several shallow wrinkles on her face. Standing about 1.6 meters, he looks healthy, energetic and strong. She put a big travel bag with personal belongings on the wall, sat down at the dining table in the hall and said shyly, "If I hadn't met you, I wouldn't know where to live tonight."

The "leader" explained to me: "When I met Aunt Tang in the housekeeping company, we explained the situation and basic requirements of our family. Aunt Tang said that she wanted to come to our home for nursing and briefed us on her situation, so we decided to hire her. I thought my mother would come back two days after she was discharged from the hospital. She said that she just came out from her home in the country today, and she has no acquaintances in the city and no place to go. I said, it doesn't matter. I agree that she will come to our house today. She immediately said,' I don't want to get my salary for these two days before the old man leaves the hospital.' "

I quickly said, "Well, welcome, welcome! This is a coincidence, which means that we are doomed. Anyway, my mother will be discharged from the hospital in two days. "

The "leader" settled Aunt Tang in her mother's room. There is a sofa-type movable single bed at the mother's bedside, which is for the nanny. Aunt Tang put her bag on the sofa bed and saw a mop next to it. I just mopped the floor and stuck it on the wall. She will mop the floor when she picks it up. I quickly told her to relax and have a rest first. She said "nothing, nothing" and began to work skillfully. I thought to myself: this nanny is really active and quick to work.

"Aunt Tang, we are all older than you, so we will call you Tang Xiao in the future."

"Good, good!" She reacted quickly and simply said, "Then I'll call you big brother and big sister."

The next day, we went to the hospital to take care of our mother, and Tang Xiao also went with us. She said: "I'll get to know the elderly first, and I'll also go to the hospital to familiarize myself with the specific care."

In the hospital, we invited an aunt surnamed Li to take care of her mother. When Tang Xiao arrived at the hospital, he offered his hand to help Aunt Ali, asking questions, cleaning, massaging her mother, turning her over and taking medicine. As long as she could do well, she would do anything. This made Aunt Li feel a little embarrassed to be free.

Mother came home from the hospital, and the important task of taking care of her mainly fell on Tang Xiao. Coupled with two days of "internship" in the hospital and care for the elderly, she seems to be familiar with it. What surprised me most was that my mother was a little constipated, and she actually helped her pick it with her hands. This is something that ordinary nannies can't do or want to do. In this regard, she looked very ordinary and said: "This is nothing. When I do housework at home, I often have to deal with excrement. "

A few days later, perhaps because he was familiar with this place, Tang Xiao, who was not very talkative, began to speak slowly. She said that her family lives in a remote mountain village in Zhijiang and her family is relatively poor. Her two children are both in their thirties, and both are working outside. In recent years, she and her husband have also worked in Shenzhen, washing dishes in different restaurants. She is cheerful and sociable, and she helped her husband find a job. When I returned to my hometown in the countryside in March this year, I didn't plan to go out to work again, because I saved some money and planned to build a new house at home. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law who had some contradictions with her and suffered from mental illness picked her for three days and pulled out all her vegetables. On the one hand, a wife, on the other hand, a spiritual mother. The two sides are at odds, and it is useless to persuade them. The wife is silent, and the spiritual mother is always talkative and resolute. My husband is helpless. In a fit of pique, he returned to work in Shenzhen. Because of her mother-in-law's constant interference, Tang Xiao's idea of a house completely disappeared, and he decided that he could not afford a house for the time being. Later, he simply came out to find something to make money, but it was also clean.

I asked her, "Why don't you go back to Shenzhen to work with your husband?"

She said, "The owner of the restaurant called me and asked me to go back. I don't think washing dishes there is very tiring, but the working hours are a bit long and the income is not high. Forget it, I don't want to go again. Find something to do here in my hometown, which is close to home. I am used to life. Besides, when I get old, I don't want to wash dishes anymore. "

"That's true." I asked, "How long have you worked in a restaurant?"

"9 am to 2 pm, 5 pm to evening 10: 30. “

"Ah, it's 1 1 half an hour, which means working three and a half hours more every day!" I paused and asked her, "specialized in washing dishes?"

"It's mainly about washing vegetables and washing dishes."

I said with emotion: "It takes a long time. Is there overtime pay? "

"Which have overtime pay! Say how much it costs in January, and there is no overtime pay during working hours. "

I immediately thought of reading an article on the internet, which revealed how private bosses cleverly squeezed the blood and sweat of migrant workers. The main way is to extend working hours according to the labor law without paying overtime wages, which is almost the same as what Marx said in Capital.

Hearing her mother humming, she went into the room and asked her if she wanted to drink water. After being confirmed, she gave her mother some water. After returning to the living room, she talked to me about her part-time job.

"I wash dishes quickly, others have to do three hours of work, and I finished it in two hours. Once I finished washing dishes and nothing happened, so I used my mobile phone to watch TV, which happened to be seen by my boss. My boss criticized me for not watching TV at work, and I was unconvinced. I thought to myself, I have finished my work and there is nothing else to do. What's wrong with watching TV with your mobile phone? So I reason with my boss. This time, the boss was unhappy and said to me coldly,' Do you still care about watching TV at work? If you want to watch TV, go home and watch it "You don't have to come tomorrow!" How can the boss be so unreasonable? I was very angry and shouted to my boss,' If you don't do it, don't do it. You can pay my bill now! The boss said,' Check out? Come back tomorrow. I said,' No. Didn't you say you didn't want me to come tomorrow?' "You must pay me today!" The boss knew he was wrong, so he had to settle my account and pay me. So I came out. "

"This kind of private small boss is like this. He doesn't talk about labor law and tries his best to deduct migrant workers. However, it is really wrong for you to watch TV at work, and it is not wrong for the boss to criticize you. However, it is too much for him to ask you to work so long without paying overtime. "

"After I came out, I soon found a job washing dishes in another restaurant. It turns out that the dishwasher newly hired by the boss is slow and doesn't work well. He always needs other people's help to wash dishes. The boss called me and wanted me to go back, but I refused. "

"Yes, I work everywhere. Since I have gone out, how can I go back? " I agree with her.

Tang Xiao is very devoted to caring for the elderly and has some experience. She always feeds, drinks, turns over, washes her feet, wipes her body and changes clothes regularly for the elderly, which is very procedural. Sometimes we will step in to help her, and she always says, "I'll take care of the elderly, and you can do your own thing."

I said, "It's our job to help you. You need a rest."

She insisted, "If I can't do it, I will naturally ask you for help. Now, having me is enough. "

However, she has no culture after all. According to her own statement, she has been in primary school for several years, and she has to ask my "leader" for help by saving a phone number in her mobile phone.

Once, she took her old mobile phone and asked me, "Brother, do you think there is something wrong with my mobile phone?" Why doesn't the radio always work? "

I haven't used this old mobile phone for many years, and I have forgotten how to activate the radio. I fiddled with it for a while and found the radio program in the settings. Open it. I told her how to use the radio one by one. She smiled like a child and said happily, "That way, I won't feel lonely."

Due to lack of cultural accomplishment, Tang Xiao is used to experiencing and taking things for granted. Mother has been lying in bed for a long time. She is weak and has a bad appetite. Sometimes she doesn't want to eat. Someone fed her porridge, but she didn't swallow it. Tang Xiao will continue to feed her, fill her mother's mouth and push her chin with her hand to open and close her mouth. She wanted to swallow it herself. I immediately stopped Tang Xiao's reckless behavior and told her, "Mom doesn't want to eat because she has a bad appetite. I'll feed her later. " Sure enough, after a while, when I was fed again, my mother quickly finished eating half a bowl of porridge.

Afterwards, he explained to me, "I used to do the same thing when I was breastfeeding my mother-in-law, and the effect was ok."

I said: "Everyone's situation is different, and the methods of nursing should be different from person to person, so we can't simply copy them. Because of her weak constitution and poor swallowing function, it is obviously inappropriate to use your previous method. A lot of things piled up in her mouth, which affected her breathing. If you get it, you will be in trouble. "

She said nothing but nodded slightly.

On another occasion, Tang Xiao brought a bowl of fried chicken to the table and looked at the delicious food just cooked. I said happily, "It smells good."

Tang Xiao said, "I stir-fry the dishes first, stir-fry the fragrance, then stew it in water, then add spices, then collect the juice and go out."

"Leader" said: "If it is stewed, it may be better."

Tang Xiao said, "Stewed? That's not fragrant, it's not delicious. "

I thought, after all, Tang Xiao has no knowledge, she can only cook. I said kindly, "frying is also a common practice." When it comes to nutrition, of course, it is better to stew, so that the damage to nutrition is minimal. This is called radish cabbage, and everyone loves it. "

One morning, I just woke up and heard my mother coughing. At first, I didn't care too much, because my mother has been coughing since she left the hospital, but she doesn't cough often. Just cough once or twice. However, my mother coughed for more than ten minutes today, but she still didn't stop. I ran to my mother's room and the "leader" was wiping her feet. I said, "What happened today? It seems a little abnormal. "

"Leader" wiped his feet and said, "I don't know."

"Is it a cold?"

Then Tang Xiao came in. I asked her, "Did you turn on the air conditioner last night?"

"It's open."

"By what time?"

"Two o'clock in the morning."

"Oh, that must be a cold." I explained: "When people fall asleep, their resistance will drop, especially the elderly. When they fall asleep, it is easier to catch a cold by blowing air conditioners. "

Tang Xiao complained a little: "I turned on the air conditioner to 26 degrees, and my sister had to turn it to 28 degrees. It may be that the air conditioning temperature is too low. "

I was a little amused that she didn't know the relationship between the level of air conditioner and temperature, so I further explained: "The higher the air conditioner, the higher the temperature; On the contrary, the lower the driving, the lower the temperature. "

She suddenly realized, "I really don't know. I thought the higher I drove, the lower the temperature. "

The "leader" applied a hot towel to his mother's neck for a while, and her cough slowly subsided.

After these things, I privately said to the "leader": "Tang Xiao takes the initiative to take care of the elderly, but after all, she lacks education, knowledge and limited knowledge. Sometimes she is a little self-righteous and uncertain, and she won't ask us. Cooking is a trivial matter, so we can eat how she cooks as long as we can. I can't believe she can't even turn on the air conditioner and almost gave my mother a cold. Besides, if I give my mother medicine without consulting us, I'm afraid she is used to doing things according to her understanding and experience. If she gives her mother the wrong medicine, she will be in big trouble. Therefore, we must make it clear to her in advance, pay more attention and make suggestions in time to avoid mistakes. "

"Yes, I also found this problem." One afternoon, I saw Tang Xiao preparing to give her mother antihypertensive drugs, so I asked her,' Didn't you take antihypertensive drugs this morning?' Why did you eat again?' She said,' Isn't it twice a day? I told her that the doctor made it clear that antihypertensive drugs can only be taken once a day. She said shyly, "Sorry, I forgot." However, on the whole, Tang Xiao still takes good care of his mother, although there are some shortcomings, which are secondary issues. As long as we are careful, try to explain the relevant matters to her in advance, observe more and pay more attention to communication with her, so as to prevent her from making her own decisions according to her subjective wishes. "

I quite agree with this "leader". To treat nannies, first of all, we should respect each other and treat nannies as a member of the family equally, instead of bossing them around blindly, which makes people feel that there are personality differences. When nursing our mother, we try our best to consider things carefully and explain them to her in detail, so as to give full play to her advantages and make up for her shortcomings.

When chatting with us, Tang Xiao also told us some of their "dirty laundry", which shows that she has trusted us more. At this time, we try not to express our opinions, but listen carefully to her narrative, only Nuo Nuo and noncommittal response. I think it is impolite and inconvenient to make irresponsible remarks about other people's family affairs. After all, what we hear is her one-sided statement, so it is easy to point fingers, careless and possibly unfair. Perhaps, she just poured out some unhappiness in her heart to us to ease her inner boredom. Here, she really has no one else to talk to except us, and she doesn't expect us to judge her conversation.

Tang Xiao is quick-thinking and doesn't beat around the bush. Sometimes she is a little stubborn. She is never shy in front of us. One day, the doctor came to change his mother's medicine and asked us, "Did you massage the old man's broken foot?"

I said, "twice a day."

The doctor said, "No massage."

This is completely different from what the doctor said when I was in hospital, and I can't help but feel a little confused.

Tang Xiao, who was standing by, immediately said to me, "I said I can't massage, but your wife must insist on massage."

"If you massage like this," the doctor made a massage and further explained, "it will make your foot rotate axially and affect the healing of the fracture."

After the doctor left, Tang Xiao was still mumbling about the topic just now, as if she wanted to prove her experience. This caused me some unhappiness, so I stopped her: "Stop it. When I was in hospital, the doctor specifically told me to massage. At that time, the main consideration was that my mother's leg had been pulled and could not move, fearing that venous thrombosis would lead to pathological changes. Now my mother's condition has greatly improved, and the possibility of venous thrombosis is not great. The main consideration is the healing of fracture. The doctor's request to stop massaging is naturally correct. The requirements in different periods will naturally be different. We will do as the doctor asks. We can't simply say that massage is right or wrong. "

Of course, we are not doctors after all, and we still have to listen to doctors in nursing. Some of our practices may also have subjective wishes. However, we will certainly follow the doctor's previous statement when the doctor has not put forward new requirements on what to do and what not to do. Tang Xiao's statement may be just a coincidence. She has never taken care of a similar patient before, and she doesn't know when to massage or not.

Nevertheless, I still have some appreciation for Tang Xiao's stubbornness. She expressed her true thoughts and didn't want to flatter others, especially her employer.

Tang Xiao prefers watching TV. She doesn't watch news and songs and dances, but she likes watching TV plays. She likes watching "Mom's Peach Blossom" being broadcast by Hunan Satellite TV. As long as she has time, she reads almost every issue. After dinner every day, she feeds her mother medicine and food, and then washes her body and feet. After doing this, my mother began to fall asleep, and the TV series "Mom's Peach Blossom Luck" was about to start. She sat in front of the TV and listened carefully to the TV play. As the story goes on, she often comments on the story herself, sometimes laughing and being extremely involved. However, as long as she hears her mother's movements, she will quickly run to her mother's room for examination, which has certain professional sensitivity. In the afternoon, I don't know which channel it is. She also watches The Journey to the West. Once, my brother-in-law saw her watching The Journey to the West and asked her, "Journey to the West is an old TV series many years ago. Haven't you seen it? "

Her eyes didn't leave the TV screen. She said, "Yes, as long as there is something to see, I still want to see it. This The Journey to the West movie looks good. " It can be said that she is a The Journey to the West fan.

We also try our best to take care of Tang Xiao's entertainment hobbies. Afternoon, or after eight o'clock in the evening, is often the time for mother to fall asleep. At this time, we took the initiative to look after our mother and let Tang Xiao watch TV. Although there is no clear agreement between us, we know each other and have become a routine, but we also cooperate with each other tacitly.

One day at noon, Tang Xiao answered the phone. On the phone, she was very excited and rude. Afterwards, she told me that her youngest son called her. So she told me about her little son.

Her youngest son is in his early thirties. He talked about a girlfriend, a native of Shaanxi, whom he met while working in Dongguan. They lived together for several years. Later, they ran a clothing factory, and all her son's money was invested in the clothing factory. However, due to poor management, the clothes produced could not be sold, and the factory closed down, so all the money flowed to Shui Piao. As a result, there was a contradiction between the son and his girlfriend, and the girlfriend left the son. Later, a Jiangxi girl who worked together pursued her son, who liked the girl very much and came to their home. However, the girl has a four-year-old child. Because her husband is lazy and likes playing cards, he doesn't care about his family. They often quarrel. To this end, she wants to divorce her husband and pursue her son. Until now, she is still entangled in this. She reminded her son that she was a married woman. Aren't you afraid of delaying yourself when she keeps pestering her like this? But her son wouldn't listen and said, "I'm in charge of my own affairs."

"Oh, it's not up to mother!" She sighed heavily and said helplessly, "I said everything, let him go, I don't care!" " "

Looking at her breathless and helpless appearance, I have some sympathy for her. So I said to her seriously: "Your little son's extramarital affair is actually an extramarital affair, which involves legal issues. If the woman really wants to get along with your son, she must make up her mind to dissolve the existing marriage as soon as possible. Otherwise, it is likely that her money will be hollowed out and her love will end, just like his previous love. "

"This is unlikely, because they have been together for several years. That woman really likes my son. " Tang Xiao's stubbornness appeared again.

I further explained: "Since we have been together for several years, and the woman is sincerely pursuing your little son, why can't she get a divorce for a long time?"

"Men don't want to."

"What if that person sues your son through legal means on the grounds that a third party has destroyed his family?"

"I haven't thought about it yet." She was silent. I know, she has no culture and narrow views. How did she think of such a profound question?

"Tang Xiao, don't think I can't do this problem. This is the reality facing your son. Once a lawsuit is filed, it will be very troublesome. First of all, it will hurt your heart. Second, it will damage your money and consume your son's good years. "

Tang Xiao was silent. My words seemed to touch her and make her start to think seriously.

Then I went back to my hometown in the country to visit my brother. When I came back the next day, in the living room, Tang Xiao and the "leader" were talking about her little son's date again. She said, "I think what my eldest brother said that day is reasonable. Later, I called my son to remind him to handle things properly and learn from the previous lessons. Otherwise, you will still be empty-handed after working for many years. However, the son said on the phone,' Mom, why do you always mention money? I'm in my thirties, so you must believe me. Alas ..... "She sighed heavily and shook her head, looking helpless." I made it very clear that even if my son wouldn't listen, there was nothing I could do. Let him go. "

I interjected, "Your son may be asking questions. Don't mention money', he will be fooled again, the money will be emptied and the time will be postponed. How can he find someone alive? "Her son's attitude makes me feel helpless.

The "leader" interjected: "Your son is so old, and you have done your duty as a mother. However, you cannot give up easily. Persuade him a few times, maybe you will understand. "

Tang Xiao said helplessly, "This is the only way. Hey! "

What happened to her youngest son really bothered her, but it didn't affect her care for the elderly. When she started doing things, it was like a different person, and the gloomy clouds on her face disappeared. She also talked and laughed with the "leader" from time to time, and occasionally played a joke or two with her mother to make her happy. I was deeply impressed by her professionalism and good psychological quality.