Some women endure hardships and endure hardships for their husbands, families, and children. Everyone praises her, but their husbands have no love or affection.

Sister Wang has just moved into her new home and invites everyone to visit her home. The husband was outside greeting the guests, and Sister Wang was busy in the kitchen alone. Not long after, Sister Wang quickly brought out eight delicacies from the kitchen.

Everyone was eating happily, but Sister Wang at the dinner table suddenly complained about her difficulties over the years.

My husband’s family has neither a wedding house nor a car. The two married almost naked, were impoverished, and lived in a rented house. My husband likes to play cards and goes to play cards after work. And she had to work two jobs alone, and her life was very hard.

After the birth of the child, my husband changed and started working hard, but his life was still very stressful. She is reluctant to spend money on herself and wears clothes for four or five years, but she is never stingy with her husband and children.

When it comes to sad things, Sister Wang will complain to her husband and accuse him of causing her to suffer for so many years.

Although my husband is usually very easy-going, when he heard his wife say this, his expression immediately turned cloudy, and he yelled at Sister Wang: I can’t even control your mouth while eating! Do you have to mention these old shit every day?

In fact, everyone has heard these words of Sister Wang more than ten times in private. You can imagine how many times she will repeat them to her husband. What she said are all facts, and they are quite sympathetic, but if she always talks about them, those who listen will be impatient.

Friends also advised her not to talk too much, but Sister Wang didn’t take it seriously: After suffering so much, can’t I talk? I just want my husband to know how difficult it is for me and make him feel guilty.

Can blindly emphasizing one’s own efforts gain a man’s love and affection? Obviously, the answer is no. A good man will be grateful to you and treat you seriously without you having to say anything; a bad man will never remember your goodness no matter how much you say.

But if you keep nagging, even a good man will be scared away by you and hide away.

Similarly suffering and suffering, Sister Li behaved completely differently. Sister Li's husband is from a single-parent family. Not only is his financial condition poor, his mother is also bedridden.

Ever since she passed away, Sister Li did not go to work and took care of her mother-in-law wholeheartedly until her death, which lasted five years.

They have two children, a son and a daughter, who are all carefully taken care of by Sister Li. Due to work reasons, her husband travels all year round, and Sister Li has to do all the laundry, cooking, and household expenses by herself. You can imagine the hardships involved.

When her husband came back, Sister Li never complained to him. Instead, she thoughtfully asked him if he was tired and would massage his shoulders.

My husband knows Sister Li’s hard work. Every time he comes back, he will take the initiative to take care of the housework and take care of her two children and parents. In front of outsiders, I will be very proud to say that I have found a good mother-in-law who takes care of the family with care and dedication. This is the blessing I gained in my previous life.

Although life was difficult, the family was happy. With Sister Li's understanding and encouragement, my husband has been promoted very quickly in his career. In just a few years, he has taken the position of Vice President of Sales of the company, and his salary and bonuses have also increased.

Later, the two bought a house, and the husband insisted on writing only Sister Li’s name on the property certificate. Every time he went on a business trip, he would bring back gifts for Sister Li.

Ask Sister Li why she has never complained to her husband in these years. Sister Li's reply was: I am willing to do so many things. Since it is voluntary, why should we keep complaining like a debt collector to make the other party impatient?

Besides, my husband also knows all this, so why bother to let yourself contribute but not be thanked?

In reality, some women feel that they have given a lot, so they often complain in front of their husbands, for fear that their husbands will not know that they have done a lot of things. Wanting men to remember their goodness, they kidnap men emotionally.

Men are smart creatures, and he can see how difficult it is for you to live with your ear disease. You can say it, but once or twice is enough. Too many times will inevitably make people bored.

What’s even more frightening is that some women will become more and more energetic as they talk, often turning a meeting about suffering into a meeting of criticism. As a result, the two of them break up on bad terms.

Originally, she wanted the man to love her more, but in the end it had the opposite effect, pushing him further and further away.

So, if you want a man to cherish you more, you don’t have to mention your contributions over and over again, but you have to be considerate of him with your heart.