Children's Personal Etiquette-Personal Etiquette
Generally speaking, children's personal etiquette includes grooming (including washing face, brushing teeth, gargling, coughing, sneezing and picking nose) and dressing (including dressing, wearing a hat, wearing pants and picking nose).
Second, parent-child etiquette
Parent-child etiquette is mainly the etiquette norms that children should pay attention to when they get along with family members (including grandparents, parents, brothers and sisters) in family life, including requests, responses, knocking at the door, eating, doing housework as much as possible, thanking the elders, caring and greeting goodbye, etc.
Third, teacher-child etiquette
Teacher-child etiquette is mainly the etiquette norms that children should pay attention to when interacting with kindergarten teachers in kindergarten life, including saying hello when entering the park, listening carefully, raising your hand to speak, listening to teaching, asking for help, thanking teachers, leaving the park and so on.
IV. Peer Etiquette
Children's peer etiquette is mainly the etiquette norms that children should pay attention to when interacting with their friends, including unity and friendship, mutual help, obeying order, being tolerant of others, thanking for help, sincerely apologizing, and getting along in harmony.
V. Social Etiquette
Children's social etiquette is mainly the etiquette norms that children should pay attention to when interacting with others (including relatives, friends and strangers), including entertaining guests at home, visiting patients, receiving gifts, answering phones, talking and chatting, thanking and saying goodbye, etc.
VI. Public etiquette
Children's public etiquette is mainly the etiquette norms that children should pay attention to in public places, including playing the national anthem, raising and lowering the flag, paying attention, taking a bus (buying tickets, getting on at the front door, getting off at the back door, giving up your seat, being hygienic and safe), traffic safety when crossing the road, and shopping precautions in shopping malls.
Five magical words of social etiquette that children must master, "Hello, please, thank you and you're welcome", are the golden keys to good interpersonal relationships.
Children often hear these words and imitate them, and then become a familiar and natural language. Saying "no" superciliously is also what parents should teach their children. Through observation and practice, children will gradually understand that adopting an appropriate attitude will leave a good impression even if they refuse.
praise and being praised:
people are willing to get praise, but they are stingy with it. Especially in China, people are not good at expressing gratitude, joy and admiration. Research shows that people who often accept compliments are more willing to praise others, while those who are more willing to praise others have better interpersonal relationships and happiness index. Parents will stimulate and establish children's self-confidence to a greater extent by capturing the little things in their children's growth and praising them more. Of course, it is also very important to teach children to face compliments politely and say "thank you" to others' compliments. In addition, there is no need to reply with compliments, but it is impolite to directly deny others' compliments. For example, "this dress of yours is very beautiful", answer: "I don't like it at all."
Punctuality:
Punctuality is a basic etiquette that mainly depends on words and deeds. Even if you are late for various reasons, it is actually disrespectful to the waiting person. If adults are often late, it will make children form the wrong idea that other people's time is not important and it is not worthwhile to think about others. "Words must be kept, deeds must be borne". If children grow up in this atmosphere from an early age, they will form good qualities of punctuality, trustworthiness and responsibility.
Active sharing:
Sharing is not human instinct. Only after years of education and supervision can children learn to actively share. The dining table is a good place for parents to carry out sharing education, for example, sharing food with others. Hiding food before guests come will only make children learn to be selfish. I remember when I was a child, in the sports school, a girl from Anshan didn't start eating until everyone fell asleep every night in order to prevent other roommates from sharing food. Girls get the reputation of "mouse" and have few friends. Although we fought side by side with a sports team in the same room for a year, I can't remember her name except that everyone called her "mouse".
Appropriate help:
Generally speaking, children pay more attention to their parents' behaviors than to others' behaviors. For example, do parents take the trouble to show the way to people who ask for directions or even take the initiative to lead the way? Do parents pay attention to holding down the door key when getting on and off the elevator and wait for pedestrians to get on and off? Through these subtle scenes, children will remember their parents' behavior patterns and copy them involuntarily. When they begin to help others, they will gradually enjoy the feeling of "helping others and pleasing themselves" brought by goodwill. Of course, parents should also teach their children moderation, that is, ask when they are not sure whether they need help. For example, when you see an old man carrying a heavy load, you must ask the old man's permission before you can help; We must also follow this principle for our peers to avoid being too enthusiastic and causing unnecessary trouble to others.
Cultivating children's personal etiquette pays attention to creating a good environment atmosphere
Early childhood is the enlightenment period of ideological and moral education, and etiquette education is an important part of ideological and moral education. However, children in early childhood have great plasticity and are easy to form various habits. If adults pay attention to cultivating children's civilized manners from an early age, children will benefit for life. If children's etiquette education is neglected during this period, it will be difficult to change when they grow up. As the saying goes: "Less becomes nature, and habit becomes nature." Nowadays, in the one-child family, children are pampered at home and become "little emperors" and "little princesses" at home. They play alone since childhood and make friends with toys, which is easy to form loneliness and willfulness. Fear of difficulties, lack of self-control and persistence, rudeness to people, etc., have led to the lack of etiquette education for children in many families. There is no distinction between big and small in the family, but there is a strong trend of loving the young, while respecting the old is not without it. It is just that some old people are willing to be "grandchildren" out of love for the younger generation. In the long run, it is not good for children's growth, and it may even be overbearing, bossy, exclusive and unsatisfactory. In daily life, parents can educate their children from details. For example, how to sit when sitting, how to eat, how to be a polite and sensible child when guests come. Of course, there is no need for hard education for children. As long as they get home and sit at the dinner table, they can have a relaxed education by the way, and they can have an education by the way every day. Children will get good results in etiquette education.
being cultivated in daily life
In daily life, we always pay attention to reminding children to say hello to others, and give praise to children who have done well. Every day, each group chooses a student on duty to serve the children. And in our spare time, our teacher tells children moral education stories, tells them etiquette, and lets them perform on stage, so that they can actually operate. I found that the children were not unwilling to learn, but were not taught. When I told the moral education story, the children listened carefully, with their eyes wide open. When I told the children manners, the children listened carefully. When the children performed on stage, such as how to receive guests, how to talk to people, how to answer the phone, etc., the children performed very well and learned very happily. Children's habit of being polite at home depends on parents' unremitting cultivation. Parents can take advantage of various opportunities and occasions to let their children practice and exercise. For example, they can invite their neighbors' friends to play at home and teach them to be polite to each other. Don't take your child to other people's homes because you are afraid of being rude, so that your child will lose the opportunity to exercise. Let children start with housework. Let children do housework, make him learn to be grateful, let children learn to form diligent habits, promote children's interpersonal relationships, and also enhance children's willpower and ability to bear things, which is what children in society lack most, so parents should also train their children to do housework in life.
Parents must start to cultivate children's politeness and civility.
Children's polite behavior comes from learning and imitating parents and adults, so parents must start to cultivate children's politeness. Parents should also be strict with themselves and respect the elderly, and get up every morning to say hello to the elderly. Children will naturally respect their grandparents and be polite to them. If there are elderly people at home, parents can communicate with them, tell them the disadvantages of loving their children, and love their children rationally. I believe that the elderly will support the educational methods of young parents. Parents are at home on weekdays, whether they like reading or not, it is best to hold books in their hands and develop the habit of children loving reading. Be filial to the elderly, don't say rude words, and set an example. Pop songs should not be put at home as far as possible. At home, it is best to put some classical and beautiful piano songs, or some quiet light music and songs played by various national musical instruments, which can cultivate children's noble artistic sentiment. The so-called teaching is not the fault of the father. When parents accidentally touch others, they take the initiative to apologize. Children like Longlong will imitate this good habit when they encounter similar situations. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds at home every day. Children have a strong ability to imitate from an early age. What parents say and do will directly affect their children. Others say. "A child's mind is like a blank sheet of paper." Whether a child draws this blank sheet of paper is good or bad, parents play a very important role in daily life. If a child has the habit of swearing, don't treat him as a child who doesn't know anything. Although they are children, they don't even know what swearing means or what they are talking about, but as he grows older, his bad habits will gradually form. If children are found swearing, then they should be educated ideologically to stop them from continuing, or they will only be beaten and scolded. Beating and cursing children will have the opposite effect. Children have a strong rebellious mentality. Parents can't ask their children to be polite by means of temptation or coercion, such as asking their aunts to give you candy and not asking their uncles not to buy toys. Doing so can only make the child behave politely for a while but not for long, let alone make him understand the essence of politeness.