I remember one time I bought a pair of ripped jeans and wore them home. My mother looked surprised and asked me if I had no money and why I couldn’t bear to throw away the pants when they were torn. To me, it's fashion; to my mom, it's not being able to afford new pants. Not to mention having their parents appreciate the limited-edition shopping bags produced by fashion brands. To them, these are just ordinary bags for storing things, and it is simply unreasonable that they are sold at such high prices. This is the gap.

Due to different growth environments, it is normal for my parents to have different views on things from me.

In the era when our parents grew up, materials were still relatively scarce, and you had to rely on tickets to buy things. It was really a happy thing to have enough food and clothing. However, in the era we live in, with the improvement of production efficiency, material resources have become very abundant, and most families no longer have to worry about having enough food and clothing. Our pursuit has shifted from being well fed and clothed to being well fed and well dressed. When we grow up in different environments, we naturally have different views on things.

What should we do when faced with inconsistent views from our parents?

1. Think from someone else’s perspective. Put yourself in the perspective of your parents, understand their lives at that time, and listen to their stories about their childhood, so that you can understand why they have such thoughts.

2. Seek common ground while reserving differences. Although we may have different opinions on some things, with more communication, we can always find some topics on which we have the same opinions.

3. Exerting influence. Bring more classmates and friends to your home to play, and let your parents see what your classmates and friends think. This will help your parents understand you better, and maybe your parents' ideas will gradually move closer to yours.

This is normal. Nowadays, there are basically not many parents and children who have harmonious views.

There is a generation gap between parents and children after three years. There is indeed a big generation gap between parents and children. Most of my parents are in their thirties or forties, and their lives at that time were basically hard and tiring. Therefore, in their opinion, it is best to live a more stable and stable life. It is not difficult to understand that many parents now want their children to be doctors or teachers. Of course I was asked to do so.

My parents and we grew up in different social environments, so our exposure to social ideas is also different. And most fathers are relatively authoritative at home, because in the past society was a patriarchal society, most men were chauvinistic and had a strong preference for boys over girls, so basically children of that era were More.

There are many new things in the 21st century. They actually don’t understand the things that are too serious, so they don’t want you to touch them. Moreover, our parents have been living for most of their lives. What they want is not what we want now, so we have to occasionally put ourselves in their shoes. But no matter what, parents still do it for the best of their children. So you still need to understand more.

This is a very normal thing. Even though I am now in college, my parents are still intolerant and incomprehensible to me.

This is actually how I look at this issue. The first thing is to reflect on your own reasons, like me. To be honest, I have never been someone who made my parents worry-free since I was a child, because in their eyes, I was always ignorant. (But to be honest, they were not involved in my childhood. Maybe they didn’t even know how I survived to this age. I don’t know), and because I’m a homebody and basically don’t go out for a walk, I don’t even know much about the ways of the world.

So sometimes what I do is very rude in the eyes of my parents. Even if it is a small thing in my eyes, in the eyes of my parents, it is a big deal. It’s a big deal, so we often quarrel over things like so-called “politeness” and “impoliteness”.

The second reason is that the age we live in now is much happier than the age our parents lived. Maybe you feel that your current family is not as good as those around you, but you have to think about it, no matter how miserable you are now, your parents were even worse off than you were thirty years ago. So in daily life, sometimes they can quarrel with you over a particularly trivial matter.

Because it may seem like a common thing to you. Take me for example. I think manicure is a very common thing for me, but in my mother’s opinion, This is something that is not done properly, because she thinks that since I am in school now, I should study hard and not care about some messy things.

Although I feel very speechless many times, there is nothing I can do about it. After all, these are your parents. The only solution I can think of is to try not to speak when you have disagreements with them, and you will scold them anyway. Just scold them, and everything will be fine after you finish scolding them.

It is actually normal for parents to have different outlooks from their children. Even in my family, this is the case. Because there is a distance of twenty or thirty years between you, it is inevitable that you will have different views on something. If people all had the same opinions, life would be boring. It is precisely because of the existence of individuals with rich personalities, expressing their own different opinions and expressing their own different thoughts that the world can have such vitality. Imagine the contention of a hundred schools of thought in ancient times. The many ideas that emerged are all different. The sparks created by the collision of ideas are extremely wonderful.

In fact, you don’t have to worry too much. If your parents’ views are not distorted or life-threatening, what if they are allowed to exist? In fact, you cannot forcefully change other people's views, otherwise it will only bring conflicts. Or if you want to change them, you can only continue to influence them subconsciously, let them understand your ideas, and then change them.

Also, you have to figure out whether your three views are in line with contemporary society's standards for people before you influence others. Otherwise, even your own will be wrong, let alone changing them. I suggest that you take a lot of time to chat with them, and don't be afraid of the collapse of the chat caused by differences of opinion. This is actually a necessary process for the conversation. Talk openly with them about your thoughts. Be honest and never hide it. Another thing is to stick to your own opinions or ideas. When they see it, they will eventually be moved by this firmness.

It is not scary if the three outlooks are inconsistent, but what is terrible is actually the incorrect three outlooks.

That sentence, your dad is your dad after all. In fact, many things either have different views or different opinions. For those of us who are juniors, when it is not necessary to correct something, we just need to do what they ask. In fact, it doesn't matter how things turn out. The important thing is that they see that you are obedient and willing to communicate with them to do things.

Furthermore, there are many situations where the three views are inconsistent and the two generations are facing the cross-generational sex. Just like my uncle's generation, the previous generation were all born in rural areas, and their views on many things are different from theirs. Even if you learn new knowledge, you still need to hide it. When facing these things, you need to consider the way you do things and speak. It's like people of my uncle's generation came back from reading and said that there was something wrong with the way they farmed at home, and that things like sowing and harvesting could be improved.

But people of the older generation just feel that this is the method used in the past, and you were raised on this. How many months have we been out now before we start educating the elderly? When dealing with these things, we all know that we are right, but we must also consider the feelings of others.

When faced with the differences in views among family members, we are more interested in understanding their thoughts. In fact, many things are considered in different directions. They may consider economical benefits, but I consider how to use it for a long time. Many of their thoughts need to be slowly changed. Just like the Internet is getting faster now, we will find that they need to learn many things slowly, so when facing their doubts and some objections, we will find that they need to learn many things slowly. , we must have enough patience to tell them.

It is normal for you and your parents to have different views. Among enlightened parents, there will always be a generation gap between them and their children. Because we live in different eras. The environment in which they grew up is also different. Therefore, it is not surprising that the three views are different.

I have a similar experience to you. That's because my parents and I have serious differences in outlook. And my father and I have very similar personalities. They are all very stubborn types. So it is difficult to get along with each other in life.

Because the three views are inconsistent and because of the stubborn personality. As a result, we couldn't talk about anything. My parents are the type who like comfort. And I like excitement. I feel that my life should not be mediocre.

But both my parents thought we were nobody. What can be done?

So every time I am outside, my parents call me to encourage me. They all told me to come back when I feel tired outside. From their perspective, I know it's for my own good. So every time I say, I’m not tired. It has always been about reporting good news but not bad news.

There was even a period of time where I was so extreme that I just didn’t want to go home. I don’t go home during the holidays. I just want to be alone outside. Because I won’t get understanding when I go back. I feel very uncomfortable every time. This is caused by the incompatibility of the three views.

But I will understand them, because the thinking of people of their generation will not understand what young people think. As for parents, no matter how they disagree, they are still parents after all. Everything must be done with filial piety as the premise.

Differences in outlook may lead to alienation between parents and children. But as children, we must remember a few things. That is, even if the three views are different, even if your views are different. But what they do and say must be for your own good. It's just that your perspective is different. And even if you don't understand them, you must be filial to them.