Wang sometimes laughs at herself, and her friends regard themselves as "special people". Everyone seems to have an "agreement"-not to mention the child in front of her, for fear that she will be sad. On one occasion, Wang saw a child crying and asking his mother for toys on the road, but her mother insisted on not buying them. She could hardly resist walking over to buy toys for her children. Just as she hesitated, the mother dragged the child away. The crying of the strange child made her feel bad for a long time.

"For a while, I couldn't hear the child crying." Wang said to him. At that time, her 8-year-old son Yang Yang had just died.

Yang Yang was diagnosed with congenital heart disease only two weeks after his birth. With careful care all the way, the child grows up slowly. In March 2000, the child had an operation. The doctor said that if he recovers well, Yang Yang can live a healthy life for at least 89 years and grow into a young man. "In 1989, the medical association will make further progress and children will have new opportunities." Wang was looking forward to it at that time.

After the operation, Yang Yang grew taller. The body that could not exercise before has strength. The couple were very happy. They took their son to climb the mountain and take the cable car. However, Yang Yang's condition suddenly deteriorated. On 2001August 13, Yang Yang was diagnosed with hydrothorax and hepatomegaly. It happened to be Wang's fortieth birthday. She wandered around the subway station for a long time and had the most unforgettable birthday in her life.

After more than a month, the child died in his sleep. The old house was full of memories of their son, and the couple reluctantly moved to the other side of the city. Yang Yang once said, Mom, I want a small house after moving. Wang and her husband set up a glass cabinet in the bedroom, which contained a toy house. The lawn and swing in front of the house are all made to order. There is a small bed in the "room", and the quilt is sewn by my mother.

Wang has long hair and fine features. When she was young, she said that she was sentimental, and a yellow leaf could make her sad. Two weeks after her child died, she sent an email to a friend abroad. The email said: I will find another "Yang Yang" in my life to better continue my children's love for everyone.

Yang Yang was buried in Fushouyuan Cemetery. Like many enterprises, the cemetery also has its own website. Wang happened to find that commemorative articles can be published on this website. Therefore, she also built a "Yang Yang House" for her son online. Little by little in the child's short life flows through her heart like a stream. Wang is over 40 years old and has already passed the age of internet addiction. During that time, she wrote articles and surfed the Internet every day to see how many people were visiting "Yang Yang House". She feels most calm in front of the computer.

"After surfing the Internet, I found that I was not the only one suffering," Wang said.

"Yang Yang House" is very famous on the Internet. Tong Tong's father and Xiao Xia's mother ... when they paid tribute to Yang Yang, they also left messages telling their children what they thought. Wang found that many parents have psychological problems after losing their children. Some are even psychologically unbalanced and jealous of others having children. "More generally, it affects interpersonal relationships and marriage feelings. This will create many social hidden dangers. "

After more than ten years of social work, I began to worry about Wang. There is a psychotherapy method of "group work" abroad-people with similar fates get together and talk to each other and comfort each other with the strength of the group. She wants to try and do something for other poor parents.

In July, 2003, Wang invited the staff of the cemetery to help, and invited 10 couple to hold a "net friend gathering".

The party will be held at 1: 30 pm. Everyone shed tears when talking about the dead child. Crying, reluctant to disperse, gathered in the evening 1 1.

"I didn't expect the effect to be very good. Everyone agreed to meet again later. " Wang is very happy and plans to get together in different ways every time. After several parties, the group of friends agreed to give the group a name. The final name is "Star Harbor"-the stars are children, and every star in the sky is the bright eyes of children; A port is a harbor, a place to bid farewell to pain and seek peace.

The members banded together to draw strength.

Mr. Xiang originally thought that this group of people was "abnormal". On June 5438+065438+ 10, 2003, the member "Dad" invited Mr. Xiang to join us and visit children with leukemia. Flatly refused to Mr.. His daughter, a sophomore, was diagnosed with bone cancer and died less than a year after graduating from college.

"I can't understand, how can these people go to such a place without their children?" Tell Mr. Xiang that he doesn't want to touch the scene.

The next activity was attended by the teacher, because he couldn't resist everyone's kindness. In front of everyone, he talked about his daughter and said that when she was seriously ill, she was looking forward to-when she was well, she would return to the newspaper. He was in tears. This is the first time that my daughter shed tears in front of outsiders six months after her death. "I don't think this will work. The sadder I am, the more I can't stand it. " Mr Xiang was going to stand up and leave. However, everyone talked about the future life. The topic left him behind.

"'Xinggang' is like mala Tang. If you come, you will cry. If you come, you won't leave. " Evaluate Mr. Xiang. He has a humorous personality, and sometimes he deliberately says strange things to make others laugh.

In the "team", Teacher Xiang is called "Dad Lan". Other names, "Ma Jun" and "Xiao Jun Dad", all come from children's names. The prince's beautiful name is "Yang Yang's mother". She said that many parents like to call it that, as if their children are still around.

A few days ago, "Junpa" invited several members to dinner at home. Xiaojun was diagnosed with liver cancer one month before he went to study in Britain and died in a hurry. "Little Ma Jun" said that when her daughter was seriously ill, she was afraid that her parents would worry. She never cried in front of them, only said to her cousin: I am really sad; Mr. Bao said that his daughter Jun Jun repeatedly took advantage of her parents to donate blood for free; Mr. Xiang said that he treated Lan Lan and took a detour. ...

When I said that, I sighed. However, everyone's expression has been very calm. Because of these things, they have confided to each other many times.

A friend once advised Mr. Xiang: What do you want a team like Starport to do? The mood will only get worse.

He smiled and said, "The pain of losing a child can only be experienced by people who have had the same experience. We can't tell others about these pains over and over again. Here, we can really talk, and only here can we get real understanding. " Members of "Star Harbor" will call and send messages to their daughters on their birthdays, anniversaries or other special days. Mr. Xiang felt very warm and reluctant to leave.

Wang, who intends to use "group work" to treat everyone's psychological trauma, had previously imagined that the group could be dissolved after the members supported each other out of the shadows. However, the shadow in parents' hearts has faded, but their friendship has deepened.

"Jun dad home to a new guest. Mr. Wu learned of the existence of this "group" and asked his friends for help. He tossed and turned to get in touch with everyone. After her son died, she took anti-anxiety drugs to sleep every day. After several activities, she stopped taking medicine. " I know these friends and want to draw strength from them. "She said.

Public welfare activities amplify love.

The development of "Star Harbor" has been unstoppable, and the founder Wang began to think more: "At the beginning, it was mainly to provide a platform for people to talk and help them out of the shadows. The second step should be to enlarge love, encourage parents to do more social welfare things and enhance their life value. " This concept of "development" comes partly from the memory of my son Yang Yang.

Yang Yang was ill since he was a child, and his neighbors and friends took good care of him. There is only love in children's hearts. When he was six or seven years old, he saw a beggar on the road and borrowed 10 yuan from his mother to help the beggar. "I have been thinking that after the child has left, we parents should understand the value of life and live a wonderful life for the child." Wang said to him.

Members of "Star Harbor" went to juvenile detention centers and orphanages ... At the beginning of the year, we organized a trip to a pediatric hospital. Mr Xiang also went. This time, he was calm. Many people help themselves when their daughter is ill. After calming down, Mr. Xiang decided to help others more.

"In my conscience, if my daughter were still alive, I wouldn't care so much about others." Xiang said, "But my daughter is gone, and my love for her can only be sublimated. Caring for more people is also my plan before my death. "

"Not many people understand our mentality. Some people say that this is a show. " He said in his usual joking way, "Even if it's a show, someone has to do it." He said, in fact, it doesn't matter whether others understand or not. With that, he was silent.

During the Spring Festival, Mr. Xiang intends to sponsor a poor college student to spend the Spring Festival, invite him to dinner at home and give him a "small red envelope". His daughter also went to college, and the title of "college student" made him feel kind. However, it happened that some enterprises subsidized poor college students, and the students declined his kindness. Mr. Xiang was a little depressed and later said to Wang, "If you can't do big things, let's start with small things."

Wang replied: "Help others help themselves, and our team will radiate a wider scope in the future. It is difficult for more parents who have lost their children to think of finding a' star harbor'. "