Introduction: Someone once said: The furthest distance in the world is not between life and death, but when I stand in front of you, you don't know I love you. The furthest distance in the world is not that I stand in front of you, but that you don't know I love you, but that you are so obsessed that you can't say I love you. ? Why can't we say? It's not all caused by objective reasons, but more often it's just because we don't know the chat skills of falling in love. So what should we do? How to fall in love skills and language

First, break the harmonious relationship

Some boys are easily liked by many girls because, unlike most men, they always cater to women in conversation. On the contrary, he will offend women without making them feel disgusted.

Most men tend to follow the following conversation patterns:

M: What do you like to do in your spare time?

Goddess: Me? I like playing games.

m: I like playing games, too. What games do you play?

Goddess: ...

Man: What district are you in? What occupation do you play? (15 minutes for game discussion)

Goddess: Brother, please take me to play games next time.

m: ok, ok!

So Jun A goes online on time every day to wait for the goddess to play with him, and the goddess goes on a date with her male god happily at the weekend. (The end of the play)

And the bad man dialogue is often like this:

M: What do you like to do in your spare time?

Goddess: Me? I like playing games.

m: I like playing games, too.

Goddess: Really? What are you playing?

m: hehe, I never play games. I just watch you so excited and cooperate with you. (teasing tone)

Goddess: ...

Man: You are so gullible, I'm really worried that you will be sold in the future.

Goddess: Do you want me to be sold?

M: I don't want to, so I'll help you count the money next to you.

Goddess Fenquan? (To be continued)

Two ways of chatting compete. Most men always try to establish a relationship prematurely when dating? Harmonious relationship? . They often cater to, praise, or talk about work and hobbies, although a date is very interesting? Harmony? But it always feels like a friend relationship, lacking the tension between men and women.

and bad men dare to break this? Harmonious relationship? Yes, we are good at teasing, flirting and even teasing girls in a friendly way. And all this has brought all kinds of emotions to women. These emotions are the beginning of attraction. Dare to break? Harmonious relationship? , is the first key to attraction.

second, sweet words can't be said like this

no girl doesn't want to hear sincere and natural compliments. Yes! I used adjectives, sincere and natural. You have to be able to boast. Let's take a concrete look at what boasting is. First of all, which situation can't be boasted?

1. Praise each other because they are silent and break the embarrassment

Think about the scene where two people are sitting opposite each other, holding drinks in their hands, and her eyes are looking around because of boredom. Then you say: You look in good shape. ? The girl thought to herself: what a wretched thing! Secretly finished my body.

2. In order to make her like you more, keep kneeling and praising her

If she has been attracted to you, praise ok more, but obviously, she has not given you any interest indicators, and you will only lower your position in her heart more and more. For example: you are so beautiful. This sentence sounds good, but it doesn't mean anything. In fact, she will respond to your compliment like this: thank you, you are the fifth person to say this to me today. Or just smile and say:? thank you ? It sounds like a good response, but is it enough? Shrug your shoulders or smile, which means that this sentence has no emotional impact. Look at a better way to express this compliment:

? I know that most men think you are a beautiful woman, but I think you only show your true charm when you speak. Such a statement can make women feel that you are watching her and discover her true charm. Note: Even this form of praise should be based on sincerity. There is a tricky way to praise is to be specific, not general

for example, you praised her? You look nice today? Put it another way:? I believe many people will tell you that you are beautiful, but in fact, they have not found that you are really a super match. Your skirt matches your hairstyle very well, which is my favorite style. ?

Girls are tricked. As long as you know how to talk and when you need sweet talk, the woman you like will be easily won by you.

third, chat? Five taboos?

In the relationship between men and women, we always take pains to emphasize the importance of communication, but despite our repeated emphasis, there are still many people who can't grasp it well. In order to avoid ineffective communication, let's talk about five things to avoid when communicating.

First, never interrupt others' expressions. We should be taught from an early age to let others finish before interrupting, and not to interrupt others halfway.

second, don't try to please each other. There are relatively few people who may make this kind of mistake, because most people have a strong desire to express themselves now, and flattering others is generally rare.

Third, don't refute and accuse the other party's point of view. There are many ways to discuss and exchange ideas in management, such as leaderless group, brainstorming and so on. In fact, they are all ways of communication, but they all require us to express our opinions freely, but even if you think others are wrong, you should not directly put forward critical opinions.

fourth, irrational expression. When communicating, we should always remember that we are communicating instead of quarreling, not being tit-for-tat, just expressing a purely rational view, and don't always involve some emotional views.

fifth, avoid communication. Many people, perhaps because they are too lazy to dispute with each other, feel that communication is meaningless, or that communication means facing their own mistakes, so they choose silence as a way to avoid communication.

Fourth, finding the same language

It is not a simple thing to find the same language in love. Here we recommend several ways to find the same language. You can refer to one or two:

First, carefully observe what the other person is interested in. Maybe in the process of getting along with each other, if you are not careful enough, you may not find out what girls are particularly interested in at all, and you may have discussed this topic many times with the most obvious hobbies, and there is no desire to talk further. Then you need to be more careful. For example, look at Weibo, a girl, and see what topics she likes to focus on, especially food. Is it beauty? Is it a costume match? Or humorous jokes? When you get to know her from another way, you will find that she will be particularly surprised at your understanding of her. She never thought that there was such a tacit understanding between you. What tacit understanding? To put it bluntly, it's just that you carefully prepared it.

second, endless topics and humor. In fact, chatting is a process of constantly changing from one topic to another. Therefore, when chatting with girls, you should have the ability to throw out topics and take over topics. Many boys are considered by girls to be quiet and dull, because those boys will not throw out topics and will not take over topics. In fact, creating a topic is a kind of learning ability. Grasp the nouns in the other person's words and then expand them. You can expand them by means of greater than, less than and equal to.

We can use some related topics to expand, and don't always focus on one topic, which will fall into the whirlpool of topics. We should switch and jump out in time, and the skills need to be practiced more. In particular, don't use critical sentences often, because critical sentences usually end the topic. If you always comment, say, Ah, this is good, great and beautiful. Then there is nothing else to say, let others find something valuable from your words.

Actually, humor is an important way to close the distance between two people. As for humor, you can learn some conventions and skills from some books that teach you how to be humorous or from our forum.

third, emotional buzz. If you want to attract girls through chatting, it is very important that you have an emotional buzz when chatting with her. In fact, singing can be achieved through the same interests. For example, if a girl says that she likes to travel, then you can say: Then you must believe in body and mind, and one must be on the road, right? Girls who like to travel generally don't resist this sentence, and it's a compliment. Even if she doesn't believe in it so much, she will accept it gladly if you say so. Moreover, if she takes this sentence as a creed of life, then she will think that you know her very well, so there will be emotional singing.

It may be the most basic and important event in life to be the person who knows the most about love and chat skills. People who don't understand will be limited everywhere in love and can't move. People who understand will be able to find both sides in love, like a duck to water.