1. The first time I saw this sentence was one weekend when I was lying in bed and scrolling through Moments out of boredom. I saw a post by a junior high school classmate A whom I had not seen for many years.

I was wondering what kind of unforgettable experience Class A had recently experienced that made her express such profound emotion, when suddenly I saw her post a link about "Easy Raising".

After opening it eagerly, I immediately understood the meaning of her previous post.

It turned out that something happened in the family. Her husband was only in his early 30s. He was originally in the prime of life. As the breadwinner of the family, he had to raise two children who were waiting for food and an old man in his sixties.

Last year, she was unfortunately diagnosed with leukemia. The treatment expenses for the past year had already consumed all the family's savings, and she also owed a lot of foreign debt.

Now she is still faced with the difficult situation of continuing to pay a huge treatment fee of about 600,000 yuan.

As a last resort, I had to ask the society for help through the "easy raising" platform.

When I saw this news, my heart suddenly skipped a beat, and I quickly asked another classmate B about her recent situation. Classmate B also sighed repeatedly, saying that classmate A has been living a very hard life recently. Since she was hit by a family accident,

, the person is much thinner and more haggard than before, and his thoughts are becoming more and more negative.

No wonder, after all, it is not easy for anyone to suddenly accept such a heavy reality.

I remember when I was in school, this female student was lively, cheerful, and willing to help others. She was the joy of everyone in our class.

Unexpectedly, he would suffer such a bad luck due to unexpected circumstances.

The sentence I heard most often when I was a child was that it is easy to change a country, but it is hard to change one’s nature.

At that time, I thought that personality was a gene that a person was born with and that it was difficult to change throughout his life.

But now I realize that sometimes this life can be long enough to turn seas into mulberry fields and mountains to flatten, not to mention the transformation of personalities.

A person's character is actually the result of the mutual influence between the inner nature and the external environment.

In fact, the external environment sometimes has a subversive influence on people. It can make you who is taciturn become talkative and unrestrained when you meet a once-in-a-lifetime soulmate, or it can make you who are nervous become more talkative when you stumble over a solid somersault and eat enough.

After losing money, I became cautious and thought twice before acting.

I didn’t dare to predict the profound impact this misfortune would have on classmate A, but I could only silently pray that God would be lenient to her and her family, and that no matter what the outcome was, she would be strong enough to face it.

Yes, laugh at life.

2. Experience is a neutral word. It can change a person from optimistic to negative, or change a person from lazy to enterprising.

The following is the story of another classmate C of mine.

Classmate C can be said to be the first beautiful woman I saw that I was amazed by when I first stepped into the university. It is said that she has "bright eyes and white teeth, skin like gelatin, beautiful eyes, and a charming smile." She has a fresh look.

A refined image of a fairy.

But after being in contact with her for a long time, I realized that there is a kind of beauty called "looking beautiful". As soon as she opened her mouth to speak, she realized that her behavior and conversation were really unflattering. Even the boys were whispering in private, talking about how "beautiful" this beauty was.

It's indecent.

But what does it matter? As a scarce resource in society, beautiful women are always surrounded by people to pursue.

Not long after beauty C entered school, she was captured by a young man from a wealthy family.

After that, the two began a loving pattern of constantly showing off food, shopping, and traveling.

Although her living standard is higher, Beauty C is still the same beauty.

Just when we all thought they should successfully get married, news came out that the two had broken up.

The specific reason is still unknown. We only know that Beauty C was lonely and quiet for about a year, and then she found a new "wishful husband". I heard that this handsome guy not only has a more "rich" background, has a higher education, and has a better job.

Fight hard.

The only difference this time is that in addition to occasionally showing off delicious food and taking photos of beautiful scenery, Beauty C’s circle of friends is mostly about what new books she has read recently and what insights she has gained about work.

We don’t know whether it was the previous relationship that made Beauty C learn from the pain after her heartbreak and realize the importance of female autonomy, or whether the sweetness of the later relationship awakened the seeds of growth in her heart, allowing her to not only learn to cherish the other person’s good qualities, but also be more capable

Worthy of such good efforts.

All I know is that she has completely changed. She is no longer the one who was called "vase" every time she opens her mouth. Her whole body, inside and out, exudes an intellectual and elegant temperament, and she interprets both external and internal beauty flawlessly.

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3. Life is originally a piece of music composed of love, hate and sorrow. The pace may be high or low, exciting or soothing.

Past experiences form part of your present, and the unknown future leads you to become something else.

But what kind of self do you want to be? Whether you are nourished by love and become a sunflower with a smile that faces the sun, or whether you are crushed into a puddle of mud by sorrow and can no longer hold up the wall. You always have the final right to choose.