Extramarital affairs stem from dissatisfaction with marriage.
Chen Fen (pseudonym) recently found her husband Lin Qiang (pseudonym) wandering around. As the chairman of a big company, Chen Fen can't figure out why her husband wants to find another woman, because he is just beautiful and merged. Under the guidance of a psychologist, Lin Qiang told the truth: Facing a strong woman's wife often makes him feel inferior, especially when her wife takes the attitude of chairman home and talks to him like a child, he feels more like a man, and naturally he is less interested in the life of husband and wife. Only by "going out" did he feel that he was a man, and his body and mind were satisfied.
Xu, deputy director, said that the lack of communication between husband and wife could not reflect their dissatisfaction to their spouses, which caused psychological obstacles to men. When they cannot get sexual satisfaction from their spouses, extramarital affairs are inevitable. Lin Qiang just has psychological problems and expects to get satisfaction from other women. He suggested that as a woman, we should distinguish the roles of work and family, and not dampen each other's self-confidence and affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Marriage also needs to be maintained.
Huang Dan (pseudonym) has been married for many years and has no children. She can't do housework, but the relationship between husband and wife is very good. The secret she revealed is: always make him feel fresh! "I have my own career. First of all, you don't need to rely on your husband economically, and you can constantly improve yourself and show your Excellence in front of your husband's friends and colleagues. My husband feels very face-saving and has always been obedient to me. "
It is understood that many extramarital affairs occur in middle-aged men. At this time, the secretion of estrogen in women decreases with age, or it has reached menopause, which brings unhappiness to sexual life and men cannot be satisfied.
Deputy Director Xu believes that modern people have wide communication, many social activities, relatively many external temptations (galleries and articles) and weak sexual concepts, so the probability of derailment is high. As a woman, we should know how to constantly inject freshness into marriage, use our wisdom to create an atmosphere of love, improve ourselves from personal cultivation and dressing up, and keep attractive to men. "A smart woman should know how to control a man's heart so that he wants to see through you and doesn't want to see through you." He also said, "As a man, you should also know how to be self-disciplined and restrain your behavior with morality."
There are many factors that affect "sexual interest"
Wang Xu (a pseudonym) is an office clerk. He has been married for many years and has no children. Recently, his wife found out that he was having an affair. Several times of communication not only failed to solve the problem, but also had a big fight, and his marriage almost collapsed. Wang Xu said that his marriage was "the fate of his parents" and his wife was beautiful but not "sexy".
"What kind of women men can have' sexual interest' is influenced by many factors, such as family background, personality, experience, and even the influence of the previous generation such as parents, which may affect their judgments and feelings about women." Xu Mingzhi, deputy director, said that different men have different understandings of "sex". Wang Xu's slim wife, for example, is not a sexy expression of women, not to mention sexual interest.
He said that men often have higher demand for sex than women. When the sex in marriage is not satisfied, they often seek satisfaction through other channels. "When a husband has an extramarital affair, as women, we should first find problems in marriage, not through quarreling, monitoring, or letting relatives and friends judge." He reminded that finding the root cause through doctors in the hospital is also one of the solutions.