In fact, we didn't know each other at first, and there are still many topics to talk about, such as the following eight aspects:
1, saying * * * is the same
Talk about your preferences, or what he likes, and you only know a little about it, and establish a fit. You can find clues from sharing friends, sharing song lists, activities, punching cards and so on. , can be used as a starting point.
Step 2 talk about food
If you are in the same place, share the shops that you think are not bad and often punch in. People from different hometowns will share their favorite foods and local dietary differences, and also pave the way for subsequent dinner dates. Food is the most important thing for people. This can't be wrong.
Step 3 talk about hobbies
Talk about music, sports, games, fitness, good habits and so on. If we can get involved in his hobby, we can discuss it. If it is your blind spot, you should use a consulting attitude. For example, I happened to be doing a strategy recently, but I don't know where to start, what equipment to buy and so on. The attitude of consultation will enhance each other's self-confidence and appropriately express appreciation and worship. !
4. Share what you find interesting.
This kind of sharing not only knows what you are eating and doing, but also makes the other party think you are very interesting, such as strange clouds, funny expression packs, funny jokes and so on. The response attitude of the other party can also tell whether you are on the same stage.
5. Talk about movies, TV series, books and variety shows.
It's better to be familiar to you, well-known and sensational. Some girls will share the idol drama you watch as soon as they come up, and boys will be confused and have no clue!
6. Talk about some hot events
Hot search by famous stars or social hotspots can be done. Controversy leads to topic.
When the other person tells you something, such as the current hot spot and what happened around him/her, it shows that he/she has given him/her more feelings.
If you say "what do you think of this matter" at this time, it means that you not only think that the other person has wisdom to share, but you are also curious about his sharing.
This sentence is often the key sentence to open the other party's chatterbox and even the heart.
7. Talking about travel
As long as it's not a dead house, always go out to play. You can talk about the cities you have been to, and the humanistic food can be extended, including interesting things and adventures on the journey.
Don't expose your low value in the early stage. When you meet for the first time, show your advantages more and expose your shortcomings less. Don't feel honest with each other about your shortcomings, but feel that you can narrow the distance. The premise for the other party to tolerate our shortcomings is to see our advantages.
Practical tips for chatting:
First, talk about a topic for a long time, don't ask and answer.
Chatting is based on one principle: I'd rather not chat, but I'll talk as much as possible.
Don't always reply to each other with summative words, learn to disassemble keywords and extend the topic:
Take two steps:
1. Disassembly keyword
2. Grab keyword extensions
If there is really nothing to say about this topic, then change the topic quickly, and the shorter the time interval, the better.
For example, the other party said: I am so tired at work today.
You answer: it's very hard. Pay attention to rest.
That's really hard to say. The key words of another sentence are "work" and "fatigue", so you can talk about these two points, such as:
Is the workload heavy today?
Has the task been completed?
I know a good way to relieve work pressure. ...
Second, use exclamation marks.
Send "good night!" Not "good night".
Send "What a coincidence!" Instead of "what a coincidence."
Third, multi-picture/face text
Share the daily formula: picture/emoticon pack+your feelings.
The advantages of sending pictures/characters are:
1. Good-looking, cute and funny pictures/words can easily arouse each other's desire to chat.
2. Pictures or words can show details better than words, and the other party can answer the words better.
It can reflect your interesting soul.
Now when I meet new friends and chat with each other on WeChat, I always try to chat with each other in a pleasant tone, try to create a relatively relaxed atmosphere, and then find some topics to chat with each other, such as sharing the delicious/unpalatable food I ate today, the funny movie clips I saw and so on. If I really don't have time or want to talk, I'll say I have something to end the topic ~
In fact, when chatting, you should relax your mind, don't be too nervous, obsess over what others say, and use the sentence pattern of "you xx" instead of "I xx". In sentences that begin with "I …", focus on your own perceptions and opinions, as well as what you know and have done. Once the endless "I …" begins, the other party will lose interest in continuing the conversation.
If you then throw a question that starts with "you", the situation will be very different. The other person can feel your sincerity, and you really want to know each other. There are many routines and methods to communicate with people, but the biggest routine is sincerity. When you are curious about each other, willing to listen to each other's expression, understand each other's views and pay attention to each other, you are conveying sincerity and showing concern.