A person can clearly understand and treat himself, which is the cleverest and most valuable. "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. The winner is strong and the winner is strong. " It means that being able to understand and know others is called wisdom, and being able to know and know yourself is considered smart. Knowing is being able to know yourself. "People are expensive and have self-knowledge", Lao Tzu believes that a person can know others, which is a manifestation of wisdom; Being able to know yourself is really smart.

2. Recognize yourself.

The saddest thing in life is not that you are devastated after losing, nor that you have chosen the wrong path of life; It's that you haven't recognized yourself when you are white-haired, and you haven't known what you really did. To be a man, we must recognize ourselves, be strict with ourselves, and be good at examining ourselves by comparing others and learning from others. Only when a person knows himself clearly and finds his goal can he have the right to choose what he wants and reject what he doesn't want. If you can't know yourself correctly and have no goal, just because you think everything is not good at present, you will put down what you have, which is no opinion and change your mind. If you hesitate like this, you will eventually accomplish nothing. The ancients said: "See the sage Si Qi Yan, see the sage and introspect." It means: when you see advanced model figures, you must learn from them and keep up with them; When we see other people's shortcomings, we should ask ourselves if we have similar problems and shortcomings, so as to avoid repeating the same mistakes, so that we can constantly learn from others' strengths and make up for our own shortcomings. Only when you know yourself clearly and know whether you are tall or short, others will recognize your achievements, and you can enjoy yourself and truly turn over a new leaf.

The owner of a skyscraper worries about the expensive elevator repair fee every month. Because the building is very high, the elevator doesn't come as soon as it is called. Passengers often get impatient and keep pressing buttons, so the elevator buttons break down quickly. Although people see that the elevator button is on, they still have to press it again to feel at ease. It seems that what others press doesn't count, and they have to press their "magic finger" before the elevator will come. The boss posted many notices beside the elevator, but they didn't work. Finally, he posted a reward, and if someone could make the passengers change their habits, he would give a thick reward. As a result, a psychologist installed a big mirror on the elevator door and solved the problem easily. Because the mirror makes passengers see their impatience, as soon as they stand in front of the mirror, they immediately become polite. The original bustling crowd has become gentlemen and ladies in front of the mirror, waiting patiently for the elevator. This is the wonderful use of the mirror. Many times, people don't mean to do some evil things, but they just don't know what they are doing, and they don't know it. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, "A man's character is his destiny." That is to say, a person should recognize his own nature and live a life that is most suitable for his nature, and this is the best life for him. To put it bluntly, he should recognize himself. If you are a dragon, you can't crawl underground like a snake and be at the mercy of others. You always have to think about how to walk on clouds. It's a duck, and don't even think about competing with a peacock. People's abilities are different. When you are ready to do something, you might as well recognize yourself before you do it, lest the geese peck your eyes instead of hitting them. People living in the world, it is important to understand their purpose of living, recognize their value of living, and then strive to realize their value and shine, instead of using their ignorance and self-confidence to destroy their youth. On the wooden bridge of life, there is an abyss of conceit on one side and a gap of inferiority on the other. When you are proud, don't forget to do it. You don't need to exaggerate your important role. The earth will turn without anyone. When you are frustrated, don't be too self-abased. "People are not sages, to err is human?" "A gentleman says that he will save himself in three days". Only by truly recognizing himself and knowing himself without pretense can he not deviate from his course on the way forward and be "invincible" in the arena of life. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, "A man's character is his patron saint." Indeed, once a person knows his own nature and who he really is, he will know what he really wants, just like being guarded by God, and he will not get lost in the noisy world. Zou Ji, the prime minister of Qi Weiwang, is handsome, eight feet tall, burly and very strong. Xu Gong, who lives in the same city as Zou Ji, is also a handsome man and a famous handsome man in Qi State. One morning, Zou Ji got up, put on his clothes and hat, and strode to the mirror to look at his costume and his appearance carefully. He felt that he was really different and superior, so he casually asked his wife, "Look, who is more beautiful than Xu Gong in the north of the city?" His wife stepped forward to help him tidy up his skirt and replied, "How beautiful you are, how can Mr. Xu compare with you?" Zou Ji was a little incredulous, because Xu Gong, who lives in the north of the city, is recognized as a handsome man, and I'm afraid he can't compare with him, so he asked his concubine again and said, "Who is more beautiful than Xu Gong in the north of the city?" His concubine quickly said, "Your honor is much more beautiful than Mr. Xu. How can he compare with adults?" The next day, a guest came to visit, and Zou Ji chatted with him. Recalling yesterday's incident, he asked the guest by the way, "Who do you think is more beautiful than Xu Gong in the north of the city?" The guest said without hesitation, "Mr. Xu can't compare with you, and you are much more beautiful than him." Zou Ji made three surveys like this, and everyone agreed that he was more beautiful than Xu Gong. However, Zou Ji is a man with brains, and he is not complacent about this and thinks that he is really more beautiful than Xu Gong. A day later, Duke Xu of Chengbei visited Zou Ji's house. Zou Ji was shocked by Xu Gong's imposing and radiant image at the first sight. When they were talking, Zou Ji kept looking at Xu Gong. He realized that he was not as good-looking as Xu Gong. In order to confirm this conclusion, he secretly looked at himself in the mirror, and then turned to look at Xu Gong, but he felt that he was longer than Xu tolerance. In the evening, Zou Ji lay in bed and thought about it repeatedly. Since I am not as beautiful as Xu Gong, why do my wife, concubine and the guest all say that they are more beautiful than Xu Gong? In the end, he finally found the conclusion of the problem. Zou Ji said to himself, "So these people are complimenting me! My wife said I was beautiful because she favored me. I say I am beautiful because I am afraid of me; Guests say I am beautiful because they want something from me. It seems that I have been praised by people around me and I can't recognize my true self. " Man's greatest shortcoming is that he is always used to finding confidence in others' recognition and recognition, and determining his position with others' coordinate system. In order to cater to others to achieve the unity of ideas, although it is contrary to their own will, they are also happy, so innovation disappears, personality becomes * * *, and characteristics become popular colors. Lu Xun said well, only by digging out the bad roots of the nation can we prescribe the right medicine and save lives. However, it is not easy to recognize yourself. It may be a painful process for a person to dissect himself carefully from head to toe, but it will benefit you for life. Maybe you are a success, but don't forget that the wreath of success often covers up some crises that are not easy to find. That beautiful laurel may blind your eyes, weaken your ambition, consume your self-motivation, and make you go downhill unconsciously until you fall into the abyss, and it's too late to regret it. So, recognize yourself, open a beautiful wreath, avoid thunderous applause, and put down your high posture, so that you can face up to your achievements without forgetting your shortcomings and deficiencies. Maybe you are a loser, but don't forget that the shadow of failure often covers those shining pearls, and you lose your passion and ambition yesterday in endless darkness; Lost yesterday's complacency; Even lost the ideal; Lost the future; Lose self-confidence, but in fact you have the ability to make yourself successful. So, recognize yourself, clear away the foggy shadow, avoid the endless darkness, step out of the muddy swamp, and raise your once-lowered head, and you will find that there are actually enviable treasures in yourself. How to recognize yourself, only by using the mirror in your heart, bravely look at your heart, know yourself, and know where your characteristics are? What's your personality? What are the shortcomings? Dig out your own bad roots, push yourself at all times, and reflect on myself three times a day, so that you can understand yourself, overcome yourself and conquer yourself. Only by facing all the problems in life in this way can we calm ourselves down and think about how to solve them. So, know yourself correctly and evaluate yourself, so that you will have a meaningful life and be able to prove to the world that I have been to this world.

3, the length of the bosom friend, know yourself short.

A correct understanding of yourself is manifested in two aspects: first, knowing what your strengths are; The second is to know what shortcomings you have. A large number of people only know their own strengths, even exaggerate their own strengths, do not know their own shortcomings, and even avoid their own shortcomings. Such people often claim to be self-aware. In fact, their "self-knowledge" is at best half of their self-knowledge, but judging from the consequences of dealing with people and things, they are not self-aware and self-evident. This is exactly the case. The more people who preach how they know themselves, the more ignorant and self-evident they are. Know only your own strengths, not your own weaknesses. People with this disease, when talking about work, only talk about achievements, not about deficiencies; Talking about individuals, only talking about going through the customs, not talking about going to Maicheng; When we talk about family, we only talk about filial piety to parents and kindness to wives and daughters, and don't talk about those shady tricks. Suffering from this disease, most people have black gauze wings on their heads to shake. First, because their words are like "imperial edicts", right and wrong are obeyed, so they always think they are right and wise; Second, there are always a group of people carrying sedan chairs and blowing horns around them, boasting about how wise they are, how great they are, how diligent they are for the people, and how dizzy they are all day long, thinking that they can really stand side by side with God and Buddha. As a person, everyone should have self-knowledge, but as a leader, they should have the spirit of self-knowledge. Being a leader at the grass-roots level may not be a "good" official, but they are the leaders of a unit and a department after all. Therefore, they are not only likely to be surrounded by nepotism among three relatives and six relatives, but also easily surrounded by some mean people who specialize in flattery. It is not easy for them to hear correct and true opinions and situations, let alone criticism of their own shortcomings, but only flattery. Therefore, if there is no real self-knowledge, it is easy to get caught in the fog of the cloud mountain fog cover. When you are a leader, you are neither a king nor an emperor, but there will still be all kinds of people around you, and you can often hear compliments and praises. Those who say these words are "selfish", "afraid of me" and "who want something from me". You should know well and don't confuse others, so you are an unqualified leader. Therefore, if you want to develop yourself and have a good harvest in your studies and career, "self-knowledge" is a prerequisite for your development and improvement. More than 2,000 years ago, Lao Zi, a Chinese thinker, emphasized that people should be kind to themselves. He said: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear; The winner is strong, and the winner is strong. " In today's words, people who can correctly understand "people" are very wise, people who can correctly understand themselves are smart and overcome others, and people who can clearly understand their own shortcomings and overcome their own shortcomings are considered real strongmen. Only when everyone really knows himself, knows himself, and "the length of a bosom friend is clear about his own shortcomings" can he choose his own development direction and determine his own goal. A person who can't fully understand himself is a person who can't correctly evaluate himself. In study or interpersonal communication, there are two extremes in his mind: one is to belittle himself and belittle himself; The other "end" is self-expansion and arrogance. And "the greatest pride and the greatest inferiority are the greatest ignorance of themselves." It is not easy to really know yourself. In order to remind people that they must pay attention to self-knowledge, an intriguing warning of "Know yourself" engraved a long time ago is still preserved in an ancient Greek temple. Things are constantly developing, and there is no end to knowing yourself. Han Fei ziyun said: "It is difficult to know, not to see people, but to see yourself." It is indeed a truth. Some people can be observant, or they can see thousands of miles from afar, but they turn a blind eye to themselves. When it comes to other people's shortcomings, they are ugly, but when it comes to themselves, they don't know. Look at others always wearing a magnifying glass; If you look at yourself, you can't see through the wooden glasses. It's so perfect without any flaws. If you are a person with a certain reputation or official position, I am afraid it will be more difficult to be a "bosom friend", and it will be even more difficult to get out of the circle of narcissism. As Mr. Lu Xun said: "When celebrities are respected in society, celebrities are often tempted by worship. If you don't be vigilant, you will be stunned. " So know yourself and try to be a smart person. The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself. The terrible thing is that narcissism is more dangerous than open challenge. There are not enough self-righteous people, and those who think they are clear are unknown. Self-evident, and then can understand people. Once a meteor shows off its light in the brilliant starry sky, it ends all of itself. Self-esteem is dangerous, and complacency is overflowing. When you win, you think you are perfect. If you achieve great things, you will be proud of yourself and have a high reputation, that is, you will be arrogant. In this regard, the ancients had a classic exposition. Confucius said: "When you are in a threesome, you must learn from me." Laozi says, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." Rousseau, a French thinker, pointed out sharply: "People make mistakes not because they don't understand, but because they think they know everything." However, the proletarian revolutionist refused Comrade Zai, but modestly regarded himself as a "patch" of the revolution. The sages of ancient and modern China and foreign countries are still so, not to mention that I am not as wise as a grass-roots person. If you want to truly understand yourself, you must look at yourself from another angle. First of all, "check yourself". Look at yourself objectively, jump out of yourself and take care of yourself, just like looking in the mirror, not only looking at the positive side, but also looking at the negative side; We should not only see our own bright spots, but also be aware of our own flaws. Including self-evaluation of one's knowledge, ability, personality, quality, etc., avoid being narcissistic or conceited. Secondly, we should constantly improve ourselves and learn from Si Qi. If there is something, we should change it, if not, we should encourage it. You should know that there are days behind the scenes, and there are people outside. Only by truly understanding your strengths and weaknesses, making clear what needs to be carried forward and what needs to be avoided, avoiding its weaknesses and promoting its strengths, can you accurately locate your life coordinates. When you realize your own shortcomings, it is the beginning of progress.

4. Know yourself, know yourself, go deep into your heart, and don't be confused by your appearance.

Today's society is a society with rapid development of economy and technology. Competition fills every corner of society. Although we have opponents all the time, our opponents are always putting pressure on us, but the real enemy is ourselves. Our own selves often become the biggest stumbling block to our success. Many times, we fail. In fact, the main reason is not because of other reasons. The main reason often comes from ourselves, but we hold ourselves back. If we don't hold ourselves back, we must know ourselves, know ourselves, recognize our strengths and weaknesses, make full use of our strengths, avoid our weaknesses and correct our weaknesses. Only when we know ourselves, can we keep a normal state of mind when we make achievements, and we will not be complacent, lose ourselves and overestimate our abilities; Only when we know ourselves, will we not be knocked down by setbacks and failures, work hard for our established goals as always, and will not underestimate ourselves. No one can succeed smoothly, and nothing can be accomplished without any effort. When we encounter setbacks and retreat for various reasons, we must re-recognize ourselves. Only on the basis of a correct understanding of ourselves can we regain our navigation coordinates and move forward in the direction of victory. Most of the time, we always think that we are right, but only when things have a result do we find our mistakes. We often think that we have fully understood ourselves, but in fact we are blinded by ourselves, or we don't want to be powerless to understand ourselves and know ourselves correctly. We are paralyzed by our own appearances. How to know yourself? Knowing yourself means knowing your own personality, characteristics, strengths, weaknesses, ideals, survival purpose, values, interests, hobbies, hatred, psychological state, physical state, life rules, family background, social status, social circle, circle of friends, whether you are at the peak or trough of your life now, what are your long-term or short-term goals, what you want to do most, what is your distress, and what you can do.

5. Learn to control your thoughts instead of letting them dominate you.

Our specific activities are all guided by thoughts, and every behavior is controlled by our thoughts, some unintentionally and some intentionally. However, thought is built on our limbs, and it must originate from our bodies. Before ideological control activities, we must actively guide them correctly, or control, correct their mistakes and issue correct action instructions. In this way, our behavior will reduce the impulsive factors, make our emotions more stable, and we can look at problems more rationally. If we want to control our thoughts and let them be controlled by ourselves, we must know what we want to do, what we can do and what we can't do. When these are made clear, we can set a criterion for our own behavior in our minds, and use this criterion to force ourselves to do what we should and should not do, and so on. It is not easy to control our own thoughts. In the process of activities, the principles we set for ourselves will be affected by various factors from time to time, which will make the principles we adhere to begin to shake or even collapse. Therefore, in the process of activities, we should review our behavior from time to time, think about our own gains and losses, and reduce our impulsive and radical psychology, so as to regain the control of our thoughts and make our behavior more rational. For example, some people are studying, and when they see a classmate playing football, they can't control themselves immediately. Although they struggled internally, they were quickly defeated by various reasons they were looking for. Some people know that surfing the Internet for too long is bad for their health, but they still can't overcome the temptation of the Internet. Some people have a bad habit of stealing knowledge, but they are defeated by their own material desires and finally become habitual thieves. When our thoughts begin to waver, we must pay attention to mastering our thoughts, controlling our thoughts and regaining the control of our thoughts, so that we can consistently complete our tasks and achieve our goals. ?

6. Set lofty goals and find your idol.

The goal we are talking about is not necessarily to fight for the cause of * * * for life, although in a sense, each of us should set such a goal, but to be honest, this goal is really not easy to set up, and many people only stay in words. As far as our teenagers are concerned, it is very good to set up the goal of serving the people wholeheartedly without harming the interests of others. In any case, we need to set a lofty goal. Only by setting a lofty goal can we have a direction to work hard and not act blindly. Setting goals can be both long-term and short-term. The long-term goal can be what career you want to do in the future, what great things you want to achieve in your life, how old you are and how much money you want to earn. In a word, our goal should be what we want to do most. Of course, it is best not to want to play games all my life or be a thief and gambler in the future. Our goal must be normal and not harm the interests of others. If not, then you should first examine your outlook on life, your inner world and see if you have any problems in your personality.

Long-term goals may sometimes have little effect on our current actions, which requires us to set short-term goals, preferably short-term goals. For example, how far we have to run for physical exercise this morning; When must the homework be completed; When must we recite this article? You must not enter the game room today; How many points should be scored in this unit's exam, etc. Use these short-term goals to correct our behavior at all times and spur ourselves to work hard. If we persist in this way for a long time, our self-control will naturally be enhanced. Setting goals is an important way for us to cultivate and enhance our self-control. Besides, we can also look for our idols, take idols as our role models, and always adjust our actions and thoughts by taking idols as their role models. Idols can be revolutionary martyrs, national heroes, scientists, writers, athletes, business elites, outstanding classmates and so on. Generally speaking, the idols we choose should be people who are relatively close in thought and have made great contributions to society. In this way, we can take idols as an example to stimulate our behavior and adjust our thoughts in order to play a better role. Of course, it is also possible to follow the example of singers and movie stars. They also make contributions to the society, and at least they can play a positive role for us. If negative figures such as local hooligans, legendary thieves, gambler in casinos and so on are taken as idols, it will only play a negative role and push you to the abyss of failure or even crime. Many teenagers' bad habits are caused by bad influences. ?