First, ask the name
The main ceremony of "asking names" is to exchange official names, ages and dates of birth, so as to understand each other's origins and measure whether this marriage is "suitable". The procedure is that the media will send the woman's "Geng Tie" to the man's home, and the man's home will put this post on God Zubuji's desk. If the home is safe within 3 days, the man's wedding invitation will be sent to the woman's home. After the woman accepts it, she either asks an astrologer or agrees to get married.
At the beginning of talking about marriage, perhaps the woman asked the man to put forward a letter (word) as the basis for "spying" on the man. If the woman feels suitable and auspicious, write a score for the boy and girl together and send it to the man's house, otherwise the instrument will be returned to the original.
The word (post) is written on red rectangular paper. Central straight books, such as the female book "A certain surname Kun is a certain year, a certain month, a certain day and a certain time"; The men's book "A certain surname was born on a certain day, a certain month, a certain time". The number of words must be even, such as odd, and men should add "sword" before new words. Women add "Rui" to new words. In addition, although Zizi and Zizi are both called Niangeng, they are slightly different, that is, Jiageng, the first character of the eight characters, must be used for divination, while Zizi writes his native place, ranking and so on. Used for investigation and mining. Commonly known as "Zizi", it is a small year celebration, and "Zizi" is a big year Geng.
△ The marriage has not yet been decided, and the two sides cannot be tied together, and they can be agreed.
Second, subscribe.
Book, that is, set. The engagement ceremony is called Wen Ding, also called Xiao Pin, which is now the wedding ceremony. On fixed days and auspicious days, the man's family will prepare to send the bride price to the woman's family. Bridal gifts include: red silk (with gold lettering nailed on it or embedded with gold lettering), golden flowers (golden hairpin), gold rings, gold earrings, sheep, pigs, wedding candles, incense sticks, gift cakes, even flowerpots (meaning to have a precious child) and pomegranate flowers (meaning to have many children).
The media are accompanied by male parents or their relatives. The bride's family accepts most of the bride price and prepares 12 yuan in return. Gift cakes are distributed to friends and relatives as engagement notices. This is called "cake sharing". Donated relatives and friends must give wedding gifts in the future.
Hold an engagement wedding and a "ring-wearing" ceremony. At the time of delivery, 6 men or 65,438+02 (even number) relatives came to the woman's house to give gifts, and the woman's house put the betrothal gift at the ancestral table of the shrine. The soon-to-be-married daughter came to the hall with fragrant tea and introduced them one by one. After drinking tea, each man gave the teacup a "tea-pressing" red envelope. Then the woman comes back and sits in the chair in the middle of the hall (putting one short foot on the other is noble; Marriage faces outward, recruit
The husband faces inward), and the ring is hung by the man's elders. There are two gold and copper rings (copper sounds the same, indicating that the couple are United), which are tied with red lines to indicate that the couple are married. After putting on the ring, the Qing family took a seat and the engagement ceremony was completed. There is also a simplification, which combines small employment with large employment, that is, the three ceremonies of subscribing to the alliance, winning the prize and winning the money are combined into one, which is always called "sending".
Third, the end of employment (winning prizes and money)
The ceremony of paying money in the second lottery is called "employment completion" or "big employment". With wedding documents, betrothal money, coins, silks (jewelry) and other things, the secretary sent them to the woman's home as a gift of receiving money, and the woman's home also returned with the weight. After the appointment, the gift will be sent to the woman's home accompanied by the matchmaker. Send a grand bride price to the rich, in the following order: blowing class (band), gift card (recording gift items and ceremony order), marriage certificate, bride price, pie, rock sugar winter claws, orange cake, persimmon cake and blessing.
Pills (dried longan), trotters, noodles, candy, two capons, two female ducks, one or several pairs of big candles, two bundles of gifts and incense, clothes (bride's dress), bracelets, gold rings, etc.
When the bride price arrives, the woman's family will burn incense and set off firecrackers to inform the ancestors of the gods and celebrate with the giver of the man's family. Give the book to the matchmaker. If the man doesn't give a gift, he will accept a part of it or return it intact, such as Fuwan, capon and female duck, which belong to the man's family and should be returned. Pig feet only take their meat, and the bones of pig feet should be returned. In return, use the groom's dress, clothes, shoes and socks, clock embroidery, etc. "Bridal gift": All the gifts are recorded on the red paper gift card, and the names should be double-taboo, and auspicious words such as happiness, success and double are often used. Posting style of wedding gifts: I sincerely hope to have a wedding letter, an open and sealed book, a double-sealed engagement fee, a sealed box of documents, a sealed training document, Jinlin Chengying, Shoupa Shuang Fu, Sexian Chengduan, Golden Pig as the first, Pleasant Goat as the only one, 80 sugar screens, 100 blessing pills, a box of dream candy, and double dragons and candles.
Fourth, the date of invitation.
Invitation is one of the six wedding ceremonies, commonly known as "sending the sun" or "rising the sun". That is, the man's family chooses the wedding date and writes down the birthdays of male and female students with red notes. This is called an invitation letter, which is carried by the media to the woman's house to discuss the wedding date with the hostess. With the consent of the woman's family, the man will give gifts such as books, candles and salutes. At the woman's house, she will give a gift cake to her relatives and friends and tell her the date of her return.
Fifth, kiss and greet.
Kissing means that the groom goes to the woman's house to marry the bride, or the wedding, which is today's wedding. In the old days, when the middle and lower families went on blind dates, most of them were negligent, and only the matchmaker went to fix them up. The wedding ceremony changes with the progress of the times.
On the wedding day, the groom, accompanied by the matchmaker and six or eight relatives and friends, is the guest (commonly known as "marriage", that is, the best man). Speaking of women's homes, please eat "egg soup" (a boiled egg in sweet soup). Eat egg soup, (only drink its sweet soup, poke or stir eggs with chopsticks). At the same time, the family reunion dinner is called "sister table", which is a farewell banquet. Father warned: "be diligent and careful, and listen to your aunt and husband sooner or later"; Mother warned: "respect and forbearance, three obedience and four virtues." The bride was reluctant to go, and the matchmaker urged her to get on the sedan chair. The bride worships her ancestors, bids farewell to her parents, chooses the right time to follow the groom out of the western stage, and is supported by an old and blessed "lucky" sedan chair. When the bride gets into the sedan chair, she wants to cry a few times, commonly known as "crying for a good life" to show her good life. Not far from the sedan chair, the bride should put down a paper fan or handkerchief, commonly known as "putting a fan" and "sending a fan". As a parting memorial. He also said: this refers to abandoning bad "sex" addiction for the sake of harmony, commonly known as "sex land" (sex and fan sheng). Along the way, I set off firecrackers by marrying Xiang Bin to ward off evil spirits. The sedan chair stopped in front of the man's house and entered the door on an auspicious day. The groom knocks three times on the top of the sedan chair with a fan and three times on the "door" with his foot to show the groom's majesty and make the bride obedient and easy to drive. Then a "lucky dog" led the bride out of the sedan chair, the matchmaker covered the sky with an umbrella, and the groom escorted her into the bridal chamber.
After the wedding reception, we eat the bride's tea, commonly known as "disturbing the bride", that is, drinking sweet tea and making fun of the bridal chamber. At this time, we congratulate the bride on her wedding with happy words, let her laugh and entertain, and test her patience or temperament with various funny forms, but the purpose is still to take this opportunity to watch the bride. The so-called "bride's tea" is accompanied by a matchmaker or family, and the bride and groom hold a tea tray to pay tribute to the guests with sweet tea, wax gourd and candy. Guests receive sweet tea and read a happy sentence. After drinking, the bride and groom came back to get the teacup. Guests should put a red envelope in the teacup as a congratulatory gift and read a happy sentence. The phrases read out are four pairs of rhymes, commonly known as "reading four sentences". In addition to expressing congratulations, the meanings of sentences are mostly auspicious or humorous. There are ready-made sentences, improvised songs and often many wonderful sentences. As for "disturbing the bride", its tricks are endless, embarrassing the bride and groom and their families every time and making them happy.
Fragrant breeze was published on June 2, 200711:1.
The title of the wedding anniversary
The wedding anniversary is usually based on the wedding anniversary.
Paper wedding in the first year
Cotton got married in the second year.
Leather wedding in the third year
The silk wedding in the fourth year
Wooden marriage in the fifth year
Iron marriage in the sixth year
The seventh year of wool marriage
Copper wedding in the eighth year
The ninth year pottery wedding
The tenth tin wedding
Eleven-year steel marriage
Marriage of silk or linen in the twelfth year
In thirteen years, Lv Sisha got married.
Ivory marriage in the fourteenth year
Fifteen years crystal wedding
Porcelain marriage in the twentieth year
Twenty-five years of silver marriage
Thirty years of pearl wedding
Jade wedding in the thirty-fifth year
The 40th Ruby Wedding
The sapphire wedding in the 45 th year
Golden wedding fiftieth anniversary
Emerald marriage in the sixtieth year
The 65th Diamond Wedding
Seventy-year golden wedding
The 60th ~ 70th anniversary of marriage is collectively referred to as Fulushou marriage in China.
I. Engagement ceremony
In ancient China, the marriage relationship between men and women often began with engagement, which is called "engagement". At present, there is no legal guarantee for engagement, and marriage does not require engagement. Generally, engagement procedures are not handled. However, in rural areas, many families still regard engagement as an important procedure for marriage. However, the etiquette of engagement is becoming simpler and simpler. Usually several tables of wine or refreshments are prepared. In addition to the parties and legal representatives, wedding invitations or verbal invitations are issued, and both parties' referees, referees and close relatives and friends are invited to have dinner together, and some exchange ornaments impromptu and fill out engagement certificates. The so-called exchange of ornaments is generally an engagement ring. Order, date of birth, place of origin, time and place of engagement, etc. ; The betrothed person, witness, introducer and host (the ex officio host when parents or legal representatives are present) shall affix their seals or signatures on the engagement certificate; The engagement certificate is in duplicate, one for each party. The banquet ended and the engagement ceremony was completed. As for the relatives and friends invited to the wedding, whether to give gifts depends on local customs, but at present, most of them are giving money and gift baskets.
Second, the wedding ceremony
At present, it is difficult for us to see old-fashioned wedding ceremonies. If there is, it should also be in a remote area or a particularly conservative family. However, some new wedding ceremonies are obtained by imitating western customs, but in our populous country, it is definitely impossible to completely change them in a short time. Therefore, the present wedding ceremony can be said to be a combination of Chinese and western, and during this period, due to customs and social conditions,
The environment is different, but there are differences. The various weddings we introduce below can only be said to be relatively common.
At present, the most common wedding in China is a banquet in a restaurant or at home. In the middle of the banquet hall, there is a "main table". You can put a flower basket, a bottle of flowers or a pair of dragons and phoenixes and happiness candles on the main table. The bride and groom are usually accompanied by bridesmaids. Best men and women usually choose their closest friends as bridesmaids. The main conditions for choosing the best man are: first, of course, proper behavior; Second, unmarried people are generally younger than the bride and groom; Third, we should pay attention to the height of the body and adapt to the bride and groom, otherwise it will be unsightly. At the banquet, the bride and groom must come to each table to make a toast to show their thanks. Here is a special reminder for you. On the one hand, you can't refuse a guest to propose a toast to you, but no matter how much you drink, you must keep your pocket money and not get drunk. The best way is to invite one or several friends who are heavy drinkers to accompany you. If necessary, they can act as your "wine" card. This is a good way, which is rude and does not destroy the happy atmosphere.
On the wedding night, there is often an after-party program called "disturbing the new house". If it is not too much, it can really increase the atmosphere of joy and excitement, which is harmless. The so-called "disturbing new houses" are often attended by friends and relatives of the same age, and the elders and younger generations rarely participate. Among them, the bride and groom are required to report their love affairs, or perform sweets (to attract the bride and groom to kiss), or deliberately steal something for the bride and groom to treat. In a word, its purpose is to increase the lively atmosphere. At midnight, the guests will stop.
The bride and groom can wear dresses when they get married. According to international etiquette, the groom should wear a tuxedo, but at present, suits are the most common, followed by Chinese tunic suit. The bride's dress is usually white gauze or white satin evening dress. By the way, the best man's dress should be the same as that of the new couple. When the banquet toasts, the bride and groom can change into uniforms and accompany them.
Group marriage is a simple and economical wedding ceremony, which is held in units and groups, and the date is mostly on festivals. The ceremony of collective wedding is roughly as follows:
The wedding has begun.
(2) have fun.
(3) The witness is seated.
(4) the introducer is seated.
(5) The guests are seated.
(6) The host is seated.
(7) Married people sit down.
(8) All rise.
(9) The marriage applicant reads the marriage certificate.
(10) Signed or sealed by the married person, introducer and host in turn.
(1 1) Married people bow to each other three times.
(12) The witness spoke.
(13) guest speakers.
(14) Speech by the officiating person.
(15) The married person thanked the witness and the introducer bowed three times. (provided by witnesses and references)
(16) Married people thank the guests for bowing. (guest reply)
(17) Married people bow to the person who presided over the wedding three times.
(18) Have fun.
(19) Politeness.
Travel marriage is a way of marriage that combines marriage and honeymoon. It is very common in Europe and America, and gradually becomes popular in China. There are also supplementary banquets for guests after traveling and getting married. The above is a new wedding ceremony. On the other hand, in the old-fashioned wedding, there are certain rules for engagement, greeting, meeting the bride, offering sacrifices to the ancestors and seeing the ceremony, and there are no mistakes. Although this ceremony is solemn, it is extravagant and wasteful.
Engagement and marriage notice
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Wedding invitations include those that need to be applied by both parties (male and female, in the old society, the man was called Ganfang and the woman was Kun Fang). According to custom, there are two kinds of invitations applicable to marriage: engagement invitations and wedding invitations.
(1) Engagement invitation: A man and a woman enter into an engagement, which is called engagement. Engagement doesn't need a ceremony, so most of them don't waste money, only a few close relatives and friends are invited. Engagement invitations include: ① invitations from relatives and friends. (2) Publish newspaper advertisements.
(2) Wedding invitations: refers to all kinds of invitations used by men and women when they get married.
First, the general engagement invitation
(1) by parents.
(2) Stand up by yourself
Second, the general wedding invitation
(1) by parents.
(2) Type by parents
Note: The above two invitation formats are unisex. Because it is very popular for men and women to hold happy events together at present, invitations are also named by parents of both men and women. If men or women are posted separately, the names of the bride and groom can be changed to "○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○".
(3) Stand up by yourself
(4) Typing by elder brother
Third, invite witnesses.
4. Invitation to references
5. Invite the host
Note: In addition to face-to-face signing, witnesses, referees and receptionists should be hired. You need an invitation to show your solemnity.
Six, the old wedding invitation:
(1) Male proposal post
Description: Write with the giant red full post, and write the word Quanfu on the front. Call the first floor, because you are not engaged, but write the word "home", regardless of seniority, but the number of words in the name must be paired. If it is a single name, you can change the word "home" to the word "family". If you don't write a bow below, but still write a bow according to the custom, you should write "Gu Jia" or "Nianjia" on it, depending on the single and double names. Others nodded and gave them the words Zhuang Jing or Zhuang Ke. Generally speaking, these two posts are written by the man's family, but the woman's family will accept respect and return the furniture, which is the consent to marriage.
(2) Gifts and invitations for men
Note: the gift of accepting gifts is the gift of writing. The above two posts are all written in gold. If you don't need to paint all the posts in gold, you should still write the word Quanfu on the front. The size of the project can be changed at any time. But the number of rows cannot be added or deleted. Write four lines every half page, three or four dozen, exactly one and a half pages. The honorific title and address for so-and-so should be written on the fourth and a half pages, and the number of words should be in pairs. At this time, the two families are engaged, each with its own differences. For example, the female brother came forward and the male father came forward. The male posted that he "waited for the waiter as soon as possible" and the female replied that he "waited for the late birth". Or add your name. If the male brother comes forward and the female father comes forward, the post will be called "born late" and the reply will be called "waiter", with the words "take care of your family" on it. One of them is represented by his grandfather and the other by his father. The rest will be waited by uncles. , and so on.
(3) General greetings and thank-you letters to men and women
(4) It is common for men and women to invite matchmakers to post.
Note: Write with a single plum blossom post, and prepare another full post. Put this post in the middle, add an envelope, sign the book and give it away. After marriage, men and women ask the matchmaker to post, and the usage is the same.
(5) Female reply
Gifts that collect money are used for invitations, and gifts are commonly known as six gifts. The writing of the above two posts is the same as before.
(6) Invite the man's family.
(7) Invite the bride's family
Note: The two posts on the right are printed and distributed in a single plum-red post. If the man's family continues to get married, the word "donated house" can be changed to "continued glue". If the husband and wife are uncles or brothers, the words "children" and "children" must be changed by address. If the word "lai" is replaced by "lai", it will be the most common. When inviting female guests, there is no need to prepare posts.
(8) He Nan family gift list sticker
(9) Gifts for my daughter's family
Note: In the case of using a single column, it can be at least four colors, or more, or six colors or eight colors. The form must be written horizontally, and a whole post should be prepared, but the title should be written on the post. See the gift sticker for the form, and do not list items.
(10) Ordinary greeting cards
Note: If the gift has only one or two colors, there is no need to use a separate post. If you write an item on the seal with an envelope, the postal service may not list the item. Call the first floor, or relatives and friends, depending on the person attached to the marriage. If there are sons and nephews, in 1996.
(1 1) Gift Seal Signature
Note: If you send money, you must use an envelope. The first two words, besides money, depend on goods. Write your name at the bottom, or add a title to your name. If you prepare another full sticker, you don't need to write your name and title on your signature. Send a text ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○.
(12) Thank you.
(13) Thank you for inviting me.
(14) Half collar and half Xie Bi
(15) Thank you for not posting.
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