I think there are many articles on the Internet that teach you to kill. For example, did you eat a large intestine sashimi? Why do you talk so smelly? For example, I really envy your skin, which is called cheekiness ... it looks cool, but in fact, who can say that? How to deal with it with high emotional intelligence and discretion?
The next step is the specific speech practice. It's time to put dry goods. Hurry up and collect it!
The first trick: what we need to do is "self-determination":
The essence of malicious attack is to try to brainwash you with judgment: make you feel wrong, unworthy, poor, and like me ... So, the real attack is not outward at first, but inward. All you have to do is tell yourself four sentences: I am right, I am worthy, and I am good. I can be different from you.
With these four sentences, you can go back calmly. With these three sentences, no one can beat you.
Ma Dong once said: Anyone can do it, why can't you?
Xi Rui responded: Because others are others, I am me, others can do it, so what do I need to do?
I think this sentence is still a little empty. My response is: others are others, I am me, everyone has their own strengths, I am not so narcissistic, I want to do everything.
When others try to kidnap you by various standards, you need to draw a clear line and attack each other in turn: Are you too narcissistic to ask me that?
The second measure: "sugar-coated cannonball tactics":
Generally, "green tea" will have this mantra: I am stupid and don't know how to speak; I'm a simple person, and I don't mind speaking properly ... ...
This is a "speech art" that is worth learning. This sentence is like the icing on the outside of the shell. Take a step back and leave a step for yourself. With this sentence, if someone strikes back at you, it will appear that the other person is too stingy; At this time, you can say: Look, I didn't say my mouth was so ugly. I'm sorry ...
If I meet "green tea" and tell you this, your reaction can be like this: That's great, I'm one of them, and I'm too outspoken. When I met you, I said whatever I wanted.
The third measure: "self-deprecating tactics":
When others are worried about you, the coolest thing to do is to defend yourself.
The best way is to "push the hand to respond". By laughing at yourself, you will find yourself under the steps.
For example, someone always told me: I heard that psychological counselors do this job because they have psychological problems.
I responded: Yes, I really started to learn psychological counseling after I found out that I had a mental illness, and I found that my life has been getting better and better since I found out that I was sick. Later, I found out that the most terrible disease in the world is to avoid medical treatment. The more people say that there is nothing wrong with themselves, the most seriously ill people are often.
The structure of this sentence is like this:
1) Admit that I have defects →2) Defects have advantages →3) You don't have such advantages, you are stupid.
The fourth measure: "specular reflection method":
When others judge you, you can do the opposite, just like looking in the mirror.
(Qipa stands for corresponding paragraph)
Say you two words, how did you get to blx?
You know that's what blx still says. Are you too mean?
You called me blx, and I said you were unfriendly. The premise is that I accept myself as "blx", and I am not ashamed of this feature. I don't even think I'm "blx", but I don't even bother to explain.
People are in Jianghu, so don't care so much about gains and losses.
I care about gains and losses. Why do you care so much? Do you care more than me?
You say I care about gains and losses, then why do you care so much about my care?
The fifth measure is Wei Xiaobao's way of laughing.
When watching Duke of Lushan, one of the magic weapons for Wei Xiaobao to defeat the enemy is that when he is faced with a dilemma, he will suddenly laugh, shake his head and look at each other with pity. Although he didn't say anything, "he said more in silence than they said in their voices" will make the other person feel guilty involuntarily and will definitely ask you: Why are you laughing? At this point, you can shake your head and say, "Forget it."
Then turn around and leave, leaving each other messy. So you can turn Gan Kun around in one fell swoop.
In the final analysis, when we face hostile attacks, the most important thing is to reverse the gas field and restore the initiative. At this time, the most important thing is not to be led by the other side's judgment, but to have an independent mind, self-awareness and quick response. You can use the first four moves to be slow, and you can use the fifth move.
This can be done, elegant, emotional intelligence, so that the other side is speechless, shut up. How's it going? Does it taste good？