When Hana was 4 years old, her mom started teaching her to cook and do chores, all because she had terminal cancer. She was reluctant to leave, but at the same time, she wanted to think about her daughter's future. Mom could no longer stay with her to take care of her, and Dad had to work hard, so Little Flower could only be relieved when she learned to take care of herself.
Little Flower's clothes flopped off, she flopped back to Little Flower, so that Little Flower can organize herself. She doesn't help at all with the preparations before going to the nursery, and she lets her do the housework as much as possible.
On Hana's 4th birthday, it was Hana's task to buy her an apron as a gift and teach her to make miso soup every morning. Tiny as she is, she carries a stool, climbs up, steps on the side of the stool, and leans against the cupboard to make the delicious soup.
Soon her mother taught her to use a knife.
Every time she watched Hana use the knife, her mother's heart was in her throat, but she had to watch Hana with a hard heart as she held up the heavy knife.
Once, a friend came to visit and play with Little Flower. It was time to cook, Little Flower still wanted to play, her mother insisted that she cook. The friend then accused, "You are too hard on the child, how can there be such a mother?"
Mom instantly exploded, crying, "I'm not hard on her, what will she do in the future? What will she do when I'm gone?"
Mom said, "Ah Hua, cooking this thing is closely related to survival, I want to teach you how to hold a kitchen knife, how to do housework. Learning can be put in the second place, as long as the body is healthy and can feed itself, no matter where you go or what you do in the future, you can live. I want my daughter to be tenacious and thrive alone as well."
When Ah Hua was 5 years old, her mom died. The tiny Ah Hua, who gets up at 6 a.m. every morning to prepare breakfast, feed the dog, and go to kindergarten ...... comes home in the afternoon to dry and fold clothes ......
When Ah Hua was 11, the book of the same name, from which the movie was adapted, was published. The story of Ah Hua and her mom touched many, many people.
Because of her mother's "cruelty" and wisdom, Ah Hua has the ability to take care of herself, independent, strong, confident, optimistic, and full of hope for the future.
Sigmund Freud said, "The main impetus for growth comes from separation from parents."
The sooner parents understand this, the sooner they accept this fact, and the sooner they are willing to separate from their children, the sooner they will not always treat their children as children and do everything for them, making it impossible for them to grow up, and even if they do grow up, they will still be living as "giant babies".