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I am a good student.

But not a good intern.

Just yesterday, I left my job.

I am a gentle sunshine otaku/boy at school, with beautiful grades and well-proportioned figure. Chatting with me will always make people feel surprised, like a spring breeze and full of vitality.

I am meticulous and considerate.

I will patiently and attentively complete the requests of teachers and friends, and I will admit to correcting the mistakes and misunderstandings that may occur in the process and laugh them off lightly; At the same time, I will turn my "suggestions" and "corrections" into kind and euphemistic reminders in public occasions (including but not limited to classrooms and WeChat classes) for the sake of the face of my friends and classmates, or swallow them and talk in private ...

I believe that in a free and relaxed environment, it is more harmonious and efficient to get along with people. So I get along well with my friends and get along well with my roommates. One detail is that the housemaster and the students on duty generally take turns to be on duty. At the same time, in some courses, such as indoor landscape hand-drawing and outdoor survey, the teacher asked us to come and leave when we wanted to finish our homework.

Everyone is comfortable and everyone likes me.

I put a lot of effort into it, and got the internship opportunity of the best school-enterprise cooperation company in June and July at that time, and continued my school-based behavior. But after nearly four months of collapse, I finally left. Friend comfort, said to me:

"You are a good student, but you are not a good intern."

Because I have the delusion that I can eat all kinds of new tricks and use them in school to work, the result is often self-doubt, loss of confidence and emotional breakdown. In the end, I had to leave my job.

In the wrong direction, efforts are in vain; Wrong method, get twice the result with half the effort.

2

I'm here to get things done.

Not to make friends.

My first leader was sharp and funny.

He is quick and clear in thinking, pragmatic and efficient in doing things, never nonsense and always resolute.

It will never be easy to have sex with him. He won't tell jokes to coax you to work, and he won't calm your mood with a smile.

Every work report is a spiritual test, and everyone is treading on thin ice carefully.

If it goes well, he will throw a stalk to make everyone smile, and then put away his face and continue to challenge you;

If it doesn't go well, he will interrupt you and pat you on the wall without mercy, but with good reason. From then on, you will never expect anything again.

He won't hide his unhappiness. He has a low tolerance for stupidity. He changes his face when he says he changes his face. If you are regarded as "not striving for progress" by him, you will become a waste in his eyes, and you will never lose your good looks.

He has a pet phrase-"What's this?" If he asks three times in a row, your sweat will come down

Sometimes, you just think that he is a mean and cold capitalist and an inhuman vampire.

The other side of the story is:

Subordinates need to exercise, and when the project is in a hurry to draw a picture, he will work overtime with them to guide the general direction and ensure good quality; At home, he scolded you to pieces, and when you went out, he stood up for you; He will seize the opportunity to advise the big boss, seek benefits for the team and reduce unnecessary workload; He will grant extra days off when his subordinates are sick or his wife gives birth to a child.

Then, the number of overtime work per month is reduced, the weekend is basically closed, the team runs at a high speed, and the performance is growing;

It's a bit cruel, but the truth is: the job satisfaction of a person and a team never depends on arbitrary collective self-satisfaction; But by the output results and emotional management.

Comfortable environment and unrestrained state are helpful to study and gain temporary pleasure, but they can't achieve the ultimate goal, so as to change themselves and improve their quality of life.

A good person in the workplace is to manage emotions, make good grades and be responsible to the boss; A good family member is to self-regulate emotions, improve the degree of harmony and be responsible for parents and children.

This is the professional accomplishment, and this is the logic of business. It is also the responsibility of family members, and the correct posture to open "every family has its own problems."

As he used to say, "I'm here to get things done, not to make friends."

And a necessary and sufficient condition for getting things done and making life better is to manage one's emotions well/manage one's emotions well.

three

A strict teacher on the field and a friend off the field.

A workaholic, a life poet

Li Jian, a singer known as a music poet.

Li Jian is the most humorous tutor in The Voice of China in 20 18 years. And this charm lies in his self-management of emotions.

On the court, he will give extremely harsh and professional comments, and when interacting with students and other tutors, he is extremely kind, interesting, brave and sincere.

When he heard his favorite voice, he would not hesitate to press the button and turn around for the students. When interacting with the tutor, he said, "Is there a reason not to turn around?" Jay Chou's tutor smiled and translated it into words that we can understand. "Is there a reason not to turn around?"

When the Li Jian team is competing for the qualification of the Bird's Nest concert, and only one student, Tenzin Nima, is left, he will also be worried, and he will "play instead of the students" as a joke to relieve the pressure. At the same time, he will adjust his mentality in a few minutes, recover as before, and send the most powerful refueling to Tenzin. Finally, they got their wish and won the championship in the Bird's Nest sprint night.

On the other hand, when training students off the field, he gave you advice and accompanied you to keep fit, just like a teacher is more like a friend. Before the final, he revisited Tenzin's old place and gave him a Yu Pei, wishing him to truly integrate the voice of his hometown with the music of the times one day and sing it to more people.

So, when we like Li Jian, what do we like?

I don't know what you like about Li Jian, but I like the state he has always held. He is very free and clean, and never deliberately.

It is said that his songs are simple, clean and moving, but in fact his songs are his life.

Li Jian is a person who really understands people's lives.

He said, "Being a happy person is cooler than success."

No wonder, in 20 15, the Lifestyle Research Institute made a "20 15 Lifestyle Creative List" to award the "Creator of the Year" award to Li Jian.

Therefore, when everyone knows that Li Jian is a music poet, I want to say that he is a life poet, which can be known from the daily life of him and his wife.

Li Jian's wife's name is Meng Xiaobei, but Li Jian always calls her "Little Shell".

Li Jian only likes to waste time with his little shells.

One day, the reporter accidentally discovered Weibo of Little Shell, which showed us the love between Li Jian and Little Shell:

201February 25, 5

Mr. Vacation leaned against the door and watched me tidy up the teahouse.

He said with a smile: "We are playing an idiom in this state."

"What is it?"

"Stand by and watch."

20122 September, 4

I watered the garden,

The business man who came back last night said through the screen window,

"The days with you are time,

Otherwise, it's just a meaningless swing of the clock ... "

When the wind blows, small flowers and plants are dancing.

201August 4 13

Mr. Coffee made an excellent cup of concentrated coffee.

I chose the chocolate ball with black truffles,

He looked at me and said, "Where did you get so much delicious food? You hid it all, like a little squirrel!" "

201July 26, 4

Steak and tomato noodles and Mediterranean salad were prepared for lunch.

I said, "I have enough nutrition today. Let's be vegetarian tonight."

Mr. Fitness said, "I feel that I lack fish in my body ~"

20 13 May 30th

Mr. jet lag woke up at noon.

I said I did a lot of things in the morning:

"Watered flowers and plants, wrote homework, sent emails, and went to the office for a meeting."

He said: "I also did a lot of things and had several dreams!" "

………

This kind of life, isn't it a little enviable?

Li Jian appreciates the ever-flowing love between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang. He doesn't like tossing and turning himself and others black and blue.

He said: "Love is to find a suitable person to waste time."

The reporter asked him, "Where did you spend your honeymoon?"

Li Jian smiled and replied, "I have been on my honeymoon all my life."

You see, people who know how to manage emotions are people who can live, happy people, and poets who find a suitable person to waste their time and spend their honeymoon.

To every poet who understands life.

four

A good life comes from good emotional management.

Use willpower and get used to it.

I didn't understand my first leader: I thought he was unreasonable and too harsh. When I look back on these four months, when I write this article, I begin to thank the high-pressure forging and solid accumulation during that time.

Just like taking a team is not a dinner party, laughing and laughing, comfortable and comfortable will not have execution; Just as being gentle, diligent and happy will not have fighting capacity, emotional management also needs methods, execution and willpower.

Don't indulge yourself, don't be emotional, this is irresponsible for yourself;

It is my greatest responsibility to learn emotional management, improve stress resistance and gain a stronger heart.

"Micro-habit" wrote: When a behavior becomes a habit, you will become less emotional at first, and this behavior even begins to be a bit boring. Of course things will turn out like this. Jeremy Dean wrote in "Making Habits,Breaking Habits": "Habits can not only be captured by cognition, but also can not be mixed with emotions. ..... It is strange that people have no emotions when they are accustomed to behavior. "

It can be seen that people who know how to manage emotions lead a better life, which is scientifically justified. Because most of us spend 80% of our time doing habitual things, self-emotional management is particularly important.

Of course, this is not to say that it is unrealistic for us to give up our emotions and become robots. Instead, you hope that we will not give up because of our emotions. We can get good things, as long as we can manage our emotions and make good use of our willpower, and then form good habits. After all, the more good habits a person has, the more likely he is to succeed.

Worldly desires is a compulsory course for life, and emotional management is our remote control.

To every manager of self-life.