Qiqi likes painting best. When she was eating, all the dishes became Kiki's creative material. When she took a few bites of broccoli and put it on a plate, it became a sapling. She flew for a long time with black fungus in her small hand and ate noodles one by one around her fingers until she bit the steamed bread into the shape of a cat. ...
Parents often report that children like to play while eating, and it takes at least an hour or two to finish a meal. In winter, the rice is completely cold, and the children still eat it with relish, and sometimes they can't help feeding it to the children. The little guy's two little hands are playing more happily. In the long run, children not only fail to develop the good habit of eating independently, but rely more and more on their parents, lacking independence and sense of responsibility. Seeing such a small thing as eating has become a big headache for the whole family every day. What should we do?
In fact, although every child is eating and playing, the reasons behind it are different. To improve children's bad habits, we must first find the source of the problem. Generally speaking, children may not eat well for the following reasons:
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This is an exploration.
Curiosity is the most primitive motivation for children to explore the world. On the one hand, children deepen their understanding of food in the process of playing with food: "How long is a noodle? Can you turn your fingers a few times? " On the other hand, when eating and playing, children want to know how adults will react and how much control and decision-making power they have. The former corrects their interpersonal communication style by observing others' reactions, while the latter can make children feel capable and promote the development of their self-confidence. So in this way, eating is really a pleasure worth exploring.
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Spoil: Children who are used to doing whatever they want don't like the constraints of rules.
Always worrying about children not having enough to eat, which is very common when the elderly take care of their babies. Feed the child if he doesn't eat, or try to coax him into eating if he doesn't eat. On the one hand, it is a sign of love that children are fed by adults. Adults pay great attention to them when feeding, and they just like the feeling of being concerned and valued. On the other hand, eating has become the task of adults. He doesn't have to stop what he is playing at all, just open his mouth. Over time, eating has become a busy thing for adults, and the dependence of children has become a matter of course.
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Imitate each other
Children learn socially in imitation and develop all kinds of intelligence, especially when they are 2-5 years old, they will consciously or unconsciously repeat other people's behaviors and gain a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. After the age of 3, children begin to have partners, and their behaviors will imitate each other. If the child's good friends are also keen on eating and playing, then the child is naturally willing to join.
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Children are not hungry after eating too many snacks.
Sometimes, out of love, adults let their children eat too many snacks before meals, resulting in no appetite when eating, so they can only use food as toys. We can advance the time to eat snacks or snacks, and make it clear to our children two hours before meals that we won't eat, so that when we arrive at the meal, we are naturally unprepared for the delicious food!
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Parents' concerns: Children often need to ensure that they will not be left out and abandoned.
Some parents usually spend little time with their children, and even if they eat together, they may rarely talk to their children. Children often hope that their parents can see themselves, accompany themselves, and feel the nourishment of love in playing with their parents. If you don't get attention for a long time, children will use bad behavior to attract their parents' attention. Not eating well has become one of these available behaviors. Unfortunately, if parents don't realize the child's crying, but blindly blame and scold the child, it will make the child's heart more scarce and emotional needs more unsatisfied.
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The atmosphere is so boring that the children have to have fun by themselves.
Eating together as a family is an excellent opportunity to exchange feelings, and talking about interesting things that happen every day can enliven the atmosphere. If parents are still holding mobile phones, watching TV news, or talking about topics that children can't understand, then children who are difficult to integrate will choose their own gameplay.
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Tension and anxiety suppress appetite.
No child is afraid of parents quarreling. When parents quarrel, the child's heart is full of fear and helplessness, and even feels that he has caused the "chaos" at home. In this case, it's probably hard for him to have a happy meal. Eating and playing can also relieve tension.
These reasons may lead to children playing while eating. If we find the reason, it will be easier for us to start improving. So how to reshape children's good behavior? You can refer to the following points:
1. Create a good dining atmosphere.
Soft music, pleasant chat, such a night of laughter, I'm afraid everyone will be intoxicated. Mom and dad should set an example and set a good example for eating. No more cell phones. Cherish the time of family reunion. Don't just talk about companies or adults. You can choose a topic that children can participate in. At this time, you can also praise each other's strengths and progress. Thanks to the family's efforts, then everyone's eating mood will be more and more happy!
2. Clear the rules and stick to them.
Tolerance is not connivance, love is not doting, and the growth of children is irreplaceable. As for the rules of eating, we can hold a family meeting first and make a feasible plan. For example, when eating, sit and eat by yourself, don't play with toys when eating, and get off the table after eating. When someone does not comply, give appropriate punishment. Gentle and firm attitude makes children gradually understand the weight of rules.
3. Let children participate before and after meals.
When cooking, let children participate in the process of choosing vegetables, washing vegetables or cutting vegetables, and let children put vegetables and chopsticks together before meals, so that children will take eating more seriously!
4. Imagine and create with children
The child's imagination is in the stage of exponential explosion, and his brain is wide open. It's not a bad thing to use it while eating. Might as well follow the wind and play with the children-"Look, how much broccoli is like a small tree? Let's plant it in your stomach! " "Is black fungus like a black butterfly?" Can your mouth catch it? In interesting games, it is also a guiding method to happily accept things that children usually don't eat. However, parents need to be able to grasp a degree, because too many games during meals will make children addicted, and we just need to add some fun.
After all, eating is human instinct. Too much emphasis on the problem itself weakens the motivation of children to eat well. Parents may wish to put down their anxiety, clarify the rules, don't care too much about their children's performance at the dinner table, and set an example. I believe that a warm dining atmosphere will make children fall in love with eating.