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Why are you always full of powerlessness?
I would like to give this article to the wise and gentle teacher Mishan, thanking him for his guidance and enlightenment; To my lovely students who are fond of learning, thank you for your company and encouragement. In the future or forever, on the road of spiritual growth, we nourish each other and thrive.

In the film Food, Prayer and Love, Liz is a journalist and novelist in her thirties.

One night late at night, she suddenly found that the people at her bedside were getting more and more boring, her work was getting more and more boring, and her heart was getting weaker and weaker. She felt like a silkworm chrysalis wrapped in her arms, being pushed around by life, having to do something she didn't want to do and meet some people she didn't want to see.

In fact, around us, we will often hear such a voice:

"I have to work"

"I have to make money"

"I have to cook"

"I have to exercise"

"I have to travel."

"I have to take care of the children."

"I have to buy skin care products"

"I have to spend my husband's money"

......

And so on, and so on.

If you pay a little attention, you will find that there are many complaints and grievances that follow the "have to".

People who say these things either don't think there is anything wrong with themselves and always blame the outside world and others; Either realize that you have shortcomings and fall into the quagmire of self-blame and can't get out; Either vent your anger and stay in the status quo.

Carefully savoring, behind these "have to", what is implied is helplessness and helplessness, and in fact it is also the disclosure of powerlessness.

So, here's the question:

Why are some people always full of powerlessness?

The answer is: these people's "victim consciousness" is at work.

The so-called victim consciousness, simply put, refers to a person in a state of painful doubt, negative and powerless consciousness.

These negative words always appear in the hearts of "victims": negation, doubt, darkness, heaviness, pain, fear, need, judgment, comparison, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, and so on.

These "victims" either indulge in the past or fantasize about the future, but do not accept the present.

As everyone knows, the world around us, like a mirror, will make similar responses. This is the law of attraction, that is, similar things will influence and attract each other.

For example, after you think about something unhappy, the more you think about it, the more unhappy you become. This is because, when you persist in an idea, the law of attraction will immediately bring you more similar ideas. Perhaps, in just a few minutes, you will bring out so many unpleasant thoughts of the same kind, so the more you think about it, the worse the situation will get.

For example, when you feel that your job makes you feel uncomfortable, wronged and depressed, what you pass on to the outside world is uncomfortable, wronged and depressed, and the outside world will also reflect such scenes to you, that is to say, what you attract is what you pass on.

Why is this?

Because, "our universe is a huge, subtle and abstruse system. Sometimes things seem to happen very accidentally or unexpectedly, but they are not. These events are also part of the system, and they also follow the energy law of balance and responsibility, as well as the process of self-creation and reflection."

In this system, the core part is you, and for you, the core part is thought. Therefore, what can make the law of attraction work best is your thought.

"Thought has its own magnetism and frequency. When you think, those thoughts will be sent to space, and they will attract all similar things with the same frequency like magnets."

"And all the thoughts that come out will return to the source, and that source is you."

For another example, when your heart is unhappy and there is no love, all you experience is sadness or frustration. You may be curled up in a dark body like a wounded child, full of negative emotions. You give pessimism to the world and the world will return it to you.

If this cycle goes on, more and more negative emotions will sweep through you, making you feel poor and lonely, then you will be sad and helpless, and then you will talk about it everywhere, and then you will grow into the eyebrows of "Sister Xianglin".

That's enough. By now, it's time to change this "victim" look.

Next, please face up to "responsibility" and "choice".

Say hello to "responsibility" first and shake hands.

Responsibility is an attitude that is completely in the inner strength space of the individual.

In other words, a responsible person has his own thoughts and feelings and will not blame anyone for what happened to him.

Say hello to Choice again and shake hands.

Choice is to make choices and decisions for yourself.

In other words, we have the choice of being a responsible person or a victim.

This choice is only in your control, and no one else can replace it or take it away.

Please calm down and think about this sentence: no matter what we do or what happens, it is always our choice that determines what we think, think, do and do.

Maybe you will retort: I didn't choose to be here, I didn't ask to be born, I couldn't choose my parents, I didn't choose to be so fat, so ugly, so lonely, and so on.

I want to interject: Dear, don't get into the dead end, you will die not a cow, but yourself.

Looking back, what is the responsibility?

Responsibility means that no matter what happens, even when we don't fully understand something, we still face all the realities. This is a choice that a responsible person must make, and avoiding it will only make you more powerless.

Most importantly, the way we experience and experience things depends on ourselves. For example, how do we think about things? How do we feel things? How do we act?

It seems very vague, doesn't it?

Give a chestnut-

Please experience the following two groups of words respectively:

( 1)

"I feel angry when you ignore my existence."

"When you ignore my existence, I choose to feel angry."

(2)

When you did that, you hurt me.

"When you do that, I choose to feel hurt."

Is there a difference? Of course there is.

In the first sentence of each group, you are a victim of others; In the second sentence of each group, you realize that you have made a creative choice.

When you know that you are choosing, you will feel powerful, you know that you can do something about it, and you can choose a different emotional response.

You can choose to breathe and relax, or you can choose to introspect: What is inside me that makes me feel angry or hurt? Or you can have other behavior choices.

And so on, do you choose the first sentence or the second sentence? Choose the victim or the responsible creator? This is a very interesting thinking.

When you turn "victim consciousness" into "responsible position", you will feel:

"I always have a choice."

"No matter what I see, think and feel, I choose to see, think and feel."

"When I feel bad, I know what I can do about it."

"Self-reproach will make me abandon my strength."

"There is no right or wrong, only experience and experience."

"I am the creator of my own reality."

You may think that this is just a change of expression, and the conflicts and contradictions in reality are still there.

Please, if you really want to have strength, please show your sincerity? Leave yourself alone and do some exercises:

Think of something you don't like, but have to do ... feel so powerless.

Now say it again, replace "I have to" with "I choose", and feel the difference.

Next, I want to ask you:

What will happen if you don't do it (what you "have to" do ...)?

Do you want this?

So, what did you do? (You may say "I did it") ... Look, you chose this! You are always choosing, no matter what you do, you choose to do it!

When you realize that reality is the result of your own choice, you will understand that your inner world created your outer world, and you are the 100% creator of your reality, so you will become peaceful and accepting.

If you are still indifferent, then I choose to throw you the story of "God asks you to buy lottery tickets".

Once upon a time, there was a man who often prayed to God and asked him to win the grand prize as soon as possible. After countless prayers, God was almost devastated by him. Finally, one day, God couldn't help but say, Son, if you really want me to help you win the grand prize, I beg you to buy a lottery ticket first.

In other words, from now on, let's put it into action.

Or open yourself, or feel inside, or accept the present, or learn to choose, or take responsibility.

When you refuse to be a victim and choose to be a responsible creator, you have already started your counterattack journey. Congratulations.

When your heart is peaceful and accepting, it means that you have chosen "peace" and "acceptance", which means that you have returned to the inner space full of trust and joy, which is a place where you can feel that "everything is beautiful".

This is our "inner parents", which is the inner space of love and confidence centered on the mind. What it presents is: the present, wisdom, recognition, brightness, happiness, satisfaction, I can, unconditionally, creator, and so on, all warm and positive resources.

Once you keep in touch with these internal resources, you will feel strong and safe, and you can get guidance from them.

A girlfriend shared with me that:

"Since I understood this, I have no complaints and unhappiness, especially in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. More than ten years of grievances and unhappiness have vanished."

"I am willing to stand in her position and solve the problem. All these years of resentment are gone. I am very happy and willing to take the initiative to call her and talk to her."

"I found this change in myself, and my husband also found it. We are all very happy."

"I know, this is the result that I cleaned up my mood and changed my perspective. From powerlessness to powerfulness, my inner resources were awakened silently."

Yes, in fact, resources and strength are already in your body, and it is always waiting for your induction and call.

Let's turn our attention to Liz again.

The next morning, when she came to the office, she said to her girlfriend, Do you know? I wake up every morning without any enthusiasm, spark or belief. I think it's terrible. I'm scared. It's worse than death. Am I going to be such a person?

Girlfriend said: this is a common thing. People often meet, fall in love and get married, and suddenly one day they think that this is not what TAs want, so they are depressed and depressed because they can't figure out the situation.

Liz said: I'm not trying to figure out the situation. I want to change. I want to go to a place where I can be myself, say something I want to say and do something I want to do. Before that, I never had time to sort myself out.

So, she took a vacation, suspended her work, left him and that home, and went to places where she could throb again. In her opinion, the best way to get away from "having to", heal her soul and find herself is to go out, go and surf.

She went to Italy, India and Bali.

In Italy, she ate all kinds of delicious food and made new friends, but she was still preoccupied.

In India, she is silent, meditating and meditating, but she can never keep calm.

Richard told her:

"Please decorate your mind. You must learn to choose your ideas, just like choosing your clothes every day, and this ability can be cultivated."

"You come here eager to control your life, so start from your heart. That's what you should try to control. If you can't control your thoughts, you will be in trouble forever."

She said: I still miss him very much.

Richard said:

"Then think of him, give him guidance and care every time you think of him, and then let go."

"If you can clear out the space of failed marriage in your heart, you will have the spirituality to open a door. Do you know what the universe will do? God will flood in and fill you with more love you dream of. "

She asked: When will the sadness end?

Richard said: You have to practice, meditate and perform selfless service, and most importantly, recite the Guru Brahma every morning.

She said: I just can't recite the Guru Sanskrit. I don't feel dedicated.

Richard said: dedication is love. Choosing someone or something as the object of dedication is not necessarily a spiritual teacher. For her, anyone can, but the winner is you.

She said: I am waiting for his forgiveness, waiting for him to liberate me.

Richard said: When he forgives you, you are simply wasting your time. You should forgive yourself.

She said: It's not that easy.

So, she came to Bali again and saw the wise man Lai Ye again.

Last time I saw Lai Ye, Lai Ye gave her a picture and told her: Keep your feet on the ground, as if you have four legs, so that you can stand in this world. Also, don't look at the world through your head, look through your heart, so that you can know God.

This time, Lai Ye told her: In addition to meditation and meditation, smile, smile on your face, smile on your heart, and even make your liver smile.

Finally, after twists and turns, in the constant self-exploration, Liz no longer denied, doubted and resisted, but chose acceptance, happiness and trust, thus gaining a brand-new life and love.

Perhaps, not every "powerless" can go out as freely as Liz, be enlightened by the wise, and find the way forward.

It doesn't matter, you can change your "powerlessness" according to your own pace of life, breathe feelings, be aware of yourself, and deal with emotions, so that love and light can slowly emerge from your heart. When your heart is full of love and light, you will be surrounded by love and light, which is the embodiment of strength.

I also want to tell you that your strength is not elsewhere, but in your body. It is the "inner space of love and confidence centered on the mind", and it is your "inner parent". When you encounter setbacks and hardships, you should keep in touch with it, and it will unconditionally give you peace and happiness, enthusiasm and confidence.

In short, it is up to you to decide and choose whether to remain "powerless" or to become "powerful".

I suddenly feel that people are either dying in powerlessness or reborn in powerlessness, haha.

One last word: Nothing can stop your yearning for strength.

Hey hey, * * * mian, present.