Men vs. Women

1. Wrapping arms with gold

"Why boxing? "Wan-arm double gold ring"

"Wan-arm double gold ring" refers to the armband, also known as arm-wrapped gold, which is a kind of decoration wrapped around the arm of ancient Chinese women. It is coiled into a spiral ring with gold and silver strips, and the number of turns varies, usually three to eight, but also as many as twelve or thirteen. The secret of arm-wrapped gold is that no matter what angle you look at it, you can see several rings, which are not related to each other, just like wearing several bracelets. Although Su Dongpo's poem "Cold Ware" is about a kind of food called prickly heat, in the poem, "Sleeping in the spring at night is thicker than wine, and pressing a beautiful woman to wrap her arms around gold. The sentence "

" is even more reminiscent of a woman wearing arm-wrapped gold, who brought out a little drunk charm in a deep sleep, which also shows the effect of arm-band on the beauty of ancient women.

Zhu Shuzhen, a poetess in the Southern Song Dynasty, wrote in her book "Farewell":

There is always no intention to mix Zhu and powder, and the thin feeling is cold and the rest is wrapped in arm gold.

don't be haggard and hurt. I don't think my feelings are as deep as this.

In the Southern Song Dynasty, when Neo-Confucianism was increasingly confined, Zhu Shuzhen was a woman who dared to break through the barriers and enthusiastically pursued personal happiness. This poem expressed her longing for parting with her lover, which made her thin and haggard day by day, so that her arms were loose. It's a pity that she didn't see the person she missed after all, because the person she loved finally chose to escape, so Zhu Shuzhen had to write "To be sealed and sent to the unlucky person in the south building." He died of depression.

2. Ring

"What's the courtesy? About a pair of silver "

The custom of betraying your love with a ring has a long history in China. In the Southern Dynasties, Liu Jingshu recorded that Qin Shu, a native of Peijun, married a woman in the tomb. When leaving," The woman cried, "When I saw you, I will give you a pair of rings, tie my belt, and send you out." When I saw the ring, I could meet you safely. It is noted in the explanation of "All Tang Poems. Poems with Li Zhangwu" that in the Tang Dynasty, scholar Li Zhangwu fell in love with Wang's son-in-law in Huazhou. When leaving, Wang's son-in-law gave Li Zhangwu a white jade ring and gave the poem:

"Twist the ring, and the lovesickness will remember each other when you see the ring. May you play forever, and there is no end to the cycle. "

Later, when Li Zhangwu went to Huazhou again, Wang's son-in-law had already died of anxiety, and the ring was just empty. Song Liyun's Taiping Guangji said that the souls of Li Zhangwu and Wang's son-in-law would be in Wang's house later, which should be people's good wishes for the ending of this love.

in the late Tang dynasty, rings were gradually given from men and women to women only, which is similar to the way that Chinese and western rings are given today. Fan Dai wrote a story about Wei Gao, a scholar, who went from acquaintance to love with Yu Xiao, a girl, during his childhood tour in Jiangxia. Wei Gao gave Yu Xiao a jade ring before returning home, vowing to marry Yu Xiao in five years or seven years. However, seven years have passed, but Wei Gao, who is unlucky, never comes again. Yu Xiao, who is infatuated with love, cries in despair: "Wei Jialang Jun, after seven years, he won't come!" I died of hunger strike. People pitied Yu Xiao's tragedy, so they put the ring Wei Gao gave her on her middle finger and buried her. Many years later, Wei Gao's official career was prosperous, and he was able to give up our time, only to learn about Yu Xiao's death. He regretted it, so he extensively repaired the scriptures to repent of his past ungrateful. Later, someone gave Wei Gao a singer, whose name and appearance were exactly the same as those of Yu Xiao, and there was a ring-shaped meat ring looming on the middle finger. Wei Gao knew that Yu Xiao was the afterlife and returned to his side, and the two finally realized the combination of the two generations. Is it yes or no? For the sake of the happiness of lovers in the world, we have to believe it in vain.

In this story, there is also a story about Wei Gao's meeting with Yu Xiao's soul with the skill of evoking the soul of a young man, which makes modern people realize the blame of an ancient infatuated woman for breaking a promise to a thin lover. After the meeting, Yu Xiao said to Wei Gao when he was leaving: "Husband is fickle, which makes people live and die!" Life and death are separated, only because of her husband's fickle commitment to feelings! And the complaint is actually said with a smile, but such a smile is so painful. Thousands of years later, this passage still makes us feel deeply touched, and the fate of ancient women living by human beings is doomed to be the only way for jade flute. When acacia was lost in vain, she was still so attached to it that she missed it through autumn water. A ring missed her this life, and she wore it to the afterlife without regret.

Since rings are betrothed, ancient unsigned women didn't wear rings. Ding six niang's Ten Poems in Sui Dynasty wrote, "If you want to be a slim hand, take the ring from Lang Suo." Perhaps it can explain the unspeakable feelings of ancient and even modern women about the ring. This token is the smallest, but it is the heaviest in women's hearts. Full of hope, reach out and let the person you love put it on for yourself, and then, maybe wear it happily for a lifetime, or maybe one day cry over it until your heart breaks.

3. Earrings

"Why is it so trivial? "Two pearls in the ear"

The earliest record of Chinese women adorning themselves with earrings can be found in Shan Hai Jing, "A young mountain is suitable for a woman, with a small waist and white teeth, and her ears are pierced with cymbals". In The History of the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Ke said, "Piercing the pearls through the ears is good for covering the ancient." We can see the fashion of piercing ears since the three generations. Earrings are divided into ear ding, ear ear, earrings, earrings and other styles. In the early Qing Dynasty, Li Daiweng called the small and concise earrings in the earrings "cloves" and the complicated and gorgeous earrings "winding ropes" in his "Casual Notes. Life". He said that a woman's "one hairpin and one ear can accompany her for a lifetime", which shows that earrings have a very important position in the ancient aesthetic concept.

In the Tang Dynasty, Zhang Ji's "Ode to Women", "I will return my tears to the pearl, and I hate not meeting you before I get married." The "pearl" in the movie refers to earrings. Is it also because this poem makes people feel sad to take earrings as a token? At the end of the Yuan Dynasty, Zhang Huilian's Poem on Zhuzhi, which mourned her late husband, must have been written by people who saw things and thought about them:

When I remembered buying a concubine with a pearl, I combed my hair and made a thrush.

where is my concubine now? I'm afraid to see butterflies flying among the flowers.

4. sachet

"Why knock?

The history of sachet is long.

In ancient times, it was also called sachet, fragrant tassel, sachet, fragrant ball, Pei Wei, purse, etc. The history of ancient people wearing sachet can be traced back to the pre-Qin period. According to "Book of Rites. Internal Rules": "Children are parents, and they are used around; ..... to suit my parents and aunts. " That is to say, when young people go to see their parents and elders, they should wear "tassels", that is, woven sachets, to show their respect. Because the sachet is a personal thing, lovers often give it to each other as a gift to express their love.

Since the Anshi Rebellion, Emperor Xuanzong of Tang Dynasty took Yang Guifei and his party to hunt in the west in a panic, but the Sixth Army of Majipo did not send troops. Emperor Xuanzong sacrificed Yang Guifei's life and left her alone to bear the responsibility for the national war. After Yang Guifei was strangled, her body was hastily buried on the spot. After the recovery of Xijing, Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty sent someone to quietly move and bury her body. The eunuch found that the body of the imperial concubine was only a sky-high bone, and only the sachet worn on her chest when she died was as good as before. He took it down and called me back. Emperor Xuanzong, who is old, saw the sachet and thought about people. In those days, the joy of singing and dancing in Lishan was everywhere, and the deep love of Iraqis only left this sachet in front of him! He put the sachet in his sleeve and burst into tears. Eighty years later, the poet Zhang Hu lamented this matter and wrote a poem "Too True Fragrant Sacks":

The small flower sacs of gold concubines consume the old fragrance on the chest.

who is reunited for the king, a lifelong regret is a matter of heart.

No one can untie this small sachet for Xuanzong. It is unclear whether it is love or hate. Who can untie it except Yuhuan?

The Biography of Jia Wu in the Book of Jin records the story that Jia Chong's youngest daughter Jia Wu fell in love with Han Shou, the aide of her father Jia Chong. During the tryst, Jia Wu gave each other spices from the western regions. Unexpectedly, the fragrance of Han Shou was noticed by Jia Chong in the court. After he guessed the reason, he did not blame his daughter, but let her marry Han Shou, which made a story that will last forever. This fragrance of the western regions should be presented by Jia Wu in a sachet made by himself, so as not to disgrace the precious gift and the affection of her daughter's family. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Sister Lin also made a sachet for Brother Bao, and every stitch and thread condensed her feelings. Once I wrote that Daiyu misunderstood that Baoyu had given the sachet she had given him to someone, and she cut the other one she was making in anger, but Baoyu was wearing it next to her body. How could she give it away? When the youth is gone and the red rain is gone, I see that the sachet still sees the Iraqis, but I am afraid that Baoyu can't bear to see it any more.

"If you make mud, it will smell like earth, but for whom? Scattered into mud and ground into dust, only the fragrance remains the same. "

5. Chai

"How to comfort parting? Tortoise-shell hairpin behind the ear "

The hairpin is a flower or other styling hair pin made of pearl jade and gold and silver, which is connected with two or more long pins for fixing the bun, and is inserted in the temples when in use. "Continued Han Shu" says: Noble people help silkworms and wear hawksbill hairpin. According to "Huayang Guozhi", there is a big turtle in Fuling Mountain, whose armor can be predicted, and its edge can be used as a hairpin, the world's name is Lingchai. It can be seen that the ancients especially valued the hairpin made of tortoiseshell. Tang Sengji, a poet of the Five Dynasties, once found an ancient hairpin in a well, and wrote a poem with emotion:

In the past, I advocated my family's daughter, picking flowers and exposing them by the well, and I was still self-pitying when I picked them.

I didn't stop peeking, but it was never a year before Baochai fell here.

The jade feather has gone to mud, and the gold is as fresh as fresh. Where is this person now? This thing has spread in the air today.

A hairpin is not only an ornament, but also a token of affection. There is a custom of farewell between lovers or couples in ancient times: women divide the hairpin on their heads into two parts, half of which are given to each other, and the other half are kept for themselves until they meet again another day. In Xin Qiji's ci "Late Spring in Zhu Yingtai", "Baochai parted, the peach leaves crossed, and the smoke willow was dark in the south", that is, to express this kind of separation. In Nalan Xingde's ci, "Baochai was distracted by each other, so why did she wet her lapel" was also full of pain of separation from her love.

Zhu Dunru's "Linjiang Fairy" "has been broken since the Phoenix broke, breaking the mirror and flying apart. There is little news in the ends of the earth, and I dream of returning to the north of the sea and Liaoning, and my soul is broken in the jade Kansai. How can people not return when the moon reunites and the stars reunite? I still listen to cuckoo crow this spring. See the geese every year, 14 times. " Describe the pain of the separation of the poet and his lover after the capture of Bianjing by the nomads from Beijing. Fourteen years of rise and fall are full of eyes, and there is no place to recall the old bright moon. This word is particularly painful because of the background of the country's ruin and the death of the family. In the great turmoil in where will you go, it is not just a period of worry about being immersed in love.

Among the poems about parting women's love in past dynasties, Bai Juyi's Song of Eternal Sorrow-but when she turned her face and looked down toward the earth, and tried to see the capital, there were only fog and dust-is the most sad one. So she took out, with emotion, the pledges he had given, and, through his envoy, sent him back a shell box and gold hairpin. But kept one branch of the hairpin and one side of the box, breaking the gold of the hairpin, breaking the shell of the box. "Our souls belong together," she said, "like this gold and this shell", somewhere, sometime, on earth or in heaven, we shall surely. And she sent him, by his messenger, a sentence reminding him, of vows which had been known only to their two hearts. On the seventh day of the Seventh-month, in the Palace of Long Life, we told each other secretly in the quiet midnight world. That we wished to fly in heaven, two birds with the wings of one, and to grow together on the earth, two branches of one tree.. Earth endures, heaven endures; some time both shall end, while this unending sorrow goes on and on for ever.

6. Bracelet

"Why is it broad?

Bracelet with a double jump around the wrist has many titles in ancient times, and

"jump" is one of them. There is a story in the Chronicle of Tang Poetry written by Song Jiyou, and Tang Wenzong one day asked his ministers: "There is a sentence of" light shirt lining jumping "in ancient poetry. Do any of you know what" jump "is?" No one can answer. Literati Sect told them: "Breaking away is the wrist of today." In ancient literary works, it is common for women to give bracelets to their lovers. In Zhen Hao, Liang Tao Hongjing described the escape of the fairy sepals, green flowers, Zeng Zeng sheep rights, gold and jade. In Pu Songling's Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio. Bai Yuyu, it is written that Wu Shengou, a scholar, went to a fairyland to have a good time with a fairy in purple clothes. When leaving, the fairy gave Wu Sheng her gold wrist pin as a souvenir.

Now, the function of bracelet as a token is getting weaker and weaker, but it is still the most beautiful scenery on girls' wrists. Classicism and modernity are inadvertently and secretly linked. Girls wearing bracelets, do you know that jade bracelets on ancient women's wrists often bear the great trust of vows?

7. Yu Pei

"How can I be grateful?

Jade adorned with beautiful jade has a special position in the history of China's civilization. "Five Classics Tongyi" says that jade is "warm and moist, < P > similar to wisdom; Sharp without harm, like benevolence; Restrain without scratching, which is similar to righteousness; Defects in the inside must be seen outside, and some are like letters; It' s like falling, and it' s like a ceremony. " Confucius said, "The beauty of jade is like the virtue of a gentleman." He believes that jade has the virtues of benevolence, wisdom, righteousness, courtesy, joy, loyalty, faith, heaven, earth, morality and Taoism. In the Book of Songs, there is a saying, "Speak of a gentleman, and be warm as jade". The ancients endowed Meiyu with so many human qualities that people still refer to a modest gentleman as "gentle as jade".

"Luo Ying" is a colorful ribbon tied around the waist when an ancient woman got married to show that someone belongs to her, so there is a saying in the Book of Songs that "it's 9 meters to tie the knot." It describes that when a daughter gets married, her mother is reluctant to tie a knot with her, which is called "knot", which later became synonymous with marriage in ancient times. In "Notes on Ancient Poems" by Wen Ren Xian in Qing Dynasty, "beautiful jade adorns the tassel" is interpreted as "tying the tassel with jade to show gratitude." In ancient times, the woman's jade for the right person was decorated with a tassel, and her heart was clear.

In the 29th story of A Dream of Red Mansions, Baoyu and Daiyu were angry, and the psychic Baoyu was dragged down, dropped and smashed, which made Daiyu cry. Aroma advised Baoyu, "Don't look at anything else. Look at the tassels on this jade, and don't give Miss Tonglin a quarrel." A word made Daiyu sad again. She grabbed the jade without illness and cut the ears she had knotted for Baoyu into several pieces with scissors. There is a saying in the book, "It's not that enemies don't get together ... living in two places, feeling with one heart." Why do a pair of spoony people torture each other like this? In fact, Sister Lin's affection is all on this jade plate. How could Brother Bao not know?

8. concentric knot

"how to knot the center? "Su Lu Lian Shuang Zhen"

"Jie" is mentioned several times in Fanqin's poems.

"Jie" is a Chinese character endowed with too many beautiful colors, which has always permeated people's lives and emotions from ancient times to today. The knot of empathy has always been a token of the ancients' expression of emotion, as the saying goes, "It's hard to understand with the love of Sauvignon Blanc." There is a story in The Source of Poetry that Wen Zhou fell in love with his neighbor's wife, Jiang. Wen Zhou gave Jiang a hundred crystal needles as a keepsake, and Jiang opened the box, took out the knot, put on double needles, and knitted concentric knots in return. Weaving the silk ribbon into a serial palindrome-style concentric knot to give it to the other party, which also contains endless thoughts and thousands of feelings. Compared with other tokens, the concentric knot has an implicit depth, because it incorporates the ingenious thoughts of lovers.

Affectionate ancients left many poems related to knots: Su Xiaoxiao, a famous prostitute in Qiantang in the Six Dynasties, wrote "Song of Su Xiaoxiao": "My concubine rides an oil-walled car, and Lang rides a green horse. Where can we get together?" Under the pine and cypress in Xiling. " "knot with one heart" in the book; Meng Jiao, a famous poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote "Making Love": "The heart is restored, and the love affair is deep. Once I wanted to leave, I made a thousand knots. I will keep my ambition alone, and I will return to my will early. You don't know how to tie your clothes until you know it. Sitting on the knot can also be done, and it will last for a hundred years. " The "heart-knot" in the movie shows the determination to love and never change your mind. Tang Changsun Zuo Zhuan's wife's poem "Answering Outside" wrote that she made a knot for her husband who was guarding the border, and poured out the pain of lovesickness and separation with the knot:

Last year, the recruiter guarded the border water, and at night he got a lot of books. With a knife, the candle cuts the red yee, and the knot answers a thousand miles with one heart.

you should never send a side book, but I should be United. If you are United, you can't get rid of your heart. If you look at the word frequency, you will be sad.

form a dress and a tear seal, and the book is only in the bosom sleeve. Nothing is as difficult as a book, but it is hard to learn for a long time.

What makes people feel especially is the Acacia Order written by Lin Bu in the Northern Song Dynasty:

Wu Shanqing, Yue Shanqing, and the green hills on both sides of the strait meet each other, fighting for patience and leaving love?

Your tears are full, but my concubine's tears are full, and the knot of sympathy with the ribbon has not yet been formed, and the tide at the head of the river has subsided.

Lin Bu died.