In fact, this is because the child's self-control is not strong enough, so everything encounters nails and difficult things, and chooses to end the challenge to this matter by escaping.
In other words, if parents do not correct their children's three-minute fever in time, it is likely to have a far-reaching negative impact on their children, making them lose at the starting line and even lose in the future. Then, how to correct children's poor self-control, we should know why children have poor self-control.
Reason one: it's easy to get distracted.
At the stage of brain development, children are sometimes distracted by all kinds of whimsy. At this stage, parental guidance is very important, because if children are not urged and guided by their parents, they will easily fall into the imagination of the wild.
However, such a negative effect is that children are prone to trance and distraction in the future, and they can't concentrate on things, let alone devote themselves to one thing for a long time.
Reason two: unruly.
Some children know that their parents have set rules, but they still go their own way and don't listen to their parents. This is often because their inner desires are too strong, that is to say, they can't obey their parents' arrangements step by step. Then, this potential rebellious phenomenon will lead to their superficial attitude of just trying everything.
How to improve children's self-control has obviously become a cliche of many parents in parenting forums. In this regard, a senior parenting expert said on the Internet: If you want children to improve their self-control, you might as well try the "marshmallow experiment" to cultivate self-disciplined babies.
"Cotton candy experiment" is to let children delay satisfying their own desires. For example, put a cotton candy in front of children. According to children's usual ideas, they usually think that their parents will feed cotton candy to themselves immediately, and there will be no other thoughts at all.
However, parents put marshmallows in their hands and don't give them to their children. Although children will feel angry at first, they will learn to be patient with more times. Knowing that impatience will not only make them unable to eat marshmallows, but will make parents reluctant to give them marshmallows.
In fact, parents already know what the "marshmallow experiment" is, but how to put the "marshmallow experiment" into parenting requires parents' "bitter conscience". Here are three traditional ways to help children improve their self-control.
First: Parents should set an example.
Children will learn a lot from adults, including their desire and attitude towards one thing.
If parents can lead by example and let their children know that they clearly want something, but they can't ignore the rules to ask for it because they need it, then children can gradually understand why parents are patient and learn such beautiful qualities.
Second: learn to delay satisfaction.
Delayed gratification refers to the above-mentioned "marshmallow experiment". Parents should not immediately fulfill their children's wishes every time they give them something, but let their children know that patience is the only way to get it, and then delay their satisfaction in this way.
After a long period of exercise, children can greatly reduce their desires and effectively improve their self-control. At the same time, they can face challenges more calmly, and they will not choose to escape because they are afraid of failure and challenges as before.
Third, rules should be established.
Sometimes children's three-minute fever is entirely due to the parents' failure to implement the rules, so children always feel that everything can be wrong, and parents will not blame themselves anyway. However, such a sloppy psychology will indirectly lead to children's lack of perseverance in things, and even feel that even if there are rules, they will not be criticized and reprimanded accordingly.
This kind of mentality will lead to the child's lack of self-control, and at the same time, it will also make the child treat things too hot for three minutes. After all, the sense of responsibility is relatively weak, and there will be no guilt if he learns or not.
However, if parents set rules in advance and let their children grow and learn under their own rules for a long time, then the children will gradually establish their sense of responsibility and be more self-controlled in the face of temptation.
Children's self-discipline can have a very beneficial impact on his future, because for children, a self-discipline mentality can make him take the initiative to learn, and at the same time, he will not be fickle because of the temptation of the outside world. Therefore, parents can help their children gain "self-control" through "marshmallow experiment".