Changes of women before and after marriage: cats and tigers

At the bottom of my article, there is a comment that makes me particularly emotional. A male netizen commented: before marriage, my wife was a cat, clingy and gentle; However, after she got married, she became a tiger, and she began to make trouble whenever she disagreed. In serious cases, his wife even attacked him.

The netizen finally said: the change of a woman before and after marriage is like a weak cat, becoming a strong tiger.

What is a cat's personality? I also analyzed the personality characteristics of Catwoman in my last article.

Cat's personality is clingy, independent, gentle, delicate and emotional; Like a girl in love. It is particularly clingy when it is clingy, and it makes boys feel unloved when they are independent. But many times, boys are immersed in the gentleness of Catwoman.

And what are the characteristics of tigers? Is fierce, fierce; Used on girls, grumpy, emotionally unstable, very strong.

A woman, gentle and considerate before marriage, becomes irritable and anxious after marriage; What is the reason for such a great personality contrast and contrast before and after marriage?

In fact, it is the change of husband's attitude towards her that leads to the change of girl's role from cat to tiger.

The change of roles means that women have to protect themselves, and they have to force themselves to be stronger against their husbands' attitudes.

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The man's attitude determines the direction of marriage.

Case 1:

The king and his wife have been married for five years, and there are more and more contradictions between them.

Before getting married, Xiao Wang was hardworking and considerate, gentle and sensible. He is very kind to his lover and is a model boyfriend in the eyes of people around him.

But after marriage, Xiao Wang changed and his attitude became worse and worse. His wife has been with him for five years, from pregnancy to childbirth to full-time wife, and she has changed a little, becoming tired and full of pressure.

However, Xiao Wang does not agree with this. He got off work very late and didn't want to cook and share the housework, leaving it all to his wife.

Under the long-term contradiction and repression, Xiao Wang's wife has become more and more irritable, often hysterical and unable to control her emotions.

Case study:

Why did Xiao Wang's wife's attitude change so much before and after marriage?

Why did Xiao Wang's attitude change so much before and after his marriage?

In essence, his wife's grumpy mood stems from Xiao Wang's lack of sense of responsibility and reduced sense of family participation.

If Xiao Wang had always been considerate and gentle to his wife and shared the responsibility of housework and child care, his wife's personality would not have changed so much.

She wants to be both a mother and a nanny, losing the diversity and beauty that a woman should have. How can her mood not change dramatically?

Whether a woman is a cat or a tiger depends on her husband's attitude after giving birth to a child.

Do you want your wife to be gentle and considerate all the time?

Well, first of all, you should do this. You are gentle and considerate enough to make your wife feel your care and love. In this family environment where love spreads, the wife will naturally become gentle and feminine.

If after marriage, you think your wife's personality is more like a tiger, you might as well reflect on it first. Is it your own reason?

Women's pressure comes from many aspects: the pressure to have children, the pressure to change their image too much, the pressure from outside, the pressure to close the environment and so on.

Only when a husband thinks more about his wife's pressure, gives help and comfort, and pays a sense of responsibility and efforts can he make his wife what you want.

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Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

This book was written by John Reger. He described that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, which is essentially the difference in thinking between men and women.

For example, he also said:

Men strive for freedom after marriage, and women strive for sadness; Men want more space, while women just want more understanding and comfort.

Men and women have different attitudes when solving contradictions.

When there is a contradiction, men are always reasonable, but they are unwilling to admit defeat and refuse to give in; Women are always emotional, hoping that their husbands can tolerate themselves and let themselves go.

Under this kind of opposition, the contradiction between husband and wife will only get deeper and deeper. If both sides are unwilling to make concessions, then the contradiction cannot be solved; Even if it is solved this time, there will be more contradictions waiting next time.

Another example: when a woman loses her temper, she just wants her husband to hug her and say, wife, you have worked hard. Or, the husband cut a plate of fruit, broke it in front of himself and took the initiative to admit his mistake. But some men won't, they will think that this is his wife's unreasonable trouble; An old man, still crying and not sensible.

You see, is this the reason why most couples quarrel?

One just wants tolerance and comfort, while the other thinks you are unreasonable.

Men determine the height and width of this family, and women determine the temperature and quality of this family.

What kind of pattern do you want your wife to be? Similarly, what a woman wants her husband to be, she must show her temperature and delicacy.

Only when two people work together can marriage become more and more successful.

Don't stick to the fact that women change like cats and tigers before and after marriage, but focus on: why did she change? Have you done well enough?