1. Delicious coffee

A daughter complained to her father how painful and helpless life was. She wanted to go on happily, but she had lost her direction. Without saying a word, the father took his daughter's hand and walked to the kitchen. He boiled three pots of water. After the water boiled, he put radishes in the first pot, eggs in the second pot, and coffee in the third pot. After a while, my father picked up the radishes and eggs from the pot and put them into a bowl, and poured the coffee into the cup. The father asked his daughter to touch the radish that had been cooked in boiling water until it was soft. He asked his daughter to crack the thin eggshell and observe it carefully. Finally, he asked his daughter to taste the coffee. The daughter drank the coffee and smelled the strong aroma. Strong fragrance. She asked, Dad, what does this mean? The father explained that these three things faced the same adversity, that is, boiling water, but they reacted differently. The originally rough and solid radish became soft in boiling water; the egg was originally very fragile, but its thin shell became hard after being boiled in boiling water; and the powdery coffee actually changed the water in the boiling hot water. . "What about you? My daughter!" the father said lovingly: "When adversity comes, how do you react? You seem to be a strong carrot, but when pain and adversity come, you become weak and lose strength. Or you were originally An egg has a soft and changeable heart, but after experiencing death, separation, and difficulties, it becomes stubborn and stubborn. Or you are like coffee, turning the painful boiling water into delicious coffee, getting better and better. The more delicious it is, my daughter! Do you want adversity to destroy you, or do you want to change it and make everything around you feel better?"

2. How many "Jinling Twelve Hairpins" are there?< /p>

Who are the "Twelve Hairpins of Jinling" in "A Dream of Red Mansions"? It was introduced in the fifth chapter of "Dream of Red Mansions" in "The Twelve Hairpins in the Fantasy Land" when the Jing Huan Fairy gave Jia Baoyu a tour guide in the illusion of Taixu. The "Twelve Hairpins in Jinling" written in it is the "main volume", There are a total of 36 people in the third class of "Fuxu" and "Fufu". However, there is a comment in Gengchen's version that says: "Only when we return to the final chapter of the Jing Huan Qing List (actually this chapter has not been completed) can we know the main, secondary, secondary, and third and fourth secondary taboos." It can be seen that Xueqin's "Jinling Ten" "Er Chai" should be 60 people in the fifth class. However, "A Dream of Red Mansions" does not clearly indicate who is among the "Twelve Beauties of Jinling", but only hints to people through "judgements". The "judgment" implies that there are only 12 people in the "main volume of the Twelve Beauties of Jinling", 1 person in the "auxiliary volume", and 2 people in the "additional volume". One of the "Judgments" in the "Another Supplementary Book" says: "The bright moon is rare, and the colorful clouds are easy to disperse. The heart is higher than the sky, and the body is shameless. A romantic and clever person will attract people's resentment, and his longevity will be due to slander. A sentimental young man will miss you in vain." "It's rare to see a bright moon": The bright moon when the sky is clear after the rain is called "Ji Yue". The word "clear" means that Qingwen has a noble character but encounters difficulties. "The colorful clouds are easy to disperse" implicitly refers to Qingwen's devastation and death. "Caiyun" contains the word "wen". "Being shameless" means that Qingwen is a maid and her status is very low. "Sentimental young master" refers to Jia Baoyu. Judging from this "judgment", Qingwen belongs to the "Youfu register". The second part of the "Judgment" in "Another Supplementary Book" is: "I am gentle and gentle in vain, the sky clouds are like laurels and orchids. It is enviable that actors and actresses are blessed, but who knows that the young master will not be destined." It is written by Xiren. Xiren got married before Baoyu became a monk, so there are two sentences at the end. The continuation states that she only "had no choice" to marry Jiang Yuhan after Jia Baoyu became a monk. Judging from the "judgment", Xiren also belongs to the "Youfu register". There is only one poem in the "Supplementary Book" and "Judgment": "A fragrant stem with a lotus root is hurt by reality in life. Since the two places grew lonely trees, the fragrant soul returned to its hometown." It refers to Xiangling. "Roots and lotus" means that the water chestnut root is next to the lotus root, implying that Xiangling is the original Yinglian. "Two places grow lonely trees": Split characters, two characters for "tu" (land), plus one character for "wood", which is the character for "gui", which means Xia Jingui. The last two sentences indicate that Xiangling's ending should be that she was tortured to death by Xia Jingui. There are eleven poems in the "Main Book" and "Judgment", implicitly referring to 12 women. This is what we usually call the "Twelve Hairpins of Jinling". "It's a pity that the virtue of stopping time is pity for praising talents. The jade belt hangs in the forest, and the golden hairpin is buried in the snow." "It's a pity that the virtue of stopping time" and "the golden hairpin is buried in the snow" refer to Xue Baochai, and "gold hairpin" is a metaphor for "Baochai" ","Snow", homophonic to "Xue", the meaning of the sentence implies the desolation and misery of its ending. "Can pity Yong Xucai" and "jade belt hangs in the forest" refer to Lin Daiyu, "jade belt hangs in the forest", the first three characters are read backwards and the three characters "Lin Daiyu" are read backwards, and also imply Jia Baoyu's concern for Lin Daiyu. "Twenty years of distinguishing between right and wrong, the pomegranate blossoms are blooming to illuminate the palace. The three springs compete for the early spring scene, and the tigers and tigers meet each other and return home from the big dream." "Three springs" implicitly refers to welcoming the spring, exploring the spring, and cherishing the spring, and "early spring" refers to the first spring. "The son is a wolf in Zhongshan, and he becomes even more aggressive when he succeeds. The golden boudoir is like a willow tree, and it takes a year to go to Huangliang." "Zi" and "Xi" are combined to form the word "Sun", which refers to Sun Shaozu, the husband of Yingchun. "Judgment" means that Yingchun was persecuted to death by Sun Shaozu who was like a "Zhongshan wolf". "Talent comes from being shrewd and ambitious. Born in the last days, luck has declined. I shed tears on the Qingming River and look at the east wind, a thousand miles away in a dream." The first two sentences describe Tanchun, although he is talented and ambitious, but his luck is not good. The last two sentences are about Tan Chun marrying in Haiyu far away, never to return. "The scenery of Spring in the Three Kingdoms did not last long, and the pure clothes suddenly changed from the makeup of the past. The poor embroidered house girl, lying alone next to the ancient Buddha with green lanterns." The "Judgment" implies that the ending of Xichun is to become a nun, accompanied by green lanterns, wearing silk clothes Clothes last a lifetime. "What's the point of wealth and wealth? Parents are against each other in their infancy. I open my eyes to the slanting light, and the water of the Xiangjiang River passes by, and Chu Yun flies away." The first two sentences say that both Shi Xiangyun's parents died when she was young, and the wealth of the family cannot give her warmth. The last two sentences say that the good times after Shi Xiangyun's marriage did not last long, and the couple separated in a blink of an eye.

"The water of the Xiangjiang River passes and Chu Yun flies away", the sentence has the words "Xiang" and "Yun" embedded in it. "If you want to be clean, you will never be clean. The clouds may not be empty. The poor gold and jade will eventually sink into the mud." Clean refers to both cleanliness and the purity mentioned in Buddhism. Buddhism preaches that the real world is filthy, and only the Buddhist country can be considered a "pure land", so Buddhism is also called Pure Religion. Miaoyu has a "cleanliness habit" and is in Buddhism, so it is said that she "desires to be clean". "The quality of gold and jade" means that Miaoyu has "extraordinary birth and noble nature", but "ends up in mud". "All birds come from the end of the world, and they all know how to admire this talented person. One from two, three people are dead, and they are even more sad when they cry to Jinling." "Fanniao" is combined to form the word "phoenix". This "judgment" implies Wang Xifeng's ending. According to Zhipi, the Jia Mansion was "defeated" and Wang Xifeng fell into the "Prison Temple" and died shortly afterwards. "If the situation is defeated, leave Yungui. If the family is destroyed, don't talk about relatives. Occasionally, because of the help of the Liu family, I met a benefactor by chance." The first two sentences of "Judgment" state that after the Jia family was defeated, Qiaojie was sold by the "ruthless uncle and traitorous brother". The last two sentences write that Qiaojie's mother, Wang Xifeng, once rescued Grandma Liu, and was finally rescued by Grandma Liu. "The spring breeze of peaches and plums has finished bearing fruit, and in the end they are like a pot of orchids. They are jealous of each other like ice water, and it is useless to make jokes for others." "Li" and "Wan" in the first sentence contain the two characters "Li Wan". The character "LAN" in the second sentence refers to Jia Lan, the son of Li Wan. "Love in the sky, love in the sea, and love in the body are imaginary. When love meets, it will lead to adultery. Rumors and unfaithful words will all come out. It is peaceful to start a fight." According to Zhibiao, the thirteenth chapter of the novel was originally "Qin Keqing's obscene mourning in Tianxiang Tower". The verdict was that Qin Keqing had committed adultery with her father-in-law Jia Zhen, and that their immoral and despicable conduct began in Ningguo Mansion. It can be seen from the above that the "Twelve Beauties of Jinling" in "A Dream of Red Mansions" are Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai, Jia Yuanchun, Jia Tanchun, Shi Xiangyun, Miaoyu, Jia Yingchun, Jia Xichun, Wang Xifeng, Jia Qiaojie, Li Wan and Qin Keqing.

3. Lessons from Xiaogang Village

In 1978, 18 households of farmers in Xiaogang Village, Fengyang, Anhui Province risked being sentenced as "current counterrevolutionaries" and started a "big contract" "The next year, he turned over and paid public grain to the state and repaid the loan for the first time. More than 20 years have passed. Is Xiaogang Village still so shining? Yan Junchang, the leader of the large-scale contract management system at that time, said to reporters with infinite emotion: "We have crossed the line of food and clothing in one step, and we have not entered the door of wealth for 25 years!" Why was Xiaogang Village blocked from the door of wealth? We can tell one thing or two from the reports. The above is how it helped Xiaogang Village: the provincial finance allocated 2 million yuan in special funds to build 8 kilometers of asphalt roads for Xiaogang Village to facilitate inspections by leaders; an archway was built at the head of the village to show its magnificence; the county specially arranged it for Xiaogang Village He also built an exhibition room and wrote the narration on his behalf; he also built a very neat courtyard wall at the west end of the village, covering up some tatters so as not to affect the view... But only the provincial plan to help Xiaogang Village develop its economy, But no one urged the implementation, and it became an empty document! Over the past 20 years, it should be said that the higher authorities have been busy with Xiaogang Village, but they have been busy "packaging" Xiaogang Village as a model to increase the "bright spots" of "political achievements", and have not focused on developing the economy. As a result, the people of Xiaogang were blocked by the "archway", "exhibition room", and "courtyard wall". They could neither see the serious problems in their own development nor the wider world outside. They were intoxicated all day long in the "current world". "What a model", "Welcome to visit"...with satisfaction. The spirit of reform has been weakened by "packaging", and the spirit of self-improvement has been weakened by "packaging". Even today, some villagers asked reporters: "Since Xiaogang has contributed so much, why doesn't the country entrust us with a hand? If Xiaogang goes up, everyone will lose face." The talents are all good-looking!" Obviously, Xiaogang Village suffered a big loss from being a show-off, and it was through deception that it kept them out of the gate of wealth. This lesson is particularly worthy of our careful study this year when implementing the "No. 1 Document".

4. Reasons

Everything has a reason. You eat because you are hungry, you sleep because you are sleepy, and you ride in a car because you are afraid of walking. Some things become habits and do not seem to require a reason. In fact, the reasons are hidden, but we are not very aware of them. When we walk into offices, large or small, the first words we encounter are always "Who are we looking for?" Then we have to fill out a list of who to look for. It seems that having an acquaintance and looking for an acquaintance is a valid reason for people to go to such a place. It has been a natural and natural thing for people to do for many years. Therefore, familiar people coming and going have become the most undesirable and unique scenery of public institutions. We usually take a bus, but the car breaks down halfway. When does the driver and conductor announce the reason for not being as proud as an ox? Out of gas! No water! Something went wrong! Get off the bus! I never dare to expect to hear an apology, but I also think that even if you don't admit your fault, you don't have to make the passengers look dejected, as if the bus is not leaving because the passengers did not choose an auspicious day to go out. When we usually do things, our superiors have regulations, leaders have instructions, and there are internal documents. This is not under my control. If the head is not here, I don’t know. You can find other departments. All the reasons for rejection sound the same at first glance. , but further, or looking for the ultimate reason, none of them can be called a reason! For example, where are your so-called regulations, instructions, and documents? What legal procedures have been followed? Who gave you the power? Do you have such permission? For example, who is in charge and whether the head is there or not is your own business! What does it have to do with me? I am facing your department! For example, if you don’t know, it’s your dereliction of duty and you should take the blame and resign. Why do you have the nerve to say it! A few days ago, I heard such a conversation, which made me laugh. "Your application was not approved." "Why?" "There are regulations." "Where are the regulations?" "I can't show you!" "Is this an office?" "Yes." "Can you introduce the situation?" No." "Why?" "I just walked in.

"Can you do it later?" "No." ""Why? "I just transferred here." ”

5. What is “Bluetooth”

Extraordinary happiness makes us love the world, and great sorrow makes us understand the world. ——German sociologist Nelborn on happiness With the tragic understanding that a house and wealth are inherited from the father, a loving wife is a gift from God - an American motto that reminds all men that they should cherish their most precious gifts, life's tragedy. It’s about a person losing, but it’s about him almost winning. ——Haywood Brown’s first sentence is more for students who are about to go to work. It’s a big truth: Society and school are very different. In one sentence, I say to every student, "Be safe and keep oneself" is not a derogatory term, not even a neutral word. "Being safe" is not easy, and in this era, "keeping oneself" is even more difficult. ——Speech at the 2003 Undergraduate Graduation Ceremony of Peking University Law School Is "New Structuralism" a cultural trend or a real estate? What is "Bluetooth"? What is "Nano"? What is beauty? ——A middle school teacher talks about the new confusion of new terms: Almost all products are covered with concepts, what else can be understood at a glance?

6. The cost of communication?

Some time ago, my wife suddenly discovered that the cost of communication at home was very heavy. The total mobile phone bill for the two of them was more than 300 yuan, the phone bill was more than 50 yuan, and the broadband fee was 68 yuan. We seem to have received nothing from the various "communication fees". To give an example, on February 29, my wife listed the phone calls she received during the day, and one of them was from her mother, asking if she was at work. It was her sister who called her and asked her if she was going to go home together after not seeing her for so many days. There was also a wrong call. My wife said that her phone bill was 11 yuan, but she didn't get anything. After calculation, I suddenly felt that this world is really absurd. Everyone spends a lot of money communicating, but a lot of information is indeed redundant. We have not gained anything from it, but have lost a lot of precious time. There is a monthly mobile phone bill promotion plan, where 500 yuan can be converted into 1,200 yuan. It is conceivable that when a person pays for his own mobile phone bill, he will do everything possible to make his mobile phone bill reach 1,200 yuan. The 1,200 yuan phone bill How much time can be said? How much energy does it take? If calculated, it is definitely a boring thing. The biggest fallacy of modern people is that the more communication, the better. , but often ignore what they have lost.

7. A camphor box

This is a true story about integrity that happened in the suburbs of a city in central Liaoning. There is a camphor wood box at home, and my mother often nags her in front of her two children. It is grandma’s dowry. When you get married in the future, this family heirloom will be used as your dowry, her mother said to her sister. The whole family knows this saying. Deep in my sister's heart, the camphor wood box has already taken root deeply. Time flies, and it's really time for my sister to talk about marriage. While preparations for the wedding were in full swing, a friend also introduced his brother to a girlfriend. When my girlfriend came to the house for the first time, she looked at the camphor wood box and inadvertently told her brother that this camphor wood box was really well made. The mother was afraid that she would offend her son's girlfriend over a camphor wood box, so she changed her mind and forgot that she had made many wishes to her daughter. On the day of her sister's wedding, even though it was the happiest day of her life, it did not stop her from crying to her husband. Unable to bear it, the husband finally went to his mother-in-law's home after a long drinking day and beat his brother-in-law until his mouth and nose bleed... After hearing this, several friends of his brother were indignant. They beat my brother-in-law until he lay on the ground with blood on his face. He was carried to the hospital. The doctor said that he needed to undergo an eyeball removal operation. The poor brother-in-law became one-eyed blind. At this time, my sister told everyone she met that it was me who asked my husband to beg for the camphor wood box, and that I wanted to live with my one-eyed husband for the rest of my life. The younger brother was just a thug, and his mother ordered him to beat his husband. She also said that she did not want any medical compensation, but that she would send the younger brother who hit him to jail. This domestic injury case caused by a camphor wood box is actually also about integrity. There must also be integrity between relatives, even between mother and daughter. This is a very unique case, and it’s hard to explain in words.

8. The Philosophy of "Less"

As early as 1583, Pallassas, a pharmacologist and scholar, said an extremely pertinent and wonderful saying: " Only the dose determines whether something is poisonous or not.” This statement remains relevant to this day. Regardless of the Chinese folk saying that "medicine is three parts poison", food is something that people generally cannot leave without for a moment, and it is not "Han Xin's order, the more the better". Too much food may also cause side effects and poisoning. As the saying goes, too much is never enough. Recently, an expert group from the United States and the United Kingdom pointed out through inspection and comparative research that China’s chemotherapy drugs for liver cancer not only have many varieties but also have large doses, which are half more than those generally used in the United States and the United Kingdom.

As a result, the mortality rate of liver cancer patients is not only higher than that in foreign countries, but even if effective treatment can be achieved, the patient's survival period is only one or two or three years. In contrast, the cure rate of liver cancer patients in foreign countries is not only higher than that in China liver cancer patients, and their average survival time is twice as long as that of Chinese liver cancer patients, at least five or six years. Why are there such disparate results? The principle is very simple. Liver cancer has greatly damaged the function of the liver. If the patient is given large doses of drugs or multiple drugs at this time, the burden on the liver will be even heavier. Therefore, many liver cancer patients do not die from cancer, but from drug poisoning. Although the doctor's medication was well-intentioned, the results were counterproductive. Small, but effective, is not only a method of medication, but also a simple truth that life has long illustrated. Simple and practical is much better than cumbersome philosophy.

9. The king who loved to play chess

There was a king who loved to play chess. He often played against ministers and chess masters. For several years, the king has been a winner every time he plays chess, and everyone praises him as the unique chess master in the world. One day, the king paid a private visit incognito. He came to a hotel in Beijing, where a teenage girl was playing chess with a young man. The little girl killed the young man to pieces. The king sat down to play chess with the little girl. After a while, he lost his army and became the defeated general of the little girl. The king refused to admit defeat and played another game with the little girl, but the result was the same disastrous defeat. The king was convinced. The little girl smiled and said, "My father is the master. He was once selected into the palace to play chess with the king, but he lost to the king." The king said, "Why did he lose to the king?" The little girl laughed. : "My father said that if the king is happy, the country will be peaceful and the people are at peace. He deliberately lost to the king." The king returned to the palace and reflected behind closed doors. He thought: The peaceful and prosperous era is actually not my personal credit, there are all kinds of other things. People have to make concessions or help me in different ways. Yes, for the prosperity and success of all walks of life, how important is the tacit understanding and interaction between the top and bottom.

10. The power of suggestion

One evening many years ago, a young immigrant named Henry stood by the river in a daze. Today is his 30th birthday, but he doesn't know if he still has the need to live. Because Henry grew up in an orphanage, he was short, not pretty, and spoke with a strong French country accent, so he always looked down on himself and did not even dare to apply for the most ordinary jobs. Without a job, he would No home. Just when Henry was wandering between life and death, his good friend John ran over to him excitedly and said, "Henry, let me tell you good news." I just heard a piece of news from the radio that Napoleon once lost a grandson. The appearance and features described by the announcer are exactly the same as yours." "Is it true? I am the grandson of Napoleon." Henry suddenly became energetic. Thinking of his grandfather who once commanded thousands of troops with his short stature, carrying a The earthy and fragrant French issued a majestic command, and he suddenly felt that his short stature was equally powerful, and the French accent when he spoke also had a bit of nobility and majesty. Early the next morning, Henry came to a big house with confidence. The company applied for a job. 20 years later, Henry, who had become the president of this large company, found out that he was not Napoleon's grandson, but this was no longer important.