First, the word "marriage" between husband and wife is not familiar to modern people. However, the "toast" between the bride and groom is very familiar to everyone who has been married or attended the wedding. "Marriage" refers to the newlyweds drinking acacia wine in the bridal chamber. It means floating. Cut a melon into two spoonfuls, and the bride and groom each take a spoonful to drink. It's called marriage. Marriage began in the Zhou Dynasty, and has been used in later generations, but it is a bitter and inedible thing. Filling wine must be bitter wine. Therefore, the drinking of husband and wife not only symbolizes that husband and wife are a family and grow old together, but also contains the profound meaning of letting the bride and groom share joys and sorrows. As the Book of Rites said, "So, we should unite, respect each other and kiss each other." After the Song Dynasty, the ceremony of tying the knot evolved into a toast for the newlyweds. "Tokyo Dream Record Marries a Woman" records: The couple "tied together with two colored knots, drank one and called a cup. After drinking, throw a lamp and put it under the bed. When the lights are turned up and turned off, everyone will celebrate and then cover the bill. " The symbolic meaning of this ceremony is meaningful. Connect two wine glasses with colored silk or colored paper. Men and women change their names and have a drink each, which symbolizes that husband and wife will become one from now on. Of course, in many cases, "only the bride is shy and refuses to get her hands on it." (Republic of China: Xie County Records) After drinking, throw the cup under the bed to see if it is harmonious. If the glass just closes obliquely, it symbolizes that men are inclined downward and women are inclined upward, making love happily and unstoppable. This harmony between yin and yang is obviously very successful. During the period of the Republic of China, Shanxi people got married and worshipped the heavens and the earth. "They were introduced into the bridal chamber, and their husbands were advanced. The bride stepped on the four corners of the bed, sat in the back corner of the bed and drank a glass of wine. This was the day of' marriage'. After marriage, there are still ceremonies such as worshipping ancestors and seeing brave aunts, probably the day after the wedding. " (Republic of China: "Fushan County Records") Nowadays, a cup of wine is indispensable for the wedding of rural youth in Shanxi, but the form is much simpler than that in ancient times. After men and women pour their own wine, they hook their arms and look at each other, and drink it off in warm and happy laughter, or in the bridal chamber, or in the hall, restaurant and restaurant where the wedding is held. According to folk tradition, drinking a glass of wine is held in the bridal chamber, so people always associate marriage with the bridal chamber. However, no matter how different the expression of this custom is, its meaning and mentality are the same, and the eternal and inseparable hint will have an impact on the long-term marriage life of newlyweds in the future. When people hold a wedding in a remote mountain village, no matter how hard the life of ordinary people is, we can see people's loyalty to love and yearning for a better life through the laughter filled with a glass of wine. According to the wedding custom, after drinking a glass of wine, a wedding ceremony is usually held. In ancient times, this knot was called a bun, which was made of the hair of newly married men and women. The newlyweds sit on the bed together, male left and female right. But this kind of gift is limited to the first marriage of the couple, and it is not necessary for those who remarry. People often say that married couples, that is, original couples, concubines and second wives, can't be regarded as married couples. In ancient marriage customs, knot has a very solemn meaning. Later, this custom gradually disappeared, but the term knot hair still exists. Married couples are respected by people, and married couples symbolize the beautiful meaning of never being separated. Just like drinking a glass of wine, they are still fully affirmed and praised by most people in rural areas. In the era when men can marry concubines and raise concubines, married women are particularly prominent. As a result, whether it is a new literati in Tian Shelang or a merchant landlord who has made a fortune, he should generally maintain a certain respect for married couples when climbing wealth, looking for flowers and finding concubines. Psychologically and emotionally, China people have been married for thousands of years, especially since ancient times. Because knot means "the first time". When men and women don't give and take, and people are close to the opposite sex, marriage means accepting the novelty of the opposite sex for the first time, showing a knowing smile for the first time, tasting the happiness of love for the first time, and forming their own family for the first time. So, in any case, this first time is precious and worth cherishing. Besides. There are also profound meanings such as solemnity, sacredness, providence and fate, which are recognized by the society. On this basis, both parties to the marriage have a sense of obligation and responsibility.

Second, the secret of the bridal chamber

The bridal chamber is the last procedure of the wedding, and it is also an indispensable part of any wedding. It is the climax of the wedding and the most lively and interesting program. On the wedding night, relatives and friends sit around the room and joke with the bride in various ways, which is called "disturbing the room". There are various ways to "pretend to be the bride", and there are similarities and differences in different places. To sum up, it can be divided into two kinds: literature and martial arts. Wennao often uses a more elegant way to let the bride tell riddles and couplets, let her tell her love experiences, and tell things about men and women who usually don't see each other. In Shanxi, the folk call it "Tell your son", which is full of fun, forcing the bride to make a fool of herself because she can't answer. "In the evening, busybodies are mostly composed of harmonic language, forcing the bride to sing it, which is called' noisy room'. It has intensified recently, and the celebration is still a joke, which is very rude. " (Republic of China: Yicheng County Records) Fighting is a rude way, not only swearing, but also touching the bride, which is quite practical. When making trouble in the bridal chamber, peers, younger generations, relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues all crowded into the bridal chamber and laughed and played, especially the groom's friends. They tried every means to make fun of the bride by performing in public. As the saying goes, "three days doesn't matter", except for parents. During this period, the casual relationship between people is allowed by etiquette and customs, and many taboos have been lifted, much like the carnival in western culture. Therefore, no matter how ridiculous and unacceptable, the bride must never turn her face. If the person who makes trouble in the bridal chamber is angry, it will be considered as the bride's willfulness, bad popularity and no better future. Making trouble in the bridal chamber is a way to congratulate the newlyweds. In folk customs, people think that foxes are always in the bridal chamber and ghosts worship them. In order to drive away the evil spirits and strengthen the yang of human potential, they made trouble in the bridal chamber, so there is a folk saying that "people are not haunted." Having a noisy room is also a functional test for newlyweds, including wit and patience. Originally, it was a "gateway test", but it often went too far among the people and became a vulgar custom. The custom of disturbing the bridal chamber has a long history. Hanshu records that "on the wedding night, there is no difference between men and women, only pride." (Hanshu Geography) The custom of disturbing the room may have originated from the "listening room". On the wedding night, relatives and friends eavesdrop on the words and deeds of the new wife outside the bridal chamber window. People are only interested in the relationship between men and women. From the perspective of sexual psychology, this kind of behavior seems to be "psychosexuality" in Freud's theory. Later it gradually evolved into a bridal chamber to tease the bride. This custom became popular in the Tang Dynasty. Not only the relatives of the man, but also the guests and friends have the right to tease the bride. Even an irrelevant stranger can stop, criticize, tease and tease. This custom has changed from individual behavior to collective behavior since ancient times. Looking at the custom of disturbing the bridal chamber, the psychological motivation that drives people to listen to disturbing the bridal chamber is complicated. First of all, this is an externalization and subconscious impulse of human sexual consciousness. People show some flirting with the opposite sex from playing with women and caressing women. After venting, they can overcome the psychology of envy and jealousy, so as to achieve a certain gender balance in the boundary of "subconscious". This attitude and behavior towards the opposite sex is strictly restricted at ordinary times, and making love in the bridal chamber just provides an opportunity. Secondly, the bridal chamber is the product of arranged marriage in traditional marriage. Because only after the wedding ceremony can the excited groom open the bride's red scarf. The husband and wife have never met, have no intersection, and have no emotional communication. It is obviously strange and embarrassing to fall in love at the first meeting. Therefore, the custom of having a bridal chamber can eliminate each other's distance and strangeness, coordinate each other's tension and harmonious feelings. There is no doubt that the trouble of the bridal chamber is a necessary preparation before the 100-meter race. Furthermore, under the prosperous psychological trend, most newly-married families have the dual psychology of not only bearing the troubles of relatives and friends, but also being willing to let them make trouble. Noisy rooms can familiarize relatives and friends of both sides, show that the family is full of guests and prosperous people, enhance communication and feelings between relatives and friends, and promote harmony between neighbors. Liveliness is the aesthetic ideal of China people's life, and disturbing the bridal chamber is the means to achieve this goal. Only when people are busy can an atmosphere of happiness and celebration be formed. Noisy is a scene of joy and a symbol of exultation and prosperity. Only when people are noisy, there will be a market for celebrations, extensive wealth and a prosperous population.