There is a custom in the rural areas of northern Shaanxi to "grab the handle" at the engagement party. As long as the woman's family has eaten the meal at the man's engagement party and received some real bride price money, it is considered as "grabbing the handle." You can let the man's family solemnly invite Mr. Dong Fengshui:' Set an auspicious day to get married'. At that time my husband and I stayed in the village until we went out to do business. Naturally, we should follow the articles of association left by our wise ancestors step by step.

So in 2000, my husband and I held a lively and unforgettable wedding in the village. ? In those years, most rural weddings in northern Shaanxi were held in the courtyard of their own caves. Relatives and friends nearby came to congratulate. Come to my mother-in-law's house during the day, return to my home at night, and stay with distant relatives for a few days. I clearly remember that a dozen people could be squeezed on the heatable adobe sleeping platform in a cave. (They are all relatives of their own) and then go home separately after the wedding ceremony.

My husband and I got married in January. Although the weather has warmed up a little, the really warm spring is far from arrival in this cold mountain village in northern Shaanxi. People are still three layers inside and three layers outside, tightly wrapped in thick cotton-padded jackets and trousers.

But I am very grateful to God for his great gift! Let Sun Gong take good care of me that day. In the blue sky, occasionally a few clouds as white as cotton float freely in the vast sky, and the golden sun beside us shows a sweet smile and sends us full blessings. Sprinkle golden light on the earth. The warmth shines on all the men, women and children gathered in Shangjiagou Village.

At the moment, on both sides of the path in Shangjiagou Village, there are crowds of wedding procession watching the fun and marrying their wives. The first line is the suona team, and the air is filled with songs (you want to hold my hand, alas, I want to kiss your mouth. ) The beautiful suona sound of love songs in northern Shaanxi. Next came the wedding procession and the farewell procession, as well as the yangko procession temporarily organized by the village and relatives. Those lovely villagers and warm-hearted husbands, relatives and friends squeezed my husband and me tightly in the middle of the crowd in their own homes, pushing my husband for a while and pushing me for a while.

In a flash, I was in the yangko team and found that my father-in-law especially liked yangko. Although illiterate, singing northern Shaanxi Yangko is a local first-class eloquence, and there is no need to make a draft. My father-in-law who likes to dance yangko since childhood is followed by my dear mother-in-law. Although she usually looks inarticulate, her reserved mother-in-law is all smiles, taking two steps forward and one step back, showing a figure of eight. More interestingly, my mother-in-law's face is painted with a layer of red ink, as if two red apples were embedded in her face full of hard wrinkles (this is the custom in northern Shaanxi, and the bride-in-law and daughter-in-law are happy). A group of people entered the courtyard of her mother-in-law's cave noisily.

At the moment when I welcomed my new wife into the cave, my mother-in-law brought me two red hair clips, which was very wonderful at that time. Explanation: a pair of red cards lead the way: it means that the two newcomers will live a rich life in the future and love each other. At that time, my mother-in-law and I were surrounded by busy people Just after I brought the hairpin, my mother-in-law's hand trembled slightly under tension and excitement. Then she slowly put her right hand into her pocket and took out what the Liu family thought was a' family heirloom' (several silver dollars) and handed it to my daughter-in-law. At that moment, I seemed to see from my mother-in-law's happy eyes that her heart was full of infinite trust and expectation for me, and the love she could give her son was now contained in her firm eyes. When I was young, I thought to myself, Wow! Mother-in-law's eyes are fierce! Haha, such a lively wedding, the happy life of two young people began!

With the changes of the times and the progress of society. Nowadays, most of the younger generation in the rural areas of northern Shaanxi have lived in big cities for a long time, and naturally they hold weddings in cities. However, many young people will return to their villages around the Spring Festival, gather friends and relatives in the courtyard of their caves, and hold a rural wedding of our own in the rural areas of northern Shaanxi. A new generation of rural weddings has increased, and many civilized, happy and fun games have been handed down from generation to generation.

Although these happy things have passed for many years, good memories will always be a happy and endless river, accompanying me through every ditch in my life. Moistening every living cell in my heart, let me take these happy things, always optimistic and open-minded, and firmly grasp the ship of my happy life in this ups and downs river!

Rural weddings in northern Shaanxi have been handed down from generation to generation, and later generations are still reluctant to throw them away, because they really contain a lot of great wisdom in life. It reflects the hard-working and simple villagers' beautiful yearning for a happy life in northern Shaanxi, and faces their own life path with an open-minded, optimistic and sunny attitude. And the wisdom crystallization of attaching importance to feelings and righteousness in dealing with people.