employ oneself in/engage in
In the past, engagement meant being suitable for the right person. Men and women are not dissatisfied, but are the words of the matchmaker and the orders of their parents. Usually the man will ask the matchmaker to find the right woman and ask her birthday. If the man is married, the bottle of the bill of lading belongs to the woman. Please come to my house to make an appointment. If the woman agrees, open a bottle to drink. If she didn't agree, she would not open the bottle and return the wine. In some places, if the woman agrees, she will be served a long noodle, otherwise she will not agree. Once you agree to get married, choose an auspicious day to get engaged. The engagement matchmaker leads the suitor and brings a dress or cloth, snacks or even a bottle of wine to the woman's house. The woman's family invited a close relative to warmly entertain her. After drinking a bottle of wine, she got engaged. When the man goes back, the woman's family fills the empty bottle with food and asks the man to take it back. Now it has gradually evolved into a lead-lead bridge through introductions. After men and women meet, get to know each other and have a heart-to-heart, an engagement ceremony will be held on the scheduled date. Commonly known as Titih, I still made up my mind.
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After the engagement, the man can go to the woman, and I will go to his house on holidays or at ordinary times. Bring a small gift every time you go. The bride price one year or several months before the wedding is commonly known as the man drinking to prepare clothes, gifts, wine, meat and so on. Please introduce someone to the woman's house. The woman can hold a banquet, which is bigger than when she is engaged. The bride price depends on the family situation of both parties Generally speaking, between 240 yuan in the 1980s and 1950s, it was 400- 1000 yuan in the 1970s, and now it has risen to 5,000-8,000 yuan, with cities higher than rural areas and rivers higher than mountainous areas.
marry
The two families got married according to the date chosen for their birthdays. The custom of men is to marry. A woman is often said to have married a girl. Her wedding day is called the congratulations of the makeup artist's family and friends, commonly known as adding boxes and giving more jewelry, clothes, utensils, money and so on.
It's relatively simple for women. Our family will hold a banquet to entertain the guests. Select some close relatives to accompany the girl to the man's house. They are called Xikeye girl's dowry, which varies from household to household. Generally, they are a pair of boxes, blankets, clothes, shoes and socks, toiletries and so on.
A pair of bowls, such as color TV, washing machine, combined cabinet, etc. , are indispensable for getting married after 80. This is called clothes and rice bowls, which means that when a wife goes to her in-laws, she will bring gifts to her in-laws, relatives, elders, brothers and sisters, mostly pillowcases, shoes and socks. This is given when meeting relatives at a wedding, and is often called bringing a gift.
On the wedding day, the man's family should prepare at least two sedan chairs and marry his wife according to the selected auspicious time. When you go to the woman's house, you should be grateful, that is, gifts and fabrics for her parents, as well as buns, meat recipes and wine. Today's folk music, Judas, Liancheng, Tong Yuan and other regions. When getting married, the woman's family asked the man to bring a girl as a gift to the family god.
There is a legend: it is said that the family god here is the horn god. If a girl doesn't offer a lamb when she gets married, the horn god will be unhappy and will ruin the smooth progress of the marriage.
In addition, the number of people who want to get married should be single, including a woman who asks grandma to get married. This person should choose a suitable animal, its parents, husband and
At the wedding, a man and a woman kowtowed three times, then the couple worshipped each other, and finally the guests. At this time, the host should say some auspicious words such as making money, respecting the old and loving the young, and having a baby early. Then, the newlyweds toast, kowtow and give gifts to their parents, relatives and elders. It's called a foster wedding, and some women marry him.
Make clothes, shoes and socks belts for the bride. At the wedding, his new son-in-law, the bride's sister-in-law or nephew give them to the bride to try on. At this time, the groom's American colleague tied the groom tightly with a belt and asked him to pay the delivery man. This is called payment. Then, the bride's hiker personally put the long noodles he took home into the pot, served the bride and groom two bowls, and let them sit together and eat.
After the wedding, people closed the door and the newlyweds entered the bridal chamber first, thinking that whoever entered the bridal chamber first would be the future owner. In the evening, the bridal chamber, commonly known as the bed, is very casual and open. No matter how old or young, there is a saying that a wife who has been married for three days is not too big or too young.
Three days and nine days
On the third day after the wedding, the parents or brothers and sisters of the bride's family come for dinner for three days, and bring lapels and sleeves when they come for wine. And let the bride show her hands in the kitchen. This is the so-called knife test, which is used to identify and evaluate the bride's tea and rice skills and whether she is agile and capable. On this day, the bride was ordered by the power ring to kowtow to Webster and burn incense, calling her husband back. After that, she can go out from now on. When you go home to your mother for the first time, go out as early as possible to avoid being seen by passers-by. Stay with your mother. You won't stay at your husband's house longer than you. This is our home. Within one month after marriage, the man will also bring a wine gift to thank the matchmaker. At this time, a complete wedding is over.