In the past, local wedding customs were very complicated. From "proposing marriage" to "returning to the door in three dynasties", there are generally seven kinds of ostentation and extravagance: 1, where the man proposes to the woman through the media; 2. The woman's parents asked someone to inquire about the man's family background and thought that the door was right, so they informed the man's daughter's birthday with a Geng post; 3. The man asked the fortune teller "He Xiao" to predict the auspicious day, and put the agreed engagement money and the groom's birthday card in a small box, together with the gift money, and the matchmaker took the bill to the woman's house. After the bride's family accepted the bride price, gift money and male Geng stickers, they put the female Geng stickers in the original box and brought them back with the clothes and happy fruits sent back by the matchmaker, commonly known as "betrothal; On the wedding day, both men and women held separate banquets to treat guests. The man sends a sedan chair to the woman's house, and the bride opens her face (also known as "opening her face", that is, twisting her hair off her face with thread), dresses up, says goodbye, and wears a red scarf to cover her face and get on the sedan chair; 6. When the car arrives at the man's house, the groom leaves and worships the sedan chair three times, that is, "worship the sedan chair god". "The bridesmaids helped the bride out and sang" Worship Heaven and Earth, Worship Ancestors, Worship Parents "in turn, and then the couple paid homage. After paying homage, the groom leads the bride into the new house; 7. On the third day, after meeting relatives in turn, the woman came to take the bride back to her mother's house and said that the new "three dynasties returned to the door". At this point, the ancient wedding etiquette came to an end.
Weddings in poor families are similar, limited to conditions, ceremonies and banquets are very simple.
After liberation, the old marriage customs were gradually abolished and developed in a civilized and simple direction. Group weddings, wedding tea parties and travel weddings are gradually increasing; Most young people choose to hold a banquet in our house when they get married. But some will be extravagant, and some will ask for high dowry.
grow
Before a woman gives birth to her first child, her mother's family will give her husband's family baby clothes, zongzi and red eggs, commonly known as "giving birth to a child". When the baby is full moon, it is necessary to shave the fetal hair, commonly known as "shaving the full moon head". On this day, friends and relatives are invited to a banquet, which is called "full moon wine". Before the full moon, you should "sit on the moon" and your mother can't leave the house until after the full moon. Now, make the full moon easy. When the baby is born, the elders will give clothes and toys to show their love.
Shouqing
Excessive consumption generally begins at the age of 50, and people celebrate their birthdays every ten days (some celebrate their birthdays every Monday, that is, birthdays of 565,438+0,665,438+0,765,438+0, etc. ). Rich people celebrate their birthdays, decorate them with lanterns, hang birthday stars, birthday gifts and birthday couplets, and relatives give birthday gifts and hold birthday parties according to their relatives' seniority. Small civilian families celebrate their birthdays, and relatives and friends get together to drink to congratulate them.
After liberation, birthday celebrations were greatly reduced. Even if someone has a birthday, his birthday equipment is very simple. Generally, the younger generation buys some egg cakes, noodles and vegetables to have a meal together to show their respect. Take a photo of "family happiness" (some are called "family portrait") as a discipline belief.
funeral
In the past, the local funeral customs were as follows: 1. When the patient dies, his family members attend the funeral; 2. After death, people will get a haircut (or comb their hair) and change clothes, send people or send telegrams to inform relatives and friends of their death, ask monks to "fast" and let their families wear hemp to show their condolences. Afterwards, the relatives held the head and feet of the deceased and put the body into the coffin; 3. burial; 4. From the seventh day to the forty-ninth day after death, there is a sacrifice every seven days, commonly known as "doing seven"; Sacrifice the grave for a hundred days after death; There will be sacrifices on the anniversary, called "anniversary" or "undressing".
Since the 1960s, mourning has been replaced by memorial service. Change the spirit tablet into a portrait; Use wreath scrolls instead of burning incense; Wear black tulle and white flowers instead of Pima Dai Xiao. Although cremation is advocated now, for various reasons, most people still adopt burial. Superstition in funeral activities has been abolished.
building contruction
In the past, there were many superstitious activities and customs in building houses, such as watching "Feng Shui" and choosing a base site; Do work; When passing the door, press green, press profit, stick auspicious couplets and shoot; Shangliang fete "Shangliang wine"; When you move into the recycling house, you must make a new house wine.
After liberation, superstitious activities in the process of building houses were gradually abolished.