What is certain is that having a second child will bring great pressure to parents at this stage. If parents don't have enough financial ability to give their children a good life, it is also irresponsible to their children.
Is having a second child a new "poor disease"?
Sydney was born in a second-child family. She once thought more than once that if there was no second child policy, she wouldn't have another brother, which would be great.
Sydney's parents both work in the city. They don't earn much money every month, but the life of a family of three is quite satisfactory. However, the birth of the younger brother increased the daily expenses of the family and made life difficult.
Parents love their brother more than Betty. My brother eats everything delicious at home, and Betty eats it after eating. Although Sydney will resent her parents' disappointment, she still endures it silently.
After Sydney graduated, she found a good job. She keeps a small part of her monthly salary as living expenses and sends the rest to her parents. In fact, Sydney knew that the money would basically be given to her brother by her parents.
Under the doting of his parents, his younger brother became lazy and would reach out to his parents for money as long as he had no money. Later, my brother was getting married, and my parents were going to sell the house and buy a new house for my brother.
Sydney, who is dissatisfied with her parents, is even more angry. He believes that parents have to have a second child, which makes their family poorer and poorer.
In fact, many families now have many contradictions because of the second child. More and more people are beginning to question that having a second child is a new type of' poor disease'.
This statement is actually a bit extreme. It is every family's choice whether to have a second child or not. People with financial ability will naturally not get' poor disease' because of the second child, while those who know their limited ability will have a second child, which makes their lives poorer and poorer.
The longer the days go by, the more contradictions there will be at home.
After 20 years, families with a second child may face three contradictions: 1? The contradiction between brothers and sisters
Not every child yearns for a younger brother or sister. They don't want others to share their parents' love with them, but want to have all their parents' love. In addition, some parents can't even put down a bowl of water, which will inevitably lead to conflicts between their children and even disgust each other's arrival, so the two children can't live in peace.
2、? Contradiction between the concept of parenting between the elderly and adults
Many people say that old people and young parents have completely different parenting concepts. When raising children, there have been many quarrels to take care of them. If another child is added to the family, there will only be more and more parenting conflicts, and the relationship between the elderly and their parents will get worse and worse, which is not conducive to the growth of children.
3、? The contradiction of providing for the aged by oneself in the future
When children grow up, they will have their own families. They should not only take care of their families, but also face the problem of supporting their parents. Who will take care of the elderly at this time? How each child should donate money has become a controversial issue for them.
Once parents can't reach a consensus on the issue of providing for the elderly, children will quarrel over the support of the elderly, which will lead to many inevitable contradictions. In order to avoid responsibility, some children even leave the obligation to take care of the elderly to their brothers. This kind of ending must not be what every parent wants to see.
With more family members, contradictions are inevitable, but children will bring many happy moments to a family. Instead of focusing on whether raising children will make you poor, it is better to think more about how to balance the relationship between the second children and how to provide the same living treatment for the two children. This is what parents should pay attention to.