Although my wife admits that she is wrong about her cousin's attitude, she also feels wronged. She said that her cousin had the family money. Although I have pocket money, my family is in the country and sometimes I want to send some money to my family, but my cousin is not happy. In order to be filial, she had to secretly save some money and send it home.
My cousin agrees with my wife. But he still thinks his wife can't hide anything from him. This is a discovery. If it is not found, how much will it be hidden in the future?
In fact, my cousin's problems may have appeared in many families.
"Private money" seems like a trivial matter in marriage, but if it is not handled well, it will become a major event that hurts marriage.
So married, should women save money? I have also done some research on this issue on the Internet. See what netizens say.
Light another cigarette. Male 36-year-old corporate propagandist.
I don't think so. Since we are husband and wife, mutual trust and respect are the basic conditions for maintaining marriage. The expenditure of husband and wife's money should not be as transparent as that of companies and units. At least what are they used for? They have to let each other know. It's not that who cares about who, it's a kind of trust and responsibility between husband and wife. If everyone is selfish and saves money, the family will be chaotic and the relationship between husband and wife will be affected.
Flying fish girl 30-year-old media practitioner
I have my own private money, but it is more accurate to say that it is a small vault. But I didn't steal it. My husband knows all the money. There are red envelopes that my husband usually gives me, such as birthdays, Goddess's Day and so on. , and the fee I get from amateur contributions. These are not my family's financial budget, but my own money, and my husband has no opinion.
I save this money for my own use, and I will give it to my husband when he needs it. I think it's good. Women may spend more than men. If they don't save some money, they have to ask their husbands for money or ask them for instructions. This is not good either. Women have no economic freedom and are prone to family conflicts.
Haiyun Gong Yunan, 40 years old, is a freelancer.
If my wife saves money, I may be unhappy. Now that you are husband and wife, you should think of this family wholeheartedly. If we get married, we should be vigilant and selfish. How do you live this life? Women can't hide private money because they are afraid of divorce in the future, so aren't men afraid?
Besides, why do women always want to get divorced in the future? I'm afraid of the bride price before marriage. I'm afraid of buying a house and writing my name. I'm afraid of this and that, too. Then why get married? This in itself is to distrust men first. Not only do I not like women hiding private money, but I won't be happy when my wife does other things behind my back. I won't hide my private money either. I will tell her how much money I have. Husband and wife should trust and understand each other.
Shanghainese are selling real estate for a 29-year-old northwest girl.
You must save it. These days, no one dares to say that they can be with their other half for life. How high is the divorce rate now. As a woman, if you don't leave yourself a way out, how miserable it will be if you get divorced one day. Besides, men now save a lot of private money. In principle, don't make mistakes. I think it's no big deal to save a little money at ordinary times. There is no need to rise to the level of trust between husband and wife. Women do this to gain a sense of security.
From the comments of netizens, it can be seen that most men oppose whether women should save private money from their own perspective. This result is not surprising, because no man will mind his wife hiding something from him, especially on the two major issues of money and feelings.
I remember an emotional analyst once said that mutual trust and loyalty are the responsibilities and obligations of husband and wife, and also the necessary conditions for establishing a good relationship between husband and wife. Without trust, the marriage framework will lose its support and will collapse sooner or later.
In his view, there should be no "private money" in a good marriage relationship. If a good relationship of trust is established between husband and wife, and a set of financial management plans approved by both parties can ensure the balance of interests of both parties and even their families, there will be no problem of "private money".
Therefore, in marriage, both men and women should not think about saving private money, but often think about how to create a benign marriage development relationship with their partners and establish a good community of interests between husband and wife, thus strengthening the stability and durability of marriage. After all, marriage is managed by both parties, not by mutual calculation.