The house at home is three bedrooms, which is big enough. Before getting married, my son vowed that he would not start a new stove and would definitely marry his daughter-in-law. But when it came time to get married, I faltered and said that I wanted to buy a new house outside and live alone. Although a little reluctant, my wife and I are not conservative and let them live alone. During the period when my son just got married, although he didn't live together, his son and daughter-in-law still went home for dinner every day and returned to their small home after dinner. Daughter-in-law is an elf girl with a sweet mouth. No matter what I cook, she will boast and say, "Mom's cooking is really delicious. I haven't cooked much since I was a child, and I can't cook such delicious dishes! " My daughter-in-law's sugar-coated cannonball makes me unable to find the north. I am willing to work alone in the kitchen. The kitchen window faces the balcony, and my wife probably didn't notice it. One day when I was cooking in the kitchen, she made a phone call on the balcony and a few words floated into my ear: "Come and rub rice with my mother-in-law. Cooking by yourself, busy and tired, and cleaning up the kitchen after eating. What trouble! " Come here to eat, do nothing, just wait for dinner ... "I can't help but stop what I'm doing-how embarrassing does it sound? How dare my mother-in-law be a free cook? But it's not convenient to dispute with her. However, we can't let her be smart and continue to be "lazy"! From that day on, when I was cooking, I would raise my voice and shout, "Daughter-in-law, didn't you say you would learn to cook sweet and sour pork ribs?" "Come and help me, see how I do it, and try next time!" In fact, I know that she usually says she wants to learn to cook, but it's just a show, which is not true. However, since she said so, I'll drag her into it. Next time, I can let her cook by herself. Before she washed the dishes after dinner, I always politely said to her, "No, no, I'll do it myself." Now, as soon as she opens her mouth, I'm rude: "Well, I'm tired of cooking, so you wash the dishes!" " "I won't treat her as a guest again. I'll try to get her to do some housework-not that I'm too busy, but that I don't want her to get into the habit of "living on her laurels". After several times, my daughter-in-law probably knew that "there is no such thing as a free meal", and she couldn't just eat and do nothing when she came, so she slowly began to buy food and learn to cook by herself. This "contradiction" was handled tactfully, and no one was hurt. The family still live in harmony. I think my son and wife may not realize that our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have met secretly. One day, my son and daughter-in-law suddenly offered to move in. I wondered to myself, "You are living well outside, why do you suddenly want to move back?" The son scratched his head embarrassedly and didn't know how to speak, or the daughter-in-law was clever and put it beautifully: "I didn't know anything before, only the world of two people." Now that we are going to be parents ourselves, we can understand how difficult it is to be parents! "I just want to come back and spend more time with my parents!" A word woke the dreamer, and I looked at my daughter-in-law's big belly and couldn't help laughing-my daughter-in-law will be born in a few days. If she doesn't move in, how will my stupid son and I take care of her when she is confined? I said, "Well, you can move in! Sitting on the moon is also convenient to take care of! " When I said this, my daughter-in-law knew that I could read her mind, so she blushed and said, "Thank you, Mom!" " "I think her' thank you' should be sincere. When my daughter-in-law is in confinement, I take care of her like my own daughter and cook good food for her three times a day. Because women who are confinement should avoid cold water, I washed not only the baby's diapers, but also the daughter-in-law's inner and outer clothes. Although the daughter-in-law is clever, she is not an ungrateful person. She should appreciate everything I have done and know to give me some psychological comfort at the right time. When she holds the child in her arms, she always says to the child, "Look, grandma has done so much for you. Be filial to grandma when you grow up! "My daughter-in-law just confinement, and a little lazy. She refused to do anything except breast-feeding, such as bathing the child and changing diapers. She always said, "I won't, I'm afraid I'll hurt my child with my thumb!" " At this time, I will firmly say, "You can't. I can teach you until you learn. "Probably because of my determination, my daughter-in-law only learned to bathe, dress and change diapers at first, just like learning to cook. Learn how to judge whether a child's crying is hungry or uncomfortable; Learn to see if the baby's poop is normal ... I am relieved to see that she has finally become a decent mother. When my daughter-in-law went back to work after maternity leave, I offered to help her take care of the children. But at night, she is responsible for herself. It's not that I don't want to help. I just don't want her to take advantage of my love for my grandson and put all the responsibility on me. Whether you are helping or forbearing, you need to have a degree. Blindly tolerance will spoil each other; Of course, we can't just attack and defend, we just want to get the upper hand. This will push the other party into a hurry, hurt the gas and only embarrass your son. This is probably the mother-in-law game to teach you to be a smart mother-in-law. 2. Help your daughter-in-law take care of the children during confinement. If the mother-in-law really wants to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law and has always been in harmony with her son's family, then she must help her daughter-in-law when she needs you most. Even if she says she doesn't need you, show concern and kindness to her daughter-in-law, who will naturally understand your mind. If the mother-in-law doesn't show up when the daughter-in-law needs her most, then you are an outsider in the daughter-in-law's heart, knowing only imaginary things, not real relatives. I won't be sincere to you in the future. Daughter-in-law is in confinement, and you didn't help her with the children. Later, when a daughter-in-law sees a child, she will think of her mother-in-law's indifference, which will increase contradictions in the long run. Do not consider the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When a daughter-in-law quarrels with her son, be considerate and comfort her. Some mother-in-law saw her daughter-in-law quarreling with her son, fearing that her son would suffer, and immediately defended her son, so that her mother-in-law would leave a bad impression on her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law would feel that she was an unnecessary person. In the future, both the mother-in-law relationship and the mother-in-law relationship will be greatly affected, and even more contradictions may be aroused. When a son quarrels with his daughter-in-law, as a mother-in-law, she should treat her daughter-in-law as a relative and comfort her like a mother, which is not only beneficial to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also to the relationship between husband and wife of her son. Some mothers-in-law don't understand the relationship in recent years and just want to protect their sons. Marriage pushes the daughter-in-law farther and farther, and it also destroys the husband-wife relationship of the son. In fact, as a mother-in-law, you should take the initiative to keep a proper distance from your daughter-in-law. It's okay to be nice to your son and daughter-in-law, but you need to pay attention to the scale when you do anything. If you get too close to your son and daughter-in-law, it will be very annoying. As a mother-in-law, you should learn to leave personal space for young people, otherwise young people will feel that their territory has been violated and will not appreciate you too much. Therefore, a mother-in-law should not only learn to care about her daughter-in-law but also learn to keep a certain distance from her daughter-in-law. Otherwise, if she works hard for her daughter-in-law, she may not appreciate it, and she will think you are too annoying. You know, there are two kinds of mother-in-law who especially don't like daughter-in-law. One is not to care about anything, and the other is to care about everything. When you become a mother-in-law, you should remember that it is too late and pay attention to your discretion. Your daughter-in-law will naturally appreciate your feelings, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be bad.